Compersion in the polyamorous community..

[Ssbbw4u1974]

I'm polyamorous... I think I have always been since I was early 20s.
A few weeks ago, I posted on a FB group (18+/poly/BDSM) inquiring about the definition of a kink where my partners (AKA my sexy friends) are thrilled that I have other partners..
They get a joy hearing how guy B or guy C flirted with me, or masturbated to me..

Apparently, poly people call this compersion..?

Thoughts??

 

[PhoenixRyzing]

I'm polyamorous... I think I have always been since I was early 20s.
A few weeks ago, I posted on a FB group (18+/poly/BDSM) inquiring about the definition of a kink where my partners (AKA my sexy friends) are thrilled that I have other partners..
They get a joy hearing how guy B or guy C flirted with me, or masturbated to me..

Apparently, poly people call this compersion..?

Thoughts??

Well, as I understand it compersion just means being happy that your partner is experiencing joy with someone else. Basically the opposite of jealousy. It could be sexual joy or romantic joy or just having a fun time on a date. It’s not a kink. But yes some people do get turned on by hearing about your sexual encounters, I’m not sure what you call that as a specific kink.

 

[DennisB]

We are not polyamorous or have been but we have invited others into our bed from time to time. I must be getting older because when I “think” about my wife with another man, it is not jealousy that I feel but it is not happiness or eroticism either. Hard to explain. However, when I am there and actually “see” her with another man, I do experience compersion. When we have discussed our sexual pasts, I am quite pleased and aroused when she describes past sexual encounters. With that being said, you would think that when I think about her being with another, the thoughts would fall in line with eroticism? It is strange to me.

Like I said, I must be getting older. Lol

 

[FantasySharer1]

I've developed deep, real fantasy that I would welcome if it became real - of my wife having a long-term sexual and romantic relationship with her brother.

This hasn't happened in real life but when I imagine them making love, even kissing or touching one another, whispering sweet things to each other, all I feel is genuine, deep, incredible love for both of them and happiness.

I know that her brother is incredibly well-endowed and could fill her in a way that I never could. They already have such a close and loving relationship and I wish they would break the taboos and take it to the next level. The thought of them laughing together in my presence, making love while I help them, insert him into her, lay under them while they make love, clean up their creampies, kiss her while she gets absolutely pounded into pleasure by him, makes me full of joy.

I don't know if this is compersion - I just know that she would feel pleasure with him above and beyond anything and want that for her. I know that her love - physically and emotionally - would heal much of the hurt he has from his ex-wife. I dream every night of the idea of them making love and her waking me up in the morning dripping with his cum from her pussy, so I can eat it out of her.

 

[Britva415]

I'm polyamorous... I think I have always been since I was early 20s.
A few weeks ago, I posted on a FB group (18+/poly/BDSM) inquiring about the definition of a kink where my partners (AKA my sexy friends) are thrilled that I have other partners..
They get a joy hearing how guy B or guy C flirted with me, or masturbated to me..

Apparently, poly people call this compersion..?

Thoughts??

This isn't a kink.

Let me put it another way: Compersion isn't a kink, and if your partners' "thrill" is the way you describe it, then that isn't compersion.

If your partners were feeling compersion, they'd be happy for you, not for themselves or the guys who are attracted to you.

Maybe they're just getting off on having a girlfriend who other guys wank to. I guess that might be a kink, or kind of gross, depending how you feel about it.

 

[Ssbbw4u1974]

They're happy for  me, yes...

 

[Britva415]

They're happy for  me, yes...

Great! That's the compersion part.

It's separate from the kink part.