Contracts?

[M_SNashCouple]

So, my husband and I are relatively new to this in terms of involving it 100% in our marriage. In my searching for information, friends, etc on some pages I've stumbled on contracts. So my question is for those in a LTR or marriage, do contracts have a place in a marriage? And if so, what kinds of things are included (doesn't need to be specific, just general ideas).

Thanks!!

~JJ

 

[PDatura]

Contracts always have a place! It's a great way to spell out issues, limits, formalize "ownership", excuse to have a contact-signing party, whatever.

In contracts, limits, unacceptable behaviors, promises in addition to standing marriage vows, stating who's in charge, and the end of contract term are all rather normal things to include.

signing in blood or not is up to the individuals.

 

[M_SNashCouple]

Thank you so much for the information! I've been tasked with coming up with ideas for our contract and it's a little overwhelming!

~JJ

 

[SpunThings]

So, my husband and I are relatively new to this in terms of involving it 100% in our marriage. In my searching for information, friends, etc on some pages I've stumbled on contracts. So my question is for those in a LTR or marriage, do contracts have a place in a marriage? And if so, what kinds of things are included (doesn't need to be specific, just general ideas).

Thanks!!

~JJ

Contracts have a place in any relationship where the parties involved think it will help. Keep in mind BDSM contracts aren't legally binding or anything.

 

[M_SNashCouple]

Contracts have a place in any relationship where the parties involved think it will help. Keep in mind BDSM contracts aren't legally binding or anything.

Oh yeah, I know lol we are already married and don't believe in divorce. This is just a newer chapter in our relationship.

~JJ

 

[Primalex]

It's not quite clear what the contract is supposed to be about. A contract between a sadist and masochist will likely be more focused on the limits of sadism (like which areas of the body are off-limits for various reasons). A contract regarding dominance and submission should (imho) be focused on what the submissive actually gives up. An example can be found here.

 

[M_SNashCouple]

It's not quite clear what the contract is supposed to be about. A contract between a sadist and masochist will likely be more focused on the limits of sadism (like which areas of the body are off-limits for various reasons). A contract regarding dominance and submission should (imho) be focused on what the submissive actually gives up. An example can be found here.

Thanks! It's a starting point for me, gives me some ideas.
~JJ

 

[dilipfrmindia]

One thing to remember is that ... contracts are not to be 'final'. They need to evolve and be dynamic.
High risk work places like aviation, submarines and nuclear plants have standard operating procedures. You can think of your contract in that way.

You can set a goal and try to achieve it through some step by step improvement process. D/s can be goal driven as well. It makes it more interesting that way for some. The ultimate thing is that these standard procedures / protocols should be to make you both explore and expand your limits in a collaborative manner.

If you wish we can discuss more. I do not claim to be an expert but I do have some pointers that may help.

Feel free to send me an PM! I would definitively like to talk more since I might learn a thing of two as well!

~~
Me

P.S: Just so I realised you work in a hospital I am sure you understand the standard operating procedures laid out for each procedure / protocols especially if you work in an accreditated hospital! Well ... your contract can be just that!

I work in the hospital too ... What are you ? A nurse ? Doc ? Or work in some other capacity ?

And to be able to receive Private messages you might have to enable it in your account settings unless you have specifically wanted to avoid PMs.!!!

 

[richard_daily]

Some people like an air of formality, especially if high protocol and ownership are appealing to both parties. Contracts can be an important part of that.

A contract isn't intended to be a one-size fits all sort of thing, you'd have to draw it up to fit your personal needs and desires, and to fit within the parameters of the type of relationship that you both want.

It could be as simple as "D owns s", or it could be multiple pages stating types of acceptable behavior. It's can be as varied and as detailed as you want it to be.