cuckold

[Mike260]

I have a terrific desire for my wife to cheat on me. She knows this. In an erotic moment, I want her to confess that she slept with someone else. Then I ask when did it happen, and she replies, "For the past two years." When I ask her why, she explains, "Because I need to fuck him. I'm sorry. But I need to do it."

Does anybody here have similar desires?

 

[O'Mac]

Whoa man! You and I are from two completely different worlds.

Seriously though, I've heard quite a bit about that fantasy as well. As much as it does the complete opposite to me, I can see how as a social taboo, it would be considered a fetish for others. Do you think it may be an extension of an underlying submissive personality?

 

[onceburned]

Its not a desire I have, but then I am not married.

Seriously, it wouldn't be for me but I have read many guys express this desire. I know of at least one woman on collarme whose profile offers the opportunity.

 

[Mike260]

O'mac, this is a submissive fantasy of total emotional powerlessness. Though I want my wife to sleep with another man, the implication in her response is that she won't quit even if I ask her to. Though I'm a little embarrassed to go into it at the moment, my favorite incarnation of the fantasy involves some light physical S/M.

I guess I've got some passive aggressiveness in me, but I don't consider myself a passive person. My jobs have mainly been managerial and I'm reasonable forceful in day to day friendships and romantic relationships.

Are sexual submissives generally submissive in "real life" too?

Onceburned. Thanks for the response. Can you give me any suggestions on how I can find this woman on collarme? (By the way, I've read that this fantasy is associated with being "once burned." Of course, I don't really know what you're referring to with the moniker, and it's only a theory I've read on the internet. But I'm pretty sure that's what got me started.)

 

[onceburned]

Can you give me any suggestions on how I can find this woman on collarme?

I found her because she falls within my search criteria:
http://www.collarme.com/bdsm/t/cuckold/v/2618/default.htm

But I think there are others out there too - just do a keyword search for cuckold.

(By the way, I've read that this fantasy is associated with being "once burned."

Its not a theory I have ever heard of. Do you feel like explaining it?

 

[O'Mac]

Are sexual submissives generally submissive in "real life" too?

Generally not. What tends to happen is that people subconsciously switch to an opposing personality during intimacy. For example, I'm pretty much an easy-going laid-back sort of guy. I'm actually rather passive and not overly confrontational. In the bedroom however, I am totally a control-freak and I want things done my way. My pet is a very forceful and imposing person at work and has a very no-nonsense personality. Again, in the bedroom here personality is reversed and she becomes very submissive.

It's certainly not the full and complete explanation, not does it apply universally. It is, however, a very noticeable trend that has been observed for some time.

 

[Mike260]

This isn't my explanation OnceBurned, it's one I found on a site called "The Cuckold Forum":

"...the cucking fixation is very likely related to a specific, traumatic, emotional incident in the past, most likely a situation where the man was emotionally betrayed by a woman (maybe a mother, wife, girlfriend, who knows). Compulsive sexual fetishes have a tendency to be incident/phobia related. Emotional scabs, therapists call these - because even though they are healed over by time, it is a human tendency to "pick" at them - to confront them with emotional excitement which often has a sexual edge. It's the analogy of why so many pyrophobiacs are fire fighters -- a controlled way of confronting the fear, over and over, never quite trusting it won't happen again, they force the scene under their control."

And, again, I'd be really interested to hear from men or women who share the fantasy of wives who sleep with other men.

 

[O'Mac]

Emotional scabs, therapists call these - because even though they are healed over by time, it is a human tendency to "pick" at them - to confront them with emotional excitement which often has a sexual edge. It's the analogy of why so many pyrophobiacs are fire fighters -- a controlled way of confronting the fear, over and over, never quite trusting it won't happen again, they force the scene under their control."

Hmmm, interesting analysis as well. Makes quite a bit of sense as well. If you figure that if people have fears ingrained into them, and that even the most severe therapy will never get rid of the "seed" of the phobia, then it sounds logical that the subconscious would indeed "pick" at the fear to possibly test one's reaction and mental reflex to it.

 

[Mike260]

For me "pick that scab" offers about the most liberating sense of sexual resignation I can imagine.

From what I understand cuckoldry is a very common fantasy-- and the few times that my wife has let herself get off with other men have been, I think, liberating for her too (if a bit out of control).

I'm always surprised that it doesn't generate more interest on Literotica.

 

[onceburned]

I'm always surprised that it doesn't generate more interest on Literotica.

Literotica seems to have a younger audience than other forum sites. I wonder what percentage of members are married?

 

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