cuckold fantasy

[Andee_julie]

Im a married guy and loe the cuckold fantasy.
I love the fantasy of seeing my wife having sex with a well hung stud - even better if he's a lot younger than me, i'm 40.
I don't know why this is such a turn on, but it is.
The thought of seing her in the missionary position with him and watching his big haning ball slapping on her arse as he fucks her hard drives me crazy.
She also likes the fantasy but i don't think she'd ever do it for real.
Why is this such a strong fantasy of mine???? and for so many married men???

I'm sure i'm not able to give her what she is capable of taking and enjoying, but she would never say so.

I guess the turn on is to see her enjoying the best sex she could possibly experience, and something i could never give her myself.

Any thoughts????

Andy

 

[callinectes]

You need to find out what HER thoughts are, not ours.

 

[northwoods_sub]

Everybody has their own personal kink, you couldn't explain mine to me anymore than I can explain yours to you.
Does your wife know about this fantasy? How does she feel about having sex with a younger man? None of us here can tell you if she would be receptive to this kind of an idea.
Maybe it is time to have an open conversation with her about if she fantsizes about other men, it could be a starting point for you two.
I wish you the best of luck.

 

[deadselly]

My lover would strangle someone before he let them fuck me.

And I like him that way. <3

But if you like that kinda thing, then talk it out with her?

I'm not sure what the appeal is; I'd be interested in hearing why, though. I'm far too focused on just him, as it were; and he, me. I don't understand the appeal, but eh, that's why I'm asking. What's the thrill?

 

[Byakuya]

I can sort of understand the appeal of this fantasy. It's difficult to explain exactly why it's a turn-on for me. It's a humiliation thing. I don't think I could actually go through with it though. I have a lot of fantasies. Some of them are things I'd definitely like to do in real life, but some of them are just fantasies and I wouldn't want to do them in real life. I think that cuckold is more of the latter type of fantasy for me. Sort of like I've sometimes fantasized about being the victim at the beginning of Basic Instinct, but I definitely wouldn't want to do that in real life!

 

[Softouch911]

Just a comment, not a complaint or criticism --

Interesting this would be posted on a BDSM forum, huh? I've just never thought of this (popular ... see "Loving Wives" section of stories) perversion as being part of this.

If I were to join the fantasy, it wouldn't be as an observer. The threesome, if it was the right man, would be appealing (at least in theory). She'd get to experience two men, and I have no idea what I'd think of the notion of bi-sex ... but I do know she has a fantasy of watching me get a BJ from a man.

No, I don't have a point. Sorry.

ST

 

[rube203]

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[ecstaticsub]

By definition my husband is a cuckold--he allows me to have sex with other men. However, I (we) don't really see it as him being submissive. We have spent hours and hours discussing this. The present situation is new. (2yrs old new) In the 20 yrs or so we have been married I have had other long-term lovers, short-term lovers, one-night stands --all that he has known about either before or immediately after the fact. This is the first time I have been in a extramarital D/s relationship.

My husband has no desire to watch me having sex (though he does enjoy pictures, video and stories afterwards) and he has no desire to participate. Why does he get into it? He says that knowing that I love him and willl never leave him--even when I get so much sexual and mental pleasure from another man is an incredible turn-on. Also he gets off on being married to a woman that other men want. He doesn't get off on humiliation at all. I'm happy because I finally am able to explore my submissive side. My husband is not into D/s at all.

The key is to keep communication open and honest between all parties at all time.

 

[Andee_julie]

Thanks for all of your comments.
I'm going to work on trying to explain my fantasy with her.

Thanks
Andy

PS would love to rad more comments and advise from couples who have done this for real

 

[AllWeWant]

I hate the word itself as does hubby (don't know why...just gets on my nerves) but we're very much into it. It's a little multi-layered for us as my husband is bi, into cross-dressing and is extremely submissive. If I had thought it would be a part of my life even three years ago, I would have said no way. I was very much a one-man woman, totally devoted & loyal to my husband but as our own personal kinks expanded and as we developed new interests I warmed up to the idea of being with other men, either with him present and playing or with him on the sidelines, just watching. We're now talking a lot about playing on our own (with consent, of course) and he's already been allowed/encouraged to have a go at it solo.

I could write volumes but I'd rather not. Happy to answer any questions though.

 

[Netzach]

My husband dresses and kinda falls through some gender cracks, and our relationship dynamics are closer to the f/f relationship dynamics I've experienced than m/f. It's not about humiliation - the fact that the man I'm with is very much butch and on the male end of the spectrum drives home enough of an "apples oranges" kind of feeling that there's no destabilizing - he knows I'm coming home to him again, even if I do have a weekend once in a while of "extra credit" as he likes to call "extracurriculars". He knows I love my stud, and there's deep emotional involvement and was before we even met one another, and because he loves me the idea of urging an ultimatum rather than me being well loved well screwed and happy from whomever I should want that from is preferable.

Which makes him way more attractive in my eyes than anyone who'd want to clip my wings.

 

[roomfor1more]

The other posters are right you need to ask your wife and I will add one more part to this. People, I find, use cuckold in one of three ways. One way regards humiliation and humiliation has its own spectrum of acts. They can run from very private acts between two people, to verbal public humiliation, it can include dressing like the opposite-sex in public, and it can include having your partner go off to have sex with someone else. To me, only the latter is a cuckold that involves an element of humiliation and the others acts fall strictly under the definition of humiliation, not cuckold. Second form, is a short-term usually one off encounter with someone outside of the relationship. This type of activity blurs with cheating. However the difference between cheating and this rests on the fact that this is done with the knowledge and consent of the non-participating partner. Final type is a lifestyle activity whereby one member of the couple has sex with someone else with their partner's consent. In this type of activity it may include elements of humiliation, domination, or it may be completely free of any type of BDSM activity.

For you the important issue becomes defining the type of cuckold you are wanting. Without defining the type of cuckold you want it will make it more difficult to talk with your partner about it and it may lead to something happening that you were not expecting. My advice to you would be to take it slow, define what you want, and make sure you discuss with your partner.

 

[Stella_Omega]

A blast from the past.

Netz, things have moved and changed since you made your comment here, haven't they?

 

[Roleplay_Mom]

Sent you a PM to discuss your fantasy.