condoms

[impressive]

I've not used a condom in a story (yet), although I'm not put off by those who do.

I like the author's endnote that carson used for his latest story. I might have to steal it.

 

[carsonshepherd]

I've not used a condom in a story (yet), although I'm not put off by those who do.

I like the author's endnote that carson used for his latest story. I might have to steal it.

Thanks, imp, I'm glad you noticed it.

My endnote was: This story is fiction. In real life unsafe sex kills.

My conscience wouldn't let me write a group-sex story that didn't include condom use without a disclaimer. I would never promote that. I think people are smart enough to know the difference between fantasy and reality, but I had to add that on for myself.

 

[User_Name]

I agree with condom use, as long as it isn't over done.

 

[angelicminx]

To each their own as far as using condoms...

When Carson and Rhys were writing their on-going saga here in the AH (those were the days, god I miss that!) they always used condoms and did it effectively. Search for the threads called "Oh Carson" and "The Best Place For Sex Toys" for examples! And be ready for the hottest M/M sex scenes ever! (Truly, even if you don't like M/M sex, it will leave you breathless.)

THANKS Logo!! OMG... incredible! Thanks to Carson and Rhys as well...

 

[Boota]

If I were going for realism and the situation warranted it, I would have the characters use a condom or birth control, regardless of what anyone thought about it. The one negative feedback I got from my story on Lit was from someone who was upset that there were "consequences" for the sexual encounter I portrayed. I don't know if the use of the condom would have bothered that reader as much as a potential pregnancy for a fictional character, but I didn't use any protection in that story, for a reason. The "bad" consequence was the whole point of the characters interaction.

I've read stories where condoms were used by the characters and it didn't seem to detract from the story at all. The stories where a guy gives his wife to a group of strange men to use for sex, but they don't use condoms, seem really unreal to me. It's usually the man professing to love his wife, but he allows her to take these huge risks with her health in order for him to get his rocks off watching her being gangbanged. Even in fiction that kind of thing rubs me the wrong way. If the husband doesn't care about her, fine. But if the story talks about how much he loves his wife, it just rings false to me. I know it's only a story, but it seems really untrue to the character that has been created.

 

[OhMissScarlett]

Actually, my concern in asking about condoms was in preventing STD's (guess that wasn't clear, since I referred to it as birth control.) My stories are tending to involve strangers having sex, so they obvioulsy don't know histories, etc. I didn't know if it was common to include condom use in these kinds of stories or not.
Thanks for all the feedback!
SJ

So glad you brought this up. This is an issue I'm dealing with in writing my latest story. To me, the idea that characters could be transmitting a disease is a mood breaker. In all modern stories I've written, condoms have been used.

That said, my new story deals with isssues of trust between a couple and the question of when it's okay to use another form of birth control if the couple knows they're both healthy. I would never vote someone down for not using condoms in their stories. I do feel like if the story is about a random encounter that responsibility should be taken on the author's part. I seriously doubt a barebacking story is going to make our readers go out and have unprotected sex, but I'd rather be a good example than a bad one.

 

[logophile]

To each their own as far as using condoms...




THANKS Logo!! OMG... incredible! Thanks to Carson and Rhys as well...

No problem Minx! I think that kind of writing should be spread around!

 

[oggbashan]

I have - as a device to emphasise responsibility and/or inexperience.

But then I'm notorious for including odd things in my stories. Kind people have commented that I have arranged that the climax of one plot happens in a committee meeting; that I include errant hedgehogs; that I am probably the first to mention dandruff in a sex story... etc. So why not condoms?

Og

Edited for PS: Sheep sometimes wander through the story...

 

[ElizabethWest]

Hey, Logo!

No problem Minx! I think that kind of writing should be spread around!

You missed one, darling. Try this! You may have to wade through some muck to get it all, but it's worth the hip boots.

 

[angelicminx]

No problem Minx! I think that kind of writing should be spread around!

Absolutely! I'm envious of their skill.

You missed one, darling. Try this! You may have to wade through some muck to get it all, but it's worth the hip boots.

Thanks darlin'!

