Condom Trouble

[sonnetUK]

We're new here, sorry for the awkwardness

We've been together four years and haven't had full sex yet. We cannot get a condom to roll on properly and want to be very careful to take double precautions beside the pill, due to a previous scare in another relationship. We've tried all sorts of condoms, but nothing seems to unrollproperly. We went to a clinic and they had us use condoms on a plastic model, confirmed OK. Both of us really want to go further, but no really isn't a good time for a pregnancy and the risk is a real passion killer.

Thanks in advance for any pointers you may be able to offer.

J&K

 

[peachykeen]

hmmm. not sure what to tell you...

Mr K and I, although married and monogamous, use condoms as our preferred method of familly planning, combined with some judicious counting and calendar-marking. (Although we are also prepared for the possibility of an enduring 'accident', should that be the case, so I don't neccessarily recommend the latter for just anyone.) I keep them stashed around the house and one or two in my purse, so that spontaneity is not sacrificed. However, although there is an occasional fumble, actually getting one on had not presented tremendous difficulty.

 

[sonnetUK]

Thanks for the thoughts. We've lived together for 2 of the four years, but with various other things to contend with right now, a family is the last thing we need.

The problem is that at 27 I still have my V plates, while K has never really wnjoyed sex with her previous partners.

Very frustrating

 

[PinkOrchid]

 

[UC_Gav]

ive had some condom trouble myself.

The first time i tried one it rolled on ok but seemed baggy and loose. 'Fair enough' i thought, its just too big (i knew they came in larger sizes so i wasnt upset about bein too small for it).

The ones i used were from my cousins Ex GF. She said they had plenty and back then i was too shy to walk into the chemists and ask for them. I think it was simply my cousins ego gettin such a large size i had been assured i was actually bigger than he.
(embarrassing changing room incident with said ex GF)

Anyway im going off the point. Perhaps instead of looking for problems with your applying techniques maybe its the condoms themselves. Are u using too large a size, does he have a 'problem'
I dont want to pry but u need to give details if u want help.

 

[Guest]

 

[UC_Gav]

can always tell when there is one of the classier posters around

 

[Guest]

 

[UC_Gav]

i never said anal was classless. I was simply joking about the Bluntness of your post.

Didnt mean anything by it.

 

[lovechild27]

im amazed these people lived together for two years and just having sex...oy vey! The pill is something like 99.50% effective if you take it right. I, along with many others, have been on oral contraceptives for years and never had a scare. There are always diaphrams, iud's, spermacides and foams. You could try pulling out...hell even that works some. Maybe you are unrolling it the wrong way...like putting it on upside down or something...?? Try a doctor to look at other options because you do have them.

 

[lovechild27]

The problem is that at 27 I still have my V plates

wuts a v plate?

 

[Valeryque]

Try rolling it on more than what you think it should be. My boyfriend and I were having sex and I thought I put it on all the way, and it slid off...and was half way out...and after that I pushed back further a few more times, and it stayed. If he's on a little on the big side, like my bf is, that usually helps. Hope it does for you too!

 

[sonnetUK]

Thanks All. Some useful ideas to go forward with.

 

[zantac666]

One reason is you have the wrong side ad a right side if it will ot roll on right try flipping it over then it should roll on right.

I had that problem then i saw the problem and the it worked right.

Good luck.

 

[ericred50]

I would be pleased to demonstrate, the correct way. I am very experienced, it says so under my name.

 

[Mstrskey]

Condom trouble....

