Consternation via Spouses or Sign Other's Re: Da Board????

[Sparky Kronkite]

As you all may have surmised, Sparky does not visit the board for "hard sex or cybering" reasons. He's titillated and finds it fun and interesting but - it just doesn't do it for him when all is said and done. Sparky needs real life flesh.

Spark comes here primarily for psychotherapeutic reasons. Humor. Lit jousting. Information sharing. Fun!

What reasons are there for significant other's to display consternation regarding partaking in matters present on the Lit Board? What have been your experiences?

Jealousy? Snobbishness? Please - your experience? Your opinions?

 

[Ambrosious]

I'm with you, humor, psychotherapy, and to see Nitelight stack trees.

 

[TonyG]

I love hearing the pitter patter of angry voices.

 

[livin_simple]

My former spouse considered ANY interaction I had with other women to be threatening to her. If I spoke with another woman, I was flirting with that woman. If I mentioned how another woman had dressed or arranged her hair, I was either sexually attracted to that woman or criticizing my spouse.
It was continually a classic Catch-22. She maintained that her continuing friendships with other men was entirely different. That I had no cause to question those friendships and that I simply didn't give her the trust and respect she deserved.
She definitely had a low self-esteem, she said as much herself. I've concluded the only person who could truly please her was the mythical storybook knight in shining armor. A man so perfect he won't even smell after a day of hard physical labor.
Overall she is a very intelligent, caring and thoughtful person. We are still good friends. But the sexual side of life was, and still is, a continual mind torquer.

 

[Hecate]

No sweat her - SO doesn't know of Lit

 

[Ambrosious]

Oh

She is here, but y'all know that.

 

[Nobody Special]

Hey Sparkey I'm sorry to say this But I'm here for the same resons... it's Kind of Scary that we are both so simalr yet so different... Now stop Scaring me......

But I'm here cause of the psychotherapeutic,. Information sharing, Wife Swapping, Lit jousting and most of all, the Humor..

Now Cybering has never got me off, tho it has helped with some story Ideas tho, tho But I get bored with Cybering with in a Minute of the conversation..

E

 

[naudiz]

I've got no idea, Sparky. My fiance has absolutely no problem with the RP I do, the banter on Lit, any of it. If there's an interesting tidbit, I'll relay it to him, and he seems genuinely interested to hear it. Sometimes he'll hear me laughing at my computer and will ask what happened.

No jealousy, no consternation. A little vicarious enjoyment, and that hasn't hurt anything. Quite the opposite, actually. I think it helps that he understands whatever sexual RP I do is entertainment only. I don't take to heart the things happening to a character of mine. That character isn't me, I don't take it personally one way or the other, and he knows that. There's nothing for him to get jealous of, since there's never been any question of where the line is drawn between fantasy and reality.

Why I come here: entertainment. A little psychotherapy because being housebound is lonely, and a little banter passes the time. I like the deep conversations because I like to think about stuff. I like the light conversations because there's a fun collection of personalities here. Even if I don't reply to much of the light stuff, I get a kick out of it. I can't count the times those silly threads have picked me up on a low day. A little of this, a little of that. Despite the shy hangup, I dig people. Love to socialize. It's a little less scary when I don't have to be seen. Yeah, that's fucked up, but I'm getting better.

Lately, I've gotten so many bad vibes from the place I've considered moving on, but there's still so much good stuff to be had here, I'm just going to wait it out. Shit happens, then life continues. In the meantime, I'm going to try to fucking relax. I've been too tense lately, and reading over some of my own posts, I think yeesh, take a valium, girl.

See? Therapy!

 

[Merelan]

Naudiz, wait it out. This too shall pass.
My darlings know about it, read it, Starshine even occasionally posts. Though mainly about computers. Not sure if thats a sign or something.

 

[DriveSouth]

I'm with Ambrosious, she's here along side me, normally getting hot and bothered ...

 

[KillerMuffin]

As if the Stud could really care. My puter is in the bedroom about five feet from the bed, which he is usually sprawled on either reading or snoring. The upside is that he takes the cats and dogs away from my feet. They'd rather cuddle up with him.

