Concerned friend.

[Cruel2BKind]

I have recently gotten a fantastic Friend with benefits. The first one since I started taking birth control. We decided, consequently, to have sex without a condom. The first two times, he pulled out, and the third time he decided to stay in, panicked, pulled, but it was too late.

I was unconcerned, He badgered me to take a plan-b.

Twenty dollars and 150 mg of progesterone later, I'm not sure if I want to hug him for being such a concerned sensitive guy, or smack him silly for not trusting in modern medicine.

 

[PennLady]

Be glad it all worked out. BC is good but not foolproof (although I'm sure you use it according to all directions ).

 

[Handley_Page]

Twenty dollars and 150 mg of progesterone later, I'm not sure if I want to hug him for being such a concerned sensitive guy, or smack him silly for not trusting in modern medicine.

Do both (and tell him);
of course, it could be no particular desire to be a Father, I 'spose.

[ Thought. How come these "real" incidents do not appear in and of our stories ? ]

 

[lovecraft68]

I have recently gotten a fantastic Friend with benefits. The first one since I started taking birth control. We decided, consequently, to have sex without a condom. The first two times, he pulled out, and the third time he decided to stay in, panicked, pulled, but it was too late.

I was unconcerned, He badgered me to take a plan-b.

Twenty dollars and 150 mg of progesterone later, I'm not sure if I want to hug him for being such a concerned sensitive guy, or smack him silly for not trusting in modern medicine.

I think you should ask Rush Limbaugh what he thinks.

 

[3113]

Let him do what makes him comfortable--i.e. wear the condom or pull out (so long as he knows he's on clean-up duty). Benefits, after all, are benefits

 

[Stella_Omega]

You say you take birth control pills? And because you take them , you are having sex without condoms? Yet he badgered you to take PlanB anyway?

I'm confused. Or maybe he is.

Also, condoms prevent more than babies. I'm sure you know that, and you have reason to believe you are both disease free, right?

 

[PennLady]

You say you take birth control pills? And because you take them , you are having sex without condoms? Yet he badgered you to take PlanB anyway?

I'm confused. Or maybe he is.

Also, condoms prevent more than babies. I'm sure you know that, and you have reason to believe you are both disease free, right?

Yes, forgot to mention the other reasons to use condoms. Also, it occurred to me that one has to be taking the Pill for a week (at least that's what I recall) before you have otherwise-unprotected sex. Perhaps the gentleman is just a little paranoid, but I can't blame him.

 

[nomoretears00]

Use every precaution you can. Unless you've changed your major you have waaaaay too much college left in front of you to have something happen now. Be safe and be smart, girl.

~happy little side note: I have a 18 yr old running around here. I was on the pill when I got pregnant with him.

 

[Cruel2BKind]

I got tested for disease several weeks ago, and he says he's never had sex without condoms.

Seeing how paranoid he was about plan-b, I trust him. >_<

Anyway, I'll humor him. He's definitely worth it.

 

[PennLady]

I got tested for disease several weeks ago, and he says he's never had sex without condoms.

Seeing how paranoid he was about plan-b, I trust him. >_<

Anyway, I'll humor him. He's definitely worth it.

I'm not saying you shouldn't trust him, or that he's not worth it. I would advise you to consider, though, that paranoia about a potential pregnancy is different than a fear of passing on (or receiving) a VD/STD. nomoretears has a good point; you have so much time and opportunity in front of you. Make sure you make of it what you can.

 

[lovecraft68]

I got tested for disease several weeks ago, and he says he's never had sex without condoms.

Seeing how paranoid he was about plan-b, I trust him. >_<

Anyway, I'll humor him. He's definitely worth it.

Sigh.

I've never had sex without a condom before coming from a guy is as believable as "it will make me love you more."

Not only am I a guy, hence the user of every line imaginable as a guy your age, but now raising daughters to guard against said lines.

He might be a stand up honest guy or he might be full of shit. For all you know he could have several FWB's and all it takes is one of them to have something and now you have it too.

Putting it bluntly that wonderful feeling of "bareback" nothing between us sex, will last a few minutes.

herpes, kid, is forever.

 

[sr71plt]

Gotta agree with those counseling that you don't trust anyone but yourself in these matters. You're sounding a bit young and naive, Cruel, on this--even to the point of posting about it.

 

[3113]

Putting it bluntly that wonderful feeling of "bareback" nothing between us sex, will last a few minutes.

Well, speaking from the other side--and maybe this is just not-sensitive-enough-me--but with vs. without isn't as much of a wonderful feeling to us ladies as with vs. without is to guys. Remember, for most of us the sensitive areas are outside of the vagina (or inside and need a lot more pressure--aka, the g-spot), while with guys the sensitive area is going to be inside the vagina (that's a bit of word play there, get it? ), and so it really makes a difference if that sensitive area is covered up in latex or not.