 

[msboy8]

I apologize if this has already been discussed, but as a new erotica writer I would love to hear your take on the issue of birth control in stories. Do you mention condoms in your stories? Or do you leave it out?
I hadn't mentioned it, but don't want to be considered irresponsible by my readers.
Thoughts?
Thanks
SJ

Good question, in my experience reading and writing, Pregnancy and STDs are not considered.

 

[Rhys]

*Bah!* Hardly. You sir are a gentle man. And gay. As in the dictionary form and being happy and without worry.

I would spend many a happy night in your company as opposed to the best night possible in his.

You are right. You might still be walking after a night with Carson.

 

[Rhys]

I'm afraid the only sexy beast is the one being cuddled on the couch.

Cuddling is so lesbionic. *shudder*

 

[Joe Wordsworth]

Just'a like real life... condoms are an interruption. I prefer keeping interruptions to a minimum.

 

[carsonshepherd]

Cuddling is so lesbionic. *shudder*

Go make me a sandwich, willya?

 

[elsol]

I think it depends on the length, type of story, and character.

If the story is long enough and has a LOT of sexual action, at some point you're going to have to explain a few things away.

Fear of STD's, unwanted pregnancies... more than three or four sex scenes and as a reader at least the pregnancy issue is one that I won't be able to put down.

Some stories call for it... it's real... and death from sex is real.

Character... when I write, if the character reaches for a condom that's him, and I dont get in the way of what my characters want to do... they stop talking to me and the only thing worse than the voices in my head is when the voices stop.

The only time I feel lonely.

Sincerely,
ElSol

 

[elfin_odalisque]

Actually, my concern in asking about condoms was in preventing STD's (guess that wasn't clear, since I referred to it as birth control.) My stories are tending to involve strangers having sex, so they obvioulsy don't know histories, etc. I didn't know if it was common to include condom use in these kinds of stories or not.
Thanks for all the feedback!
SJ

In Litland, birth control's not really necessary. You only get pregnant in the Interracial quarter and only T-girls have periods!

Seriously, I think Colleen is closest. Only put in the story what is essential for the plot and atmosphere. The rest is understood and, even if you didn't mention it, perhaps he did put a condom on. He may have scratched his left ear while she took her contact lenses out. We don't really want to know if it's unimportant 'noise'.

In fact, too much 'reality' can put people off sometimes.

Elle

 

[NoJo]

I think that writing about two strangers having sex with no birth control conveys a different story than two strangers having sex with birth control. depends on the story you want to write.

 

[strickland83]

Using Condoms

Birth control is usually (but not always) mentioned in my stories. It's part of the reality. Given the situation, sometimes it's a condom and sometimes it is not. Sometimes, like in After Fidel, both appear because that is essential to the plot.

Strickland83

 

[dr_mabeuse]

Porn takes terrible liberties with the turth. Our women are always beautiful, our men are all handsome, virile, and sensitive, the sex is always fantastic, and everyone comes together in obliterating climaxes. No one ever leans on someone's hair or gets a cramp in their foot or farts or gets tired and suggests a break.

It's lies. All lies. Porn lies because it's not as much about telling the truth as it is about idealizing it. It's about making sex look good: sexual propaganda.

So no, my characters don't use condoms unless there's something especially sexy they can do with them. They don't worry about pregnency or STD's either, because no one in my stories ends up that way.

About the only reality-based rule I follow is: no vaginal after anal. That practice is just so wrong that it really bothers me.

 

[ElizabethWest]

I've only posted one erotic story and my male character used a condom. The couple were essentially strangers and it just seemed like not only the responsible thing to do but also the natural thing to do.

I don't think the story lost anything in the application of the condom. At least no one's complained...

 

[Colleen Thomas]

Never use them in my works

 

[rgraham666]

Never use them in my works

Quelle surprise.

 

[Rhys]

Go make me a sandwich, willya?

Get your own damn sandwich, twat.

 

[carsonshepherd]

Get your own damn sandwich, twat.

I'll make you one while I'm up... and I don't care about crumbs in the sheets.