He usually ignores it because you guys piss him off. Not too sure why, but it's been happening alot less since he's been nicely medicated.

 

[Isolde]

For me its the social interactions not to mention I have found some RPers who really challenge me in the roles that I am playing. I love meeting a challenge and I love to streatch my mind and writing abilities and I have found this a wonderful place to do it.

I too have found the humor and friendship here able to pick me up on a bad day. You guys are great and I love RPing with ya or just chatting away.

 

[Guest]

SO is a prude in comparison

 

[bulld]

Hell my wife found lit and told me about it. We both are in here everyday. She has her friends (cyber and buddies) and I have mine. At first we had a few problems but we worked them out. One of the thingsd that helped is when she talked to a friend and he was telling her how lucky I was to have her because she was willing to try things. His wife wouldn't try anything and that was the reason he was here, she only liked misionary position sex and that was it. My wife told me that she decided at that time that no matter what she was going to try to provide me with whatever I wanted as long as it would not hurt one of us. Since then sex has been 100% better. We also communicate better on all the things. My advise to you is to get her involved in what you are doing. If you can't do that at a minimum try to listen to her a little more and maybe try a few of the things that she wants to do and maybe she'll come around.

 

[naudiz]

Merelan

Oh, I'm not going anywhere. I get frustrated sometimes because some days it seems like the only way to get a thread going, or any kind of banter for that matter, is to drop a load of negative bullshit and watch people scurry around in a frenzy. Sure, I want attention now and then, but I'm not *that* desperate for it so I try to stay way from histrionics as a way of getting noticed. Most of the funny stuff that happens in my day is one 'you just had to be there' scenario after another, making the tale difficult to relate to a board of people who are more or less total strangers. So through no one's fault, I often find I have very little to say.

But a little frustration never hurt me. It's insignificant compared to the morning Sparky report, the Ambrosious and R Nitelight Show, and some of the great folks - too many to list - who make this place a fun way to kill some time each day. I don't see myself going away any time soon.

That said, I'm going to be gone for a week or so. After a comedy of errors, I finally - three hours before departure - have the tickets right here in my hot little hands. Well, next to my hot little hands, which are currently typing. See you all in about a week. Don't burn the place down without me.

 

[ContessaR]

Oh, the Insecurities of the Non-Creative...

I only found this site about a month ago, and I absolutly love it! My SO, on the other hand, is not entirely thrilled, esp. with my meager involvement with RP. As a writer, I really dig the RP as well as most of the other threads. It gets my creative (and otherwise) juices flowing.

I suppose I can see my SO's insecurities somewhat; he gets hot over the fact that I love to write erotica, and that writing erotica ignites me into creating other sorts of works. AND he gets hot that I like to cruise other porn sites and chat with the live girls. Still...he's not too keen on my interacting with other people here, even if I send him my posts. He feels that I am thinking about some other kind of ideal I fantasize about here when we are in the sack. Oh well, I suppose he'll learn in time.

I think this site is a fantastic forum for all us creative types, and I don't intend to diminish my happiness just because he's insecure.

PHEW! I feel better now.

 

[brazenblaze]

Why I come here... the entertainment. The humor gives me a boost on days that I need it, and the serious threads let me vent when I need that. Being new to the board and a bit on the shy side, I don't get involved in the lighter threads. However, I read them all, usually with tears in my eyes from laughing.

Hubby...he recommended Lit. over a year ago. Found a story that did something for him and asked me to read it and let him know what I thought. Well, we haven't left since. He knows that I come to the board and that I've made a few friends here that I spend time with on AIM. He supports it 100%. This isn't RL, and nothing that goes on here is going to happen there, so he is secure with our relationship. We view the BB, cyber and AIM as tools. Try something out here, work out the kinks and bring it into the relationship. Has worked so far.

Hell, after the "strip tease" video, I think he would support me quiting my job and spending all my spare time here. Hehe!

...Only 19 days until he gets home!!!!