Crazy question for the ladies

[ayrton]

I am friends with a married woman that has beautiful big breasts that look so soft , yet firm, that I'm dying to know what they feel like. Would there be anyway a guy could ask you that would allow him to feel your breasts? We are pretty open with each other and I've complimented her on how nice her body is and she seems flattered. I know it's one of those areas where guys and girls are so different. Hell, I'd let just about any woman play with my cock! LOL

 

[greeneyed_Lady]

Are you also friends with her husband? I have many many male friends and I have to say.. not ONE of them has ever asked such a question. If she has an open relationship with her husband, touching might be ok. Otherwise this might be one of those things that will remain a mystery to you.

 

[SweetErika]

Weird. You posted almost the exact same thread/question two years ago. Is this the same woman, or do you have a habit of asking women if you can touch their tits? 'Cause, you know, clearly you have a habit of believing these women are out to arouse you and being positive they enjoy your staring and comments, which, in all actuality, are likely far more creepy than flattering.

Anyway, asking her if you can feel her up is a bad idea in general, but the answer is going to depend on her, you and your relationship. She may or may not be offended or feel uncomfortable, so you're best off leaving well enough alone by not asking.

Here's a crazy idea: How about finding a woman who has big tits and is closer to your age (as opposed to decades your junior) for a relationship and touching HER tits, instead of wondering if you should ask these married friends and coworkers if you can feel them up? I know it might seem outrageous, but most of us actually don't mind being felt up by our partners (a lot, even!) because we're attracted to them and comfortable with them and stuff.

 

[Reba67]

I know it might seem outrageous, but most of us actually don't mind being felt up by our partners (a lot, even!) because we're attracted to them and comfortable with them and stuff.

Yeah, my boyfriend can feel me up, but no one else. And if you were to ask me to touch my tits or elsewhere besides a hug between friends, I'd probably slap you.

 

[conejita]

just ask

I think you should ask her

 

[_Misty_]

shoot, offer her a dollar

 

[In Anticipation]

I am friends with a married woman that has beautiful big breasts that look so soft , yet firm, that I'm dying to know what they feel like. Would there be anyway a guy could ask you that would allow him to feel your breasts? We are pretty open with each other and I've complimented her on how nice her body is and she seems flattered. I know it's one of those areas where guys and girls are so different. Hell, I'd let just about any woman play with my cock! LOL

Weird. You posted almost the exact same thread/question two years ago. Is this the same woman, or do you have a habit of asking women if you can touch their tits? 'Cause, you know, clearly you have a habit of believing these women are out to arouse you and being positive they enjoy your staring and comments, which, in all actuality, are likely far more creepy than flattering.

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He's obviously nothing if not patient. However I think this would just come across as creepy.

My partner enjoys here appearance and the effect it has on men (and women.) However I think she would be freaked out if anyone asked to grope her breasts. If I remember, I'll ask her . . .

Apart from anything else it's objectification of the worst kind surely?

 

[VelvetDarkness]

I am friends with a married woman that has beautiful big breasts that look so soft , yet firm, that I'm dying to know what they feel like. Would there be anyway a guy could ask you that would allow him to feel your breasts? We are pretty open with each other and I've complimented her on how nice her body is and she seems flattered. I know it's one of those areas where guys and girls are so different. Hell, I'd let just about any woman play with my cock! LOL

I take it you're not married?

This is probably why.

 

[JoeCentralNY]

Weird. You posted almost the exact same thread/question two years ago. Is this the same woman, or do you have a habit of asking women if you can touch their tits? 'Cause, you know, clearly you have a habit of believing these women are out to arouse you and being positive they enjoy your staring and comments, which, in all actuality, are likely far more creepy than flattering.

Don't listen to the whiners on this board.

Ayrton, it is certainly unusual your question and in many cases would be considered highly offensive, but if you think she'd be ok with it, just find the right time to ask.

But make sure you feel her out first (no pun intended!) and find a time when you think it would be ok to ask. If you don't think she'll be comfortable, dont ask.

Good luck, let us know how it goes.

 

[ayrton]

Wow! I have no memory whatsoever of that first post. The dangers of posting after a few drinks I guess. In any case, I have changed jobs so that part is no longer a problem. The problem is I am still obsessed with her breasts and she still seems to enjoy the attention I give them. We bump into each other frequently and she seems glad to see me and starts the whole flirty thing again. She also e-mails me quite often with risque jokes.
While I would never dream of groping a woman, I can't get my head around why women are so offended by someone admiring their body and wanting to see what it feels like. I do admit to having a rather casual attitude concerning sex, which is probably why I am no longer married. I mean I have had women wanting to feel my bicep and I certainly wasn't offended. I wouldn't be the least bit offended if she asked to feel my penis. Why are men and women so different? I'd be willing to bet most guys on this board would have no problem with a woman asking to feel their cocks.

 

[wehstar]

I do stuggle to take half this thread seriously however it does raise a question in my mind as to whether society trains/conditions women to be offended by men admiring them.

And as I typed that sentence I thought of something else kinda related. If a (gay) man was to say something very similar about how great another (straight) guy looked, there would probably be a similar of feeling offended. Interesting.

 

[SpicyPepper]

I do stuggle to take half this thread seriously however it does raise a question in my mind as to whether society trains/conditions women to be offended by men admiring them.

And as I typed that sentence I thought of something else kinda related. If a (gay) man was to say something very similar about how great another (straight) guy looked, there would probably be a similar of feeling offended. Interesting.

Admiring is one thing, groping is another.

Ayrton,
why don't you just respect the fact that she is married and just oggle her breasts from afar?

