catalina_francisco
Happily insatiable always
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- Jul 29, 2002
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I have had it mentioned to me of late by a few posters that we seem to be going in a direction here of separating and segregating, and that it is of concern to them. I have to agree in part, though for the most part I do not think it is people's intention when they begin a thread which invites participation of people only from a particular country (not cultural discussions, but discussions only between those of a particular country or culture), or of a particular role (eg. all switches or all subs or all Dom/mes etc. invited as the ones wanted in the thread), or set up a thread for visiting or posting to a particular poster, usually the thread starter...much more likely it is done without thinking how it might look or feel to others.
We have over the years managed to establish a fairly cohesive community here full of characters and personalities of varying and sometimes unique qualities, with diverse experiences and knowledge to share with everyone. For the most part I think that is what makes it one of the best and busiest BDSM forums on the net which has not fallen foul to descending into nothing but posing, bitching, inane chatter and bragging. It is a place where many have found they can come for unbiased and honest advice and support, and from many viewpoints, not to mention friendship...some of us have been fortunate enough to meet others from here and loved the experience.
Hey, and don't forget our many marriages and relationships which have occurred between fellow BDSM Litsters.....that has to be some kind of record, if not magic!!
While I appreciate some people might want to come to the forum and just have one thread to visit, or a place they can call theirs, it doesn't do much toward maintaining the sharing nature we have encouraged and developed here where everyone Dom/me, sub/slave, switch alike is treated and seen as an equal member of the community. It also is not possible by Lit rules which state a thread starter does not won that thread or rule what happens within it. We are not here to establish hierarchies, or play out roles to the degree Dom/mes hold top position and command the attention and respect of all others beneath them....we come here as equals to share our experiences, joys, sorrows, disappointments, frustrations, bad moods, good moods, triumphs, thoughts and knowledge and hopefully support each other and grow a little from the whole blend of personalities, roles, and lives lived.
I don't want this taken the wrong way, or as a way of singling out people, as it is not the intention because as I said, I believe most if not all do not establish threads with the intention of appearing to exclude others or place themselves above everyone else or be seen as 'special' or with more knowledge than the rest...I just want to encourage people to think outside their first thought and see how their actions might impact on some, and the community spirit as a whole. There are some here, both past and present who have commanded respect and trust without it being their intention, but done so through their words and the way they have established trust with others through the truth of those words, openness, and their sharing with everyone. As I said, it is much like when you meet someone online as a prospective partner....you learn to trust and respect them bit by bit through their behaviour and words, not because they tell you that you must or limit knowledge to their thoughts only....Shadowsdream is one who springs to mind who has developed that level of trust in this community....there are others also. We are a community, have been for several years, hopefully we will continue to be.
Catalina
We have over the years managed to establish a fairly cohesive community here full of characters and personalities of varying and sometimes unique qualities, with diverse experiences and knowledge to share with everyone. For the most part I think that is what makes it one of the best and busiest BDSM forums on the net which has not fallen foul to descending into nothing but posing, bitching, inane chatter and bragging. It is a place where many have found they can come for unbiased and honest advice and support, and from many viewpoints, not to mention friendship...some of us have been fortunate enough to meet others from here and loved the experience.
Hey, and don't forget our many marriages and relationships which have occurred between fellow BDSM Litsters.....that has to be some kind of record, if not magic!!While I appreciate some people might want to come to the forum and just have one thread to visit, or a place they can call theirs, it doesn't do much toward maintaining the sharing nature we have encouraged and developed here where everyone Dom/me, sub/slave, switch alike is treated and seen as an equal member of the community. It also is not possible by Lit rules which state a thread starter does not won that thread or rule what happens within it. We are not here to establish hierarchies, or play out roles to the degree Dom/mes hold top position and command the attention and respect of all others beneath them....we come here as equals to share our experiences, joys, sorrows, disappointments, frustrations, bad moods, good moods, triumphs, thoughts and knowledge and hopefully support each other and grow a little from the whole blend of personalities, roles, and lives lived.
I don't want this taken the wrong way, or as a way of singling out people, as it is not the intention because as I said, I believe most if not all do not establish threads with the intention of appearing to exclude others or place themselves above everyone else or be seen as 'special' or with more knowledge than the rest...I just want to encourage people to think outside their first thought and see how their actions might impact on some, and the community spirit as a whole. There are some here, both past and present who have commanded respect and trust without it being their intention, but done so through their words and the way they have established trust with others through the truth of those words, openness, and their sharing with everyone. As I said, it is much like when you meet someone online as a prospective partner....you learn to trust and respect them bit by bit through their behaviour and words, not because they tell you that you must or limit knowledge to their thoughts only....Shadowsdream is one who springs to mind who has developed that level of trust in this community....there are others also. We are a community, have been for several years, hopefully we will continue to be.
Catalina
