Crush on a normal person

[live4thebj]

I am talking about a normal person. Not famous. Could be or not be rich. Just a down to earth person.

I have this crush on this woman I can’t shake. She might be 35. I’m 50. She owns this business with her husband. I love my fiancé but when I am around this woman I get so turned on and feel sexual tension.
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I swear I wouldn’t cheat on my fiancé but this one woman just something about her I can’t shake it off.

Anyone else?

 

[Messier82]

Hmmmm... I haven't posted on Lit for years, but you've struck a chord with me.

Isn't what you describe a normal experience for most people? Intense attraction to a real person? Attraction to a "celebrity" isn't what I would call a real attraction at all, but some IRL person most definitely is, and it can be overpowering and incredibly long lasting.

For simplicity I'll substitute some names into my personal experience:
Going back several decades to when I was about 30, Steve, one of my closest friends since childhood, got together with Sharon, who was about 21 as I recall. Sharon was clearly highly attractive by anyone's standards, and we always got along well, but in a way respectful of the dynamics between the three of us - this wasn't an uncontrollable-lust-at-first-sight situation.

One day, about four years after she got together with Steve, for some reason, something clicked and I found I had developed had a very intense attraction to Sharon, I don't recall ever having such a visceral sexual attraction to a girl simply by sitting next to her in a public place.

Most challengingly for my self-control as Steve's close friend, Sharon showed a similar very strong physical attraction to me. However... At that point I would have felt mortified to betray Steve in this way. Sharon and I had some very passionate kissing on a couple of snatched occasions, but nothing more, and somehow we both stopped anything from developing further.

At some point at least a year or more later, they broke up spectacularly badly when Steve met someone else; he was "done" with Sharon and just wanted to move on to his new woman, Susan. Sharon now had to uproot herself from Steve's house (he'd owned this before he met Sharon), with her young child (from a pre-Steve time), who had just started to call Steve "Daddy", even though he was not the child's biological father - I found this to be a very unpleasant aspect to the break-up and one Steve hadn't given any consideration to.

By this time I was in a relationship of my own, but several months after the break up, when she had adjusted to her new reality, Sharon came to visit me one day, totally out of the blue, and it was clear the attraction was very much still present. But again, (this time because I didn't want to be the cheater), nothing came of it.

Steve married Susan, after remaking himself into a person who was very unlike the person I had always known him to be. But... He was divorced after a few years when he took up with Annie, a woman he worked with. Then, a very short while after, he and I had a "parting of the ways", due to Annie's inability to put her day job to one side after working hours - they were both in the same line of work, one which tends to separate that group of people from other groups of people socially. I haven't seen my former friend for about 20 years.

Sharon and I would not have made an ideal long term couple - though I expect the bedroom side of things might have been good for at least a year or more - but I look back on that time and find myself hugely frustrated that I resisted the overwhelming attraction, which was reciprocated, and because of what? Loyalty to a friend who treated this girl quite appallingly when it suited him? And subsequently lost my friendship? Because of yet another woman? Who herself became "history"?

Sharon was "my one that got away". Not in a big romantic sense, but in a "In hindsight, it was wrong not to act on it" way. And if truth be told, even though it is now close on 25 years since I last saw Sharon, there's not a single week that goes by where I don't think about her, and what we denied each other.

 

[UtilityCurve]

I am talking about a normal person. Not famous. Could be or not be rich. Just a down to earth person.

I have this crush on this woman I can’t shake. She might be 35. I’m 50. She owns this business with her husband. I love my fiancé but when I am around this woman I get so turned on and feel sexual attention.

I swear I wouldn’t cheat on my fiancé but this one woman just something about her I can’t shake it off.

Anyone else?

Absolutely. Wife of a coworker.

 

[SPARTAN047]

Very normal. Someone I used to see at the previous office. I have or had a thing for thick women and she had a fat ass. Not phat, fat like mine.

 

[EasyGuy1025]

I am talking about a normal person. Not famous. Could be or not be rich. Just a down to earth person.

I have this crush on this woman I can’t shake. She might be 35. I’m 50. She owns this business with her husband. I love my fiancé but when I am around this woman I get so turned on and feel sexual tension.
I
I swear I wouldn’t cheat on my fiancé but this one woman just something about her I can’t shake it off.

Anyone else?

I met a girl in 2005. We worked together and were friend until 2008, when I left the job. I’ll call her “Lisa” She was 20 and I was 24 at the time. I’ve dated a lot since then, including a 15 year relationship with a girl I loved a lot. But still, I can’t get Lisa out of my head. Ive thought about her at least once a day since I last saw her. She’s married now, and she used to have a thing for me too. But I sincerely doubt she has thought about me in a decade. I don’t know that this crush will ever go away.

 

[Kelvin8or]

Definitely crushed on my wife's one friend. She was single for a long time and I always wished my wife would invite her for a threesome. Sadly my wife isn't that adventurous and I wasn't sure how to encourage the situation to happen.

 

[Britva415]

I get crushes on "normal persons" all the time.