Communication

[ABSTRUSE]

It's been therapy for ME -- and I am a sharing type of person. Stay. Pull up a couch. Tell me about your childhood.

Well I'm glad it's helping you.

My childhood was fine, it's adulthood that sucks...lol.

 

[cloudy]

I think it's very possible to have a connection so deep with someone that often words aren't necessary. I've had that a couple of times, and it is wonderful.

On the other hand, one of those I had a connection like that with started having some very, very rough patches in his life (Abs, babe, I know you know who I'm talking about), and that connection had started to become a liablity - he was beginning to drag me down with him.

I finally had to just let it go.

It felt like I was ripping out part of my soul, but I knew it had to be done for either one of us to see the light again.

Thankfully, he's much better now, and we're still close, just not anything like we were before. We probably always will be, since we feel so much a part of the other, but it just goes to show that there's good and bad in everything.

 

[impressive]

I think it's very possible to have a connection so deep with someone that often words aren't necessary.

I agree. Do you think it possible to reach that point without words?

 

[rgraham666]

One thing only touched on here, is that if you are the one trying to communicate, be sure you know what it is you're communicating.

So many of us have painful baggage that when we're hurt or angry it isn't the thing at hand that causes the pain.

It was something else that happened 'once upon a time' and the thing we're 'communicating' about just triggered it.

'Know Thyself' is always good advice.

 

[impressive]

One thing only touched on here, is that if you are the one trying to communicate, be sure you know what it is you're communicating.

Okay. Let's say I know what I WANT to communicate. I've thought long and hard about what to say and how to say it. Without adequate return feedback, how can I be sure I'm getting the intended message across?

 

[Guest]

Okay. Let's say I know what I WANT to communicate. I've thought long and hard about what to say and how to say it. Without adequate return feedback, how can I be sure I'm getting the intended message across?

By speaking from the heart, in plain and simple language, and without beating about the bush.

You'll soon find out if the message was received as intended, whether you get the response in a direct way or not. You'll no doubt be able to judge how future interactions go and take your cues from that.

Lou

 

[impressive]

By speaking from the heart, in plain and simple language, and without beating about the bush.

Agreed -- but if it's really THAT simple, why do so many people get bogged down by miscommunication?

Makes you want to shake some folks!

 

[Guest]

Agreed -- but if it's really THAT simple, why do so many people get bogged down by miscommunication?

Makes you want to shake some folks!

It's because they stop and think too much about what they're about to say. Anything and everything that comes out of their mouths had to be planned first, in a very measured way, instead of merely just coming out and saying exactly what is on their minds.

It's bloody frustrating. I know someone like that, and it does my head in!

Yep, shaking would be good.

I'm not saying we all should just blurt out everything we think, without consideration for the impact it might have, but it really doesn't hurt once in a while, especially when important things need to be said.

Lou

 

[Guest]

Oh, yes. Didn't I tell you she's a screenwriter?

 

[impressive]

Oh, yes. Didn't I tell you she's a screenwriter?

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