Conversations: Take Two

[lavender]

 

[APhil]

Yes.

Yes.

Uh-huh.

Yes.

 

[Dragon Dreamer]

Have you ever had a lengthy conversation that you really wish you could erase and do all over again? The kind that make you feel so blah and terrible? Has there ever been a point mid conversation that you just wanted to hit pause, rewind and start all over. You realize this, but it seems like the rewind button is broken and the negativity and nastiness just keeps going full throttle.

These are the kind of conversations that can haunt a person.

I know exactly what you mean, sometimes those conversations, and their results, can haunt you for years.

 

[princessa]

i agree and i'm sorry...

in my case, it really does suck to be talking and know that the other person is misinterpreting the more you say...

remember though that a conversation... a real one... takes more than one person... so, no matter who started being nasty, the horrible end result came from both of you...

good luck

 

[penguindance]

 

[lavender]

 

[Desert Amazon]

 

[Hamletmaschine]

Conflict in communication/relationships is both a hazard and an opportunity. Most people do not handle it well, because they see it only as a negative thing. They avoid it at all costs--and then when the shit hits the fan, as it inevitably will, it usually just spins out of control.

Sometimes it helps simply to reorient your perspective from seeing it as a wholly negative occurrence to seeing it as an opportunity. Without conflict or crisis, there is no impetus for change; without change, there is nothing but stagnation and decay in the relationship. Conflict can also be the stimulus needed for growth, if it's handled well.

 

[sunstruck]

I tend to go overboard, though I try to curb it, and in trying I sometimes turn off completely which can be just as frustrating for the person on the other end.

I am hugely stubborn and I have a fragile ego. These are my worst points. Oh, then there's the temper thing, you really have to piss me off royally to see it but once you do. Fuck. Being aware of these traits doesn't always help me control them and the people I'm closest to, the ones that stick, are the ones that know I don't mean to be hurtful or stubborn when I am.

Sometimes all you can do is ask for a do over. If your friendship is strong you'll be granted one.

 

[lavender]

 

[sunstruck]

Then odds are the other person is feeling the same way. Or at least similar. If you can't find the words, and this may sound lame, but I've done it, try a card. A let's forget that conversation ever took place card.

And you may just need to let some time pass. Sounds like you need to forgive yourself. That is the most difficult thing for stubborn opionated people to do. I know.

 

[Catharsis]

I don't know what the fuck I'm talking about.

took the words right out of my mouth

 

[lavender]

 

[celiaKitten]

Conflict in communication/relationships is both a hazard and an opportunity. Most people do not handle it well, because they see it only as a negative thing. They avoid it at all costs--and then when the shit hits the fan, as it inevitably will, it usually just spins out of control.

Sometimes it helps simply to reorient your perspective from seeing it as a wholly negative occurrence to seeing it as an opportunity. Without conflict or crisis, there is no impetus for change; without change, there is nothing but stagnation and decay in the relationship. Conflict can also be the stimulus needed for growth, if it's handled well.

Shit. There's a sig line in there somewhere.

 

[intrigued]

Conflict in communication/relationships is both a hazard and an opportunity. Most people do not handle it well, because they see it only as a negative thing. They avoid it at all costs--and then when the shit hits the fan, as it inevitably will, it usually just spins out of control.

Sometimes it helps simply to reorient your perspective from seeing it as a wholly negative occurrence to seeing it as an opportunity. Without conflict or crisis, there is no impetus for change; without change, there is nothing but stagnation and decay in the relationship. Conflict can also be the stimulus needed for growth, if it's handled well.

Exactly. You are so in my head.

 

[Siren]

 

[Laurel]

blah, edited out babble

 

[Guest]

Yes, yes, and yes.
I have 3 of those conversations.
I wasn't prepared for the outcome.
I still feel as though someone else was talking for me.

Powerful.

 

[Svedish_Chef]

these are why I avoid talking.

I can tear a person apart without even thinking wordwise

 

[markb325]

More times then I care to count actually.