Consensual nonconsent

[Naughtylo]

Yes please. X

 

[Otis_Ravelli]

I dated a girl like this. She loved being pinned down, hand over her neck or mouth, "fighting" back. All part of her fantasy. We had a safe word of course. She would cum very hard from this and also told me that before we started dating, she fantasized about me fucking her in my office w/o consent while people outside were working, obliviously. It was interesting for sure.

I had a very similar experience to this with a partner who warned me in advance that she would attempt to fight me off and say no and I should ignore her. It was my first encounter with anything BDSM related to the point that I didn't even realise it was an example of BDSM at the time, I was in my mid 20s and relatively inexperienced in such matters.

Even with advanced warning I was initially a little taken aback by just how real she made her resistance but I perceived remembering what she told me and it certainly ended up igniting something in me that I hadn't realised was even there.

 

[Baddad2004]

Had a woman that liked to do the “post orgasm torture” thing or long edging sessions. I know it’s different but it was fun

 

[BrightShinyGirl]

I dated a girl like this. She loved being pinned down, hand over her neck or mouth, "fighting" back. All part of her fantasy. We had a safe word of course. She would cum very hard from this and also told me that before we started dating, she fantasized about me fucking her in my office w/o consent while people outside were working, obliviously. It was interesting for sure.

I like being pinned down and “manhandled”. Not being hurt or degraded—just struggling against him and being overwhelmed. Having my legs forced open, feeling his weight on top of me. Feeling helpless. Being used and taken.

It’s one of my more shameful kinks, but god it gets me wet!

 

[Naughtylo]

I love it.

 

[Toffer_Guy]

Went and read the story, enjoyed it. Yes, big, huge line between the fantasy and the horrors of rape. Rapists deserve the harshest punishments. But in fantasy, even in the "nonconsensual" we can limit the aggressor to within our acceptable terms. (Nobody, or almost nobody, I imagine, fantasizes about contracting an STD or hepatitis) The danger comes when that big, huge line suddenly blurs and people try to drag the fantasy over into the reality, thinking at some level they can still maintain those limits. Unfortunately, humans tend to be operating on flawed programs.

Thanks. I was a little bit concerned I may have gone overboard with some level of the sexual violence. Things do get rather intense in the big gangbang scene at the end. I’ve only heard positives. I think it all being clearly fictional and stuff she’s enjoying tempers any of that.

When I had some test readers. A common issue readers had was they didn’t realize the scene at the end was a fantasy - despite the entire theme of the story being about fantasy. My solution was to add interludes at key points of the scene to point out it’s a fantasy she’s imagining for herself. Drinking some water, adjusting her toys, or thought she saw someone.

 

[Toffer_Guy]

It's a difficult one for sure. I got into scenes with a guy I was seeing last year that were very borderline. It's hard to admit sometimes (even to yourself) that such a fucked-up situation is doing it for you. There's some self-discovery as well, I found myself in extremely degrading circumastances and I craved more. It became about the degradation and humiliation. Not something you can discuss openly.

I have to imagine sharing something that intimate takes a LOT of trust. It’s hard to open up about such taboo fantasies. Always concerned the person will judge you or think it’s something you want to do for real. Even if it’s purely fantasy.

You have to have a lot of trust and do such roleplays with safeguards. Degrading and humiliation can be fine, in a controlled situation, but it should never be used against you outside of that consensual play. People should be allowed to be vulnerable during sex and still respected.

That’s something I went over in the story I wrote. How when the main character was younger she’d have all this intense rough sex she enjoyed, but she wouldn’t tolerate it when her lovers thought they could degrade her outside of sex. The struggle she had finding someone who knew where to draw the lines.

I’m kind of the same way with some of my incest fantasies. I have zero, real-world interest in ever trying it. It’s just a fantasy concept that excites me. The idea of doing something so forbidden. I’ll more often use pictures of women I see online to be the fantasy stand-in.

It’s not something I could ever easily talk about with a partners.

 

[LustyScribe]

I think trust is at the very heart of virtually all healthy exploration of sexual fantasies. Let's face it: MOST of us have some stuff hidden in the closets of our psyche that we're fairly sure would make the villagers snatch up their children off the street and board up the windows at the sight of us. Developing trust and confidence is liberating and cathartic. And fun.

 

[Massive_Ass69]

I love cnc. The thought of being held down or otherwise restrained, groped, eaten, and fucked turns me on like nothing else.

If you enjoy the same or you'd like to share thoughts, pics, gifs, or videos please join in.

https://64.media.tumblr.com/a177685ba3664b14f3e585beeee8a880/tumblr_ngc7f5fcsk1tgqup7o1_250.gifv

https://imgur.com/ivC7KRz

It might be my favorite, if not my #1 favor, it’s close to it!

 

[Naughtygirl201]

I think trust is at the very heart of virtually all healthy exploration of sexual fantasies. Let's face it: MOST of us have some stuff hidden in the closets of our psyche that we're fairly sure would make the villagers snatch up their children off the street and board up the windows at the sight of us. Developing trust and confidence is liberating and cathartic. And fun.

So true ....the first time I whispered it into my husband's ear.... he grunted and shuddered and came. It was totally reassuring.

 

[MerWilh]

Wow what a lovely thread to come across, must admit this is a big fantasy of mine ,it dates back when I was only 21 on a holiday on a Greek island, a bit drunk got in a taxi to take me back to my hotel, instead he drove me up the mountain telling me that all English girls were sluts leading there young men astray, he was around 65 bald ,fat , he did all kinds of things to me , was scared then incredibly turn on , wet horny, I think back and it still makes my married pussy so wet, mmm

That is a very hot story!

 

[Silvergrizzly31]

Like with most, communication is the key to having this be the most erotic. I was lucky enough to have found someone who loved that cnc, to where we made a contract of sorts (gotta cover my arse right lol), came up with a code action (she came over Friday and the code action was if she got a second drink of her green drink, that was the go ahead that I could take control) and I held her "captive" for the weekend. Super fun!

 

[magic_rat]

I know four women into this (we swing, and are involved in the kink community). Ironically, three of them have actually been raped in the past. From a psychological point of view I have no idea how that works for them.

My current partner has this fantasy big time. Not all the time, but when the mood takes her. Started with pillow talk about how I'd blindfold her and invite a couple of guys to fuck her while i held her down. Progressed to actually doing it.

Progressed on to me tying her to the bed and blindfolding her and inviting 3-5 guys to do what they want, no matter how much she begs them to stop (we have a safeword, obviously). Most times they've been guys we know so they do their thing in silence so she doesn't know who it it (she'll be tied and blindfolded before trhey arrive). Twice I've inclused a guy she really despises; if she knew he was there she'd stop everything dead and go mental. I love seeing him fuck her because it makes the scenario more realistic.

 

[strongnsensual]

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