Controversy...My name is sex.

[FlamingoBlue]

What is your most serious area of conflict with your own sex life? For example, do you still feel guilty when you masturbate? Do you have an aversion to oral sex while your love partner craves it? Etc.,etc.?

 

[Never]

The whole gay thing sort of makes me feel like shit sometimes. I like myself, my body, and the sensations it can give me but whenever I find myself feeling anything, sexually or emotionally, for a woman I can't help but be disgusted.
Oh well, what is it that Naomi Wolf quoted from someone else? "The hardest enemies to fight are those with outposts in your head."

 

[Rosebud]

I was extremely homophobic....i wouldn't even dare think about another woman and never thought i would...lately there is one that has "caught my eye" and i would truly like to experience the first with her...it would be her first too...I also cannot masturbate in front of my husband...i feel as though it is personal...something i do when he is not here...i will try to get over that too....there is more but i have shared enough for now...

 

[SimplySouthern]

Lemme see....

I am still a little guilty about the whole masturbation thing.

Bi-sexuality has been something I think I have always been interested in but have only recently become more open about (thanks guys *wink*)

Other sexual hangups....well, I was raised in the bible belt...so sex before marriage always makes me feel just a bit guilty.

 

[FlamingoBlue]

SS,

Why do I believe that you have been able to conquer your guilt about the sex before marriage thing? That ain't the same as promiscuity, unless you're Jimmy Swaggart or one of those other bible thumpers.

 

[Never]

Having promised my Grandmother, god bless her holier-than-thou soul, before god and the church that I would rather die then have sex before marriage I've decided that oral, anal and anything other than penis/vagina intercourse is not sex.
I think there's even a verse in the Bible that supports me on this so I'm hoping to use that loophole to escape Hell's fiery damnation.
Hey.
It worked for Clinton.

 

[Rand al'Thor]

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[FlamingoBlue]

Poor never,

so confused. I guess some people can rationalize anything if they try hard enough.

So, just between us, did you do "IT" before you got married?

 

[Never]

Rationalizing is quite easy for me, thank you very much.

This isn't between you and me, as I've said this several times on this board.
Nope. I'm not married.
Yep. I'm still a virgin.

 

[Jade]

Re: No guilt here

I'm just getting used to the fact that I'm bisexual. I also was raised in a very conservative home, and my parents would have a couple of heart attacks if I told them that.

As for masturbation... Any man who says he feels guilty when he masturbates is a damn liar! If only my shower tiles could talk!

Rand al'Thor
The Dragon Reborn

Hey Rand... I am a fan. But since you are already screwing three other women... (sigh)

 

[Rand al'Thor]

>>>Hey Rand... I am a fan. But since you are already
>>>screwing three other women... (sigh)

Wait a sec... I'm only screwing two other women. I haven't got to Elayne yet... Although bk. 9 is coming out in November.

(For those of you who are lost, we are talking about a fantasy book series. I stole my name from the main character.)

Rand al'Thor
The Dragon Reborn

 

[CreamyLady]

The hardest thing for me was to recognize, and celebrate, my submissiveness and need to be controlled, while at the same time being in a vanilla relationship. My lover -- a wonderful man -- cannot easily deal with it.

It's one awkward step at a time, but we are coping together, and that in itself is something to celebrate.

 

[FlamingoBlue]

A vanilla relationship?

Does that mean that you are both white and pure? I never heard the term used in the sense of a relationship. To me, vanilla means verrrry ordinary. Is that what you mean?

 

[CreamyLady]

Re: A vanilla relationship?

Does that mean that you are both white and pure? I never heard the term used in the sense of a relationship. To me, vanilla means verrrry ordinary. Is that what you mean?

In BDSM, vanilla means ordinary -- no Dom/me, no sub.

Actually, vanilla beans and extract are brown. Hmmmm.

 

[Never]

They're talking about vanilla ice cream.

Vanilla means unBDSM or it can mean a virgin.
Strawberry means submissive or your 'typical' straight female.
Chocolate mean dominate or your 'typical' straight male.

Cherry is lesbian.
Pistachio is a gay man.
Banana split means bi.

There are more but I've forgotten most of them..

 

[Endlessly]

*giggles at the above; 'World's best vanilla' being an affectionate nickname I have for Never*

REAL honesty? Fine..

Things I feel guilty about, regarding sex:

-This BB\website, and my love for reading and writing pornography
-Exhibitionist tendencies
-My fondness for giving oral sex
-Losing my virginity out of wedlock
-Masturbation
-Feeling physically attracted to certain members of my same sex
-My forrays into BDSM
-Only showing enough interest in the opposite sex to my parents to allow them to know I'm not a lesbian


The list obviously demonstrates that my sexual life and the face I portray to the world are HIGHLY different. Someone once told me you get what you advertise you want; if you advertise you're looking for a good fuck, that's what you get. If you advertise you're looking for a good mind, that's what you get. Guess I have a tendency to leave a pleasant surprise for the few men that are interested in me..

 

[FlamingoBlue]

Ice cream flavors

So who is fudge ripple or rocky road or spumoni or neopolitan.

I guess I'll think twice before I go into Baskin and Robbins, again.

 

[CreamyLady]

I don't know about spumoni, but rocky road sounds like a relationship a divorce attorney could figure out!

 

[April]

Ice cream again?! What is it with you, Never? I guess by your ice cream definitions, I'm eating the wrong flavor. I should be eating vanilla mixed with strawberry? Food for thought!

 

[Never]

I have.. *looks down* a confession to make. I'm obsessed with ice cream. Thirty-one flavors is not enough for me, I need more, much MORE.
I can't eat the stuff, well, I can but I end up regretting it. However, I constantly fantasize about ice cream. Usually eating the ice cream involves licking it off the hard, cold nipples of my fantasy lady of the night but it's all about the ice cream baby.

 

[April]

*puts an ice cream cone on top of head and dances around in front of Never*

 

[FlamingoBlue]

I wish

I was 30 years younger. Oh, yeh, that's my sons.

 

[April]

What? The cone thing? LOL

 

[Never]

*stops as I rush into the storm, the storm of broken hearts due to lack of deforming disease, and watches the woman dance with a cone on her head*

Do you come from France?

*Some might think this cone-dance odd but woman react strangely to me*

 

[Jade]

*stops as I rush into the storm, the storm of broken hearts due to lack of deforming disease, and watches the woman dance with a cone on her head*

Do you come from France?

*Some might think this cone-dance odd but woman react strangely to me*

Not that this relates at all but when I was a freshman in college, ... um... I was one of "Madonna's" cone girls in a contest... I still don't know how we got those things to stay on... they were made out of paper.. but... okay
woo boy it is late... where is LL to correct my naughty behavior? I know I am going to regret this in the morning!

In my defense, I must let you all know that I am on some heavy pain medication right now for a neck injury...
so hope I am excused...