Cuddling

[snoozebutton]

Ok strange as it may sound I have found since I have been a Dom I enjoy cuddling. I was always a My side your side of bed before. Laying her head on my chest and just stroking her hair brings such a warm calming feeling to me. I've always been into eye contact but never knew the joy this simple transfer gives me.

 

[Goddess Helena]

snoozebutton, you're not alone.
I enjoy having that calm closeness with my boy.


Helena

 

[artful]

An Opinion

Ok strange as it may sound I have found since I have been a Dom I enjoy cuddling. I was always a My side your side of bed before. Laying her head on my chest and just stroking her hair brings such a warm calming feeling to me. I've always been into eye contact but never knew the joy this simple transfer gives me.

I think where this act of 'touching' becomes a *joy*, (not just a touchie feelie thingie). Is when two people have bonded together in a way that is UNIQUE into itself.

It might be a short term, (one time experience), or one that is participated in, at set times, (possibly extending to a ritual).

 

[MissTaken]

Hey snooze!

I am so pleased to see you here.

(Snooze and I have shared some posts on another forum, once in a while over the past few months.)

And cuddling...

I need it and love it.

My SO loves it too.

So it works.

 

[Desdemona]

Cuddling is extremely important to me. I don't think you are alone at all in this. It was one of the first topics Sackman brought up in our early discussions.

 

[Cirrus]

My Dom and I both love to cuddle, either before, after or on a day when we're not having sex. There's just something so comforting about it...

Whoever mentioned the UTIs on whatever thread that was should be shot. I got one. The first in years. Anyway, last night, while I was doubled over in pain, He came over, carried me to bed, gave me my pills, and then crawled under the covers with me and held me until I fell asleep. Yeah, I hurt. Like hell, as a matter of fact. But laying there in his arms, at least I wasn't hurting ALONE, and that made me feel so much better.

This last weekend, we were laying in bed, me studying and him reading. He put his book down to take a nap, and I eventually got lazy too, so I just put an arm around him and used his shoulder for a pillow and fell asleep myself. No better feeling than waking up with someone you love in your arms.

 

[snoozebutton]

Hey snooze!

I am so pleased to see you here.

(Snooze and I have shared some posts on another forum, once in a while over the past few months.)

And cuddling...

I need it and love it.

My SO loves it too.

So it works.

Yes, nice to see you as well I am trying to open up more lately. I find it helps to open up a little.

 

[snoozebutton]

Cuddling is extremely important to me. I don't think you are alone at all in this. It was one of the first topics Sackman brought up in our early discussions.

Yes I see that I'm not alone. I'm glad to see your not so elusive all the time. Good to know friends are nearby.

 

[Desdemona]

I'm here, SB.

 

[snoozebutton]

Re: An Opinion

I think where this act of 'touching' becomes a *joy*, (not just a touchie feelie thingie). Is when two people have bonded together in a way that is UNIQUE into itself.

It might be a short term, (one time experience), or one that is participated in, at set times, (possibly extending to a ritual).

I think your right but I know I would never ritualize it. I don't want to ever feel I forced being intimate.

 

[snoozebutton]

snoozebutton, you're not alone.
I enjoy having that calm closeness with my boy.


Helena

It is quite a feeling .

 

[snoozebutton]

My Dom and I both love to cuddle, either before, after or on a day when we're not having sex. There's just something so comforting about it...

Whoever mentioned the UTIs on whatever thread that was should be shot. I got one. The first in years. Anyway, last night, while I was doubled over in pain, He came over, carried me to bed, gave me my pills, and then crawled under the covers with me and held me until I fell asleep. Yeah, I hurt. Like hell, as a matter of fact. But laying there in his arms, at least I wasn't hurting ALONE, and that made me feel so much better.

This last weekend, we were laying in bed, me studying and him reading. He put his book down to take a nap, and I eventually got lazy too, so I just put an arm around him and used his shoulder for a pillow and fell asleep myself. No better feeling than waking up with someone you love in your arms.

Thank you for sharing a beautiful moment in your life. It's great to hear of just pure love it makes my spirits soar.

 

[Ghost's amaris]

I must say that until my Master and I got together i never overly coddled before and feel asleep in anyones arms. I have found that it is some of the most cherished times him and i have together.

To just be lieing down, sitting on a chair or in a restuarant next to each other holding each other talking stroking of the hair or of an arm. Just the wonderful touch of each other side by side.

Ghost's amaris

 

[Angelofsex]

Cuddling is so special after making love, or just anytime. To be in the person arms just laying there, never want it to end. I love it, just means so much to me to be held.

 

[snoozebutton]

I must say that until my Master and I got together i never overly coddled before and feel asleep in anyones arms. I have found that it is some of the most cherished times him and i have together.

To just be lieing down, sitting on a chair or in a restuarant next to each other holding each other talking stroking of the hair or of an arm. Just the wonderful touch of each other side by side.

Ghost's amaris

There is a definate feeling of electricity when the closeness is pure.

 

[snoozebutton]

Cuddling is so special after making love, or just anytime. To be in the person arms just laying there, never want it to end. I love it, just means so much to me to be held.

The warmth of an embrace travels further than skin deep.