I'll give this guy credit that he wanted to keep on using condoms and wasn't the one pressuring her to switch to b/c pills so that *he* could get that wonderful bareback feeling.

 

[autoplot]

Look like you're going to have to be lectured all day, Cruel2BKind! If anyone knows what's good for YOU, it's the Internet.

/wags finger and clucks tongue

 

[sr71plt]

Look like you're going to have to be lectured all day, Cruel2BKind! If anyone knows what's good for YOU, it's the Internet.

/wags finger and clucks tongue

Of course if you don't want responses, you probably shouldn't be posting your life to the Internet to begin with.

 

[lovecraft68]

Look like you're going to have to be lectured all day, Cruel2BKind! If anyone knows what's good for YOU, it's the Internet.

/wags finger and clucks tongue

Yes, because none of us here on the site have been in her/his position ever. Or raised kids or received advice from parents.

We're just a bunch of bots. But not story reading bots as we have discovered recently they don't exist.

 

[lovecraft68]

Well, speaking from the other side--and maybe this is just not-sensitive-enough-me--but with vs. without isn't as much of a wonderful feeling to us ladies as with vs. without is to guys. Remember, for most of us the sensitive areas are outside of the vagina (or inside and need a lot more pressure--aka, the g-spot), while with guys the sensitive area is going to be inside the vagina (that's a bit of word play there, get it? ), and so it really makes a difference if that sensitive area is covered up in latex or not.

I'll give this guy credit that he wanted to keep on using condoms and wasn't the one pressuring her to switch to b/c pills so that *he* could get that wonderful bareback feeling.

I get what you're saying, but understand that at their age they may not have been figured out just yet. So I was going with what they are thinking.

Hell dildos and vibrators aren't the "real thing" and women enjoy them plenty.

 

[Cruel2BKind]

I understand your concern, all of you, and I thank you for it. I've gotten a thicker skin over time, so none of this is particularly shaming or upsetting. I am part of a demographic that isn't particularly known for good decisions, intelligence, or good life choices.

However, you do not know him. And if I trust him, that is my decision.

Also, I post my life BECAUSE you are strangers. There is a surprising overlap of things you can tell your best friends and complete strangers. This is a website devoted to sex. If I want to talk about how I have a cute fuck-buddy who is paranoid about pregnancy, that's a lot less weird (in my book) then talking about how much you want to fuck your mothers, piss on your boyfriends, or tie up your partners and hit them.

Perspective, people.

 

[autoplot]

Of course if you don't want responses, you probably shouldn't be posting your life to the Internet to begin with.

Sure, but at the same time, the OP didn't exactly ask for anyone's advice or approval, either.

 

[sr71plt]

Sure, but at the same time, the OP didn't exactly ask for anyone's advice or approval, either.

Sure she did. That's why people post to the Internet.

 

[Cruel2BKind]

Sure, but at the same time, the OP didn't exactly ask for anyone's advice or approval, either.

Sure she did. That's why people post to the Internet.

Pilot is right. You never post anything that you don't want people to look at and comment on.

But AUTOpilot is half right. I was never asking for snarky advice.

I am self-aware (thank you) that I am a young woman posting about trusting an equally young man about his disease-free status. I was aware when I posted, and I am aware now. I understand why you think I am naive pilot. I understand why everyone thinks I am naive. I can tell when they are giving honest advice, and I can tell when they are you.

 

[lovecraft68]

I understand your concern, all of you, and I thank you for it. I've gotten a thicker skin over time, so none of this is particularly shaming or upsetting. I am part of a demographic that isn't particularly known for good decisions, intelligence, or good life choices.

However, you do not know him. And if I trust him, that is my decision.

Also, I post my life BECAUSE you are strangers. There is a surprising overlap of things you can tell your best friends and complete strangers. This is a website devoted to sex. If I want to talk about how I have a cute fuck-buddy who is paranoid about pregnancy, that's a lot less weird (in my book) then talking about how much you want to fuck your mothers, piss on your boyfriends, or tie up your partners and hit them.

Perspective, people.

I'll just add one thing and be on my way.

If he were that paranoid about pregnancy he would always use condoms even with you on birth control. Because the flip side of the coin here, is that from a guys point of view how do we know you're on the pill.

But your choice of course and just as most of us here did not heed to the advice of our elders neither will you. Hopefully you skate away with no hard lessons learned.

 

[Dual_Triode]

Since enough advice has been offered regarding safe sex and baring your shortcomings, I will simply extend my congratulations on finding a good dance partner.

 

[lovecraft68]

Just a friendly warning here. Come November make sure you vote Democrat, or this thread will be deleted because it speaks of birth control and the morning after pill.

If the "barefoot and pregnant" party wins you will be all but forced to breed.

 

[3113]

If the "barefoot and pregnant" party wins you will be all but forced to breed.

Or become a lesbian. I sure hope men start to realize that taking away the birth control, etc. from women means they ain't gonna get laid....