Cultural curiosity

oggbashan

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On the way home from meeting her aunts, my ten-month-old granddaughter visited her other grandparents at the weekend. They weren't at home because they were at the Karoake evening in their local large pub.

My daughter and son-in-law were dubious about going there to meet them because no children are allowed in the pub after 9pm. However the granddaughter liked the doorman. He was the first black man she had seen except at a distance. She was fascinated with his skin tones especially on his hands and held her arms out to be carried by him. He did. Right into the pub.

She bounced to the karaoke and seemed to enjoy it. She was passed around the pub for people to cuddle and giggled most of the time. However she made it clear that the doorman was her preferred person, except of course for her Mum.

My youngest daughter and her husband had just returned from a trip to rural India to attend the full scale wedding of one of their friends. My daughter and son-in-law had to dress in formal Indian attire. Her sari was inexpertly worn so a gaggle of aunts descended on her to show her exactly how her sari should be drapped. After hours/days of dancing and several changes of clothes, my daughter was still being helped with her draperies.

Two of the very young relatives couldn't keep away from her. Not only was she an unusual pallid pink colour but she had the shortest hair they had ever seen on an adult, male or female. Everywhere my daughter went she had two attendants who were delighted to find at the dress adjustments that she was the same interesting colour all over. The adults were less obviously interested but several times she was asked why she had such short hair. She doesn't think that they believed the explanation that short hair is better under a surgeon's cap and doesn't get in her way when she plays football.

My granddaughter likes stroking her aunt's short hair. She strokes it as she does the cats' fur. Her other aunt, mum and grandmother have their hair pulled. Sometimes she even has the temerity to pull granddad Og's beard.

Og
 
Children are wonderful - I love their innocent curiosity and lack of embarrassment :)

This is one of my favourite pics of the nevvy - being held by his Godfather...
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One of the reasons why "it's rude to stare" is completely inapplicable to children.

Let them stare, it's how they learn.

Lived with that for a looooong time told to fascinated children by their mothers.
 
The temerity to pull King Og's beard?!

We shall be watching her career with great interest. ;)

I recall my mother's friend, had lived for some time in Japan decades ago, saying that it was partly amusing and partly frustrating to move through crowds there. Her chocolate-brown skin stood out enough as it was, but her hair, which she wore in an Afro, was evidently too much of a temptation to resist. Quite often when she stopped, someone would come up and start touching her hair - grown adults as well as children. She was torn between annoyance at the presumption and humor at the amazement she created.
 
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Kids are awesome if you're comfortable with them. I love the way they just ask things like, "Are you that color all over?" and "How come you're in a wheelchair?" I've done that myself if I'm in a position to spend some time with them, for a variety of conditions (not color). And sometimes, with a paraplegic from a dumb ass neck injury (e.g., drinking then diving into shallow water), I'll end up with, "That sucks, want a beer?"

My experience has been if you don't ignore physical problems and ask, people are cool getting it out of the way and moving on to being treated like anybody else. Same goes for cultural differences, I think. Over the years, with friends from different cultures, races, sexual orientations - well, we're respectful, but teasing. Friendship and trust is the base, but we don't artificially ignore the differences - and we learn.
 
My family is really the poster child for multiculturalism. We like it that way. :)
 
I get a small thrill being outside my culture. Having groups of different ethnicities as freinds, I've had chances to eat food you can't pronounce and you never ask what its made of, to listen to songs so beautiful I've cried. Couldn't understand a word but the motions, the facial expressions, the music of the song was so stirring. They've all graciously taught a few words in each of their languages so I can say "hello", "thank you" and "where's the bathroom?" in Russian, Spanish, Portuguese, Japanese and Swahili.

Its amazing what you find when you hang around people who are not like yourself.
 
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