Crossing the threashold....what constitutes being fully accepted as a Swinger Couple?

[BBWcanBsexy2]

So, hubby and I have been toying with the concept of trying out the Swinger's lifetyle.

Another member from Lit indroduced me to a Swinger site that is free and has alot of success. We met a couple on there and we chatted for about a week and we finnally met Wednesday. We all hit it off, had a great time shootin' the breeze and we all just seemed to click.

So, yesterday we went over to their house, and crossed the threshold - even if it wasn't a full swap - it is still the next step.

The wife and I were going at it and I told my hubby to join, the other husband sat on the sidelines and said that this time was for him since it was his first time.
So we had a ton of fun, and are planning on doing it again, and were invited to a swiner's halloween party at the end of the month that sounds like tons of fun and we're prolly going to go to that.

We are easing into the lifestyle and I was just wondering, after what point are you really a swing couple? Is it after your first time even if it's a oral thing? Or is it only after you do a full-swap (like a wife swap)?? Or is it a matter of time thing?

I was just curious, and I had to share with ya'll! It was alot of fun! I can't wait until next time now that the ice is broken...

 

[Etoile]

Just a note, I'm not sure that this really belongs in the GLBT section. Swinging might involve same-sex activity, but you're really asking about swinging and not bisexuality, right?

 

[SweetErika]

As you may know, BBW, there are many different styles of swinging. Some people ONLY stick with their partners, but are in the same room with other people (generally referred to as "soft swing"). Others go outside their relationship, but reserve certain acts for their own partners. Some consider having sex without emotions with anyone outside their relationship swinging.

The situation you described sounds like what I understand to be swinging. The fact that you're planning on continuing, and even getting more involved in the lifestyle/community would lead me to believe you're a "swing couple" as you put it. I'd say that even people who don't have experience, but are very attracted to the lifestyle and planning on gaining experience can be swingers just as much as those who have lots of experience.

It's very much like sexual orientation that way - so many don't have to actually have some kind of sex with someone of the same or opposite sex to know they're gay, bi, straight, asexual, etc. Some do need that experience to figure it out or confirm their feelings, but most of us don't believe virgins they don't truly know if they like males or females yet just because they're lacking experience.

In short, if you consider yourselves swingers, I think that's perfectly valid. You may be less experienced swingers, but you're swingers nonetheless. And, from what I've been able to ascertain, many people in the lifestyle share my opinion, so I don't think you'll run into much (if any) resistance by claiming that title.

Be safe and have fun!