 

[plzur her]

Electricity

The warmth of an embrace travels further than skin deep.

I agree with both of your comments. For a sub its a feeling of security.. for a dom... a warm kind of electricity.. very well put SB!

 

[snoozebutton]

Re: Electricity

I agree with both of your comments. For a sub its a feeling of security.. for a dom... a warm kind of electricity.. very well put SB!

So true.

 

[artful]

Re: An Opinion

I think where this act of 'touching' becomes a *joy*, (not just a touchie feelie thingie). Is when two people have bonded together in a way that is UNIQUE into itself.
It might be a short term, (one time experience), or one that is participated in, at set times, (possibly extending to a ritual).

To elaborate a bit more on my earier post. I am 59 years of age. I married my first sub,...we were together for twenty years. The subs I have had a relationship with, could easily be counted on one hand, (with fingers left over).

In a Family setting, (with two children), due to the hectic pace of, "getting ahead", and the duties and responsibilities of being very involved with outside, individual interests, we were a busy, busy couple.

My work often required 16 hour plus days, seven days a week, for months on end. Often I was not home, but our family still had routine, and set rules applied.

We both were pretty much liberal minded back then, and we allowed our children to stay up, till the 10:00 news came on. At 10:00 P.M.,...when I was home, the kids were kissed goodnight and sent to bed, the TV stayed on.

My wife would be zipping around the house, making her touch-ups, and applying her finishes to daily house cleaning. Somehow,...she was able to complete her chores just as the news signed off.

When the news was over,...she would grasp the remote, from where it was ALWAYS kept on our coffee table, *click* it off, replace it on the table, and "plop" in my lap, with a grateful *sigh* of relief.

We talked about our day, she asked her questions, we talked about the kids, I gave her answers, we talked about the neighbors, we laughed, we talked about bills and serious shit, she cried,...but through it all,...we "cuddled".

Looking back on it,...I recognise that it was INDEED,...a *ritual*, but it was a natural one. It was never forced.

Did it happen every night? Nope,...but it DID happen often, and often enough that I can see it more as a ritual than not.

(JMHO),...but it's mine,...and I own it.

 

[snoozebutton]

Re: Re: An Opinion

To elaborate a bit more on my earier post. I am 59 years of age. I married my first sub,...we were together for twenty years. The subs I have had a relationship with, could easily be counted on one hand, (with fingers left over).

In a Family setting, (with two children), due to the hectic pace of, "getting ahead", and the duties and responsibilities of being very involved with outside, individual interests, we were a busy, busy couple.

My work often required 16 hour plus days, seven days a week, for months on end. Often I was not home, but our family still had routine, and set rules applied.

We both were pretty much liberal minded back then, and we allowed our children to stay up, till the 10:00 news came on. At 10:00 P.M.,...when I was home, the kids were kissed goodnight and sent to bed, the TV stayed on.

My wife would be zipping around the house, making her touch-ups, and applying her finishes to daily house cleaning. Somehow,...she was able to complete her chores just as the news signed off.

When the news was over,...she would grasp the remote, from where it was ALWAYS kept on our coffee table, *click* it off, replace it on the table, and "plop" in my lap, with a grateful *sigh* of relief.

We talked about our day, she asked her questions, we talked about the kids, I gave her answers, we talked about the neighbors, we laughed, we talked about bills and serious shit, she cried,...but through it all,...we "cuddled".

Looking back on it,...I recognise that it was INDEED,...a *ritual*, but it was a natural one. It was never forced.

Did it happen every night? Nope,...but it DID happen often, and often enough that I can see it more as a ritual than not.

(JMHO),...but it's mine,...and I own it.

Sorry I misunderstood sounds like you made time for intimacy not made it a ritual .

 

[silken_mystery]

hmmm all this talk of cuddling is making me miss the act even more. I loved to cuddle next to my s/o it was just natural even in watching television I would rest my cheek against his thigh and just watch as he stroked my hair.

 

[Desdemona]

OK... I'm feeling lonesome now. Art, it sounds like you had a beautiful relationship. Dream is a lucky woman to have you now.

 

[Mr. Bootie]

Are you kidding me?? Who doesn't cuddle??

I think cuddling is important in any relationship. Sometimes it's not the sex that is important, but it's the intimacay. I do not always need sex. ( Shhhhh, Hush my mouth lol ) However, I do enjoy the cuddling. How romantic is it to just cuddle up with that special one while you are watching tv, or a movie. How relaxing it is to snuggle after you've had a passionate lovemaking session. Not to mention the TLC that comes after a nice session of "hard play". Cuddling can be a reward in itself.

Then there is the cuddling when you are cold. Can you think of a better way to warm yourself?? Cuddling is the way to go. Cuddling with a good friend is soothing. Cuddling with your lover is downright sensual and fun.

Now who wants to cuddle?? I could use some cuddling now.

Have fun, and enjoy.

kgboot
aka "Mr. Bootie"

 

[snoozebutton]

hmmm all this talk of cuddling is making me miss the act even more. I loved to cuddle next to my s/o it was just natural even in watching television I would rest my cheek against his thigh and just watch as he stroked my hair.

The simple pleasures carry the most weight.

 

[silken_mystery]

The simple pleasures carry the most weight.

so very true SB