I will begin by saying that when used properly, the pill should give you all the birth control you need. If disease is also a concern then naturally using condoms as a barrier is the correct choice.
Like peachykeen, hubby and I also use condoms as our method of BC. It is due to health reasons on my part, virtually all BC pills cause my blood pressure to elevate to dangerously high levels. I digress though...my husband said often that the condoms did not feel as if they were "fitting right", they didn't feel snug at the base the way they should, uncomfortable etc. etc. We switched around and tried virtually every brand on the market and finally found one that gives a snug, comfortable fit without feeling as if he has a plastic dish glove on his penis. They are called Inspiral, and they have a nautilus shaped spiral design at the head which allows for the room of head of the penis to swell. This turned out to be the problem. As the head of the penis would engorge with blood it would pull other condoms causing them to roll up. At any rate you can get more info at www.inspiral.tv
Try out some other brands and see if you can find one that works. Try out other sizes and see if perhaps you're larger or smaller then the brand you're using now. Make certain you're putting them on the right way and not inside out...trust me, in the heat of the moment it's an easy mistake to make. Make certain you're fully erect when putting them on. I know lots of guys who'd put one on only partially erect and then be suprised when it rolled up on them as they grew.
If none of this works then try another barrier method, female condoms for example.

 

[virginleo20]

k....

the 1 and only time ive actualy tried on a condom was after they were given tot he student after sex ed class in school....

i had a hard time putting it on.. it just wouldnt fit and it felt uncomforotably tight.

I know im average in size.. so i have no idea as of yet what the problem was. ( since it was hs students anf jrh student they might have been giving out the (individual finger cloves) or somehting)

In any occation the only other thing i can quess is that you might have the condom on the wrong way... or maybe they are not lubricated properly... maybe too much....
and hense they dont unroll all that easily.

if you have condoms left over from the 70's that can also represent a problem since they do tend to go stale within a couple of years. ( are they greyish brittle or oxidised....)

j/k...

in any case measure him and findout what the correct size is.

then just try out different brands heck on the average ralphs or Vons shelf next to the feminine hygeine products there must be atleast 8 different brands and sizes ... not to mention on what they have behind the counter.
( now imagine what a sex shop might have)
then u can go on and try the flavors...... everything from chocolate to strawberyy to god only knows....

Just remember its not tootsie pop.

 

[ericred50]

For what it is worth, I may have missed a point some where, I have please correct me, but has any body suggested that first before you put the condom on to the cock, it needs to be aroused to its full length, other wise you have no chance of "putting" it on.

I have several suggestions for making a cock hard, anybody care to here about them LOL.

 

[lovechild27]

I WOULD LIKE TO HEAR THESE SUGGESTIONS ERICRED...lol


I dont get why guys complain about condoms being tight...that is how they stay on!

 

[DuckLover]

I guess I'm just lucky that condoms have always seemed to fit and nearly always stay on just fine. <shrug> It sounds like you've gotten some great advice here; I recommend you heed it.

I, too, am curious what a "V plate" is. If you were female, I'd guess it stood for Virgin-plate and was slang for the hymen. For a guy, I have no idea. Can anybody shed some light on the subject?

 

[lovechild27]

well..im guess she is at least in her 20's....would a 20 yr old woman have ANY hymen left at all?


I WISH HED TELL US WHAT A V PLATE IT

hint hint hint....

 

[virginleo20]

lovechild27....

I was not really complaining but rather just trying to make the point that if something is so small that it cuts off blood sirculation...
its not going to fit properly and there will be a risk of breakage.

but yeah... there are some idiots out there whom do not want to wear condoms because "they feel a little snug"... all i can say to those men is that.. well too bad when u get children and a couple of social diceases the slight snugness will seem as a lesser evil.

 

[ericred50]

Lovechild 27 said " I WOULD LIKE TO HEAR THESE SUGGESTIONS ERICRED...lo l "

Suggetions for getting a hard on, find an attractive desirable woman, who needs all the care and attention that you can give. Tell her that she is wonderful and sexy, and that you can't manage without her. Her look would be enough to arouse me.

 

[Noor]

I would take your GF with you to the doctor and have them show you both how to put one on your penis not some model. If you are not getting something, the dr will be right there and can understand the problem. If you are in the states, I would choose a planned parenthood dr, they usually have seen everything.

 

[NYSubGrpplr]

And my anal sex comment comes from a couple I knew that didnt believe in birth control, so the only practiced anal sex.
Strange people, I know.

Oh, and having anal sex does not make you classless.

Mabey a strange women but a very happy man.