I would never want someone (friend OR lover) to just "see what my body feels like". Are we 12 years-old now playing I'll-show-you-mine-if-you-show-me-yours? They're breasts. Having been married, you know what breasts feel like.
Maybe it's just me, but I much prefer caring for a person before I let them "just" let them touch my body/breasts.
I guess what's offensive is that it sounds more like you are objectifying her breasts and thus objectifying her.

 

[ayrton]

I do stuggle to take half this thread seriously however it does raise a question in my mind as to whether society trains/conditions women to be offended by men admiring them.

And as I typed that sentence I thought of something else kinda related. If a (gay) man was to say something very similar about how great another (straight) guy looked, there would probably be a similar of feeling offended. Interesting.

Good point. I wouldn't mind a gay man finding me attractive, but if he asked to feel my penis, I would not be amused. That said, I think there is a difference since what I was talking about was a hetersexual relationship, where I would assume both parties would naturally like to be attractive to the other.

 

[infinity706]

Admiring is one thing, groping is another.

Ayrton,
why don't you just respect the fact that she is married and just oggle her breasts from afar?

I would never want someone (friend OR lover) to just "see what my body feels like". Are we 12 years-old now playing I'll-show-you-mine-if-you-show-me-yours? They're breasts. Having been married, you know what breasts feel like.
Maybe it's just me, but I much prefer caring for a person before I let them "just" let them touch my body/breasts.
I guess what's offensive is that it sounds more like you are objectifying her breasts and thus objectifying her.

I think the objectifying thing might be the issue. That seems to be one of the most annoying things ever to come out of the feminist movement. Yes, it had a ton of great ideas, but it also gave a platform to the most sexist women, too. The objectifying idea is no more sensible than abstinence education. Afterall, it's not objectifying for a woman to seduce a guy into a one night stand, is it? It's not objectifying when a bi chick oggles another women's tits, is it? All "objectification" seems to be is a sexist form of guy bashing just as much as gay marriage is so much of an attack on the institution of marriage.

 

[ayrton]

I don't like the word "objectifying". From my experience a woman is always a sex object to me initially, if you want to look at it that way. Whenever I find a woman attractive my first thought is a sexual one. I don't think I'm out of the ordinary that way. It takes time for a real relationship to build, but I think lust is the first step. I also think it usually means a man and a woman become lovers first and friends, in addition, as time passes.
Also, we all have our fetishes and mine is big breasts. I just love them....always have since I was 12 years old and it never goes away. Creepy? Maybe...but I can't deny it.

 

[greeneyed_Lady]

While I would never dream of groping a woman, I can't get my head around why women are so offended by someone admiring their body and wanting to see what it feels like. I do admit to having a rather casual attitude concerning sex, which is probably why I am no longer married. I mean I have had women wanting to feel my bicep and I certainly wasn't offended. I wouldn't be the least bit offended if she asked to feel my penis. Why are men and women so different? I'd be willing to bet most guys on this board would have no problem with a woman asking to feel their cocks.

I am never offended by being admired. Being oogled is different. While I feel that breasts are just breasts, Western society has sexualized them and as a sex object, random touching is just plain frowned on. Biceps are not a sexual object and touching them is more acceptable. And of course YOU wouldn't be offended if she asked to touch your penis. Sorry.. men aren't as objectified as women. I don't want to be reduced to being tits and a pussy.

I find it really creepy actually.. your interest in a married woman's breasts and the fact you just want to feel them. Then what?? Where's it stop? Will you be satisfied with just a touch? Or will you want to see them? Taste them? Creepy and disrespectful to her and her husband and their marriage. Do men really think this way?? *shudder*



*sorry if this doesn't make any sense.. blame the drugs.. I probably shouldn't be posting..*

 

[The Greek]

shoot, offer her a dollar

Let's start a collection for his hospital bills


Seriously, think long and hard before approaching this request. Most women would probably not find it approporate. Better to live with the couriosity and maintain your friendship.

 

[SweetErika]

Good point. I wouldn't mind a gay man finding me attractive, but if he asked to feel my penis, I would not be amused. That said, I think there is a difference since what I was talking about was a hetersexual relationship, where I would assume both parties would naturally like to be attractive to the other.

I wouldn't be amused by most women oggling my breasts and asking to touch them, either. I like some women, but I don't like all women, just like I don't like all men. I'm likely to be offended by staring and requests to touch no matter who's doing the looking and asking, unless I'm (planning on being) intimate with that particular person. It has nothing to do with gender - I just don't want someone I'm not intimate with asking to touch me in what I consider to be an intimate or personal way in most cases. I don't like to be looked at or asked to be touched like a piece of meat.

I don't think sexual orientation has anything to do with it. This woman could very well not be attracted to you or interested in letting you touch her tits, just like you're not attracted to men and don't want them touching your cock.

If you're unfamiliar with flirting and cockteases, you might want to learn about them. People flirt without intention of going further all the time. And some (women, especially) enjoy flirting, arousing and basically stringing men like you along because it can make them feel more attractive and powerful. Risque jokes and looks (which can be misinterpreted) and even touches aren't necessarily an indication on genuine attraction or an invitation to be felt up, as much as you might want them to be.

 

[bailadora]

I don't like the word "objectifying". From my experience a woman is always a sex object to me initially,

I'm not sure why you don't like that term, as it certainly seems to apply here. By your own admission, you initially see a woman as an object to satisfy your lust, valued for only her tits, ass or pussy. How is that NOT offensive?

I think Erika said it best:

I don't like to be looked at or asked to be touched like a piece of meat. .

In all honesty, it would be best to pass this situation up and indulge your fascination through porn.

ETA: There is also someone else that needs to be considered in this scenario: the husband. You've no right to touch unless they both give permission.