Coming out... kinda

[VTDarkAngel]

Something has been rolling around in my mind for years and I've been wondering if any of y'all have ever experienced this.
I'm male. I don't pass myself off as female and probably never will.
I wear skirts sometimes. Nothing overly girly (floral stuff, pink, lacy things, etc.), but stuff that's not quite mainstream. I mostly do this when I'm on the trails hiking, where folks don't tend to question it. However, I've yet to gather the guts to go out by myself around town and whatnot. I think part of it is that I'm afraid that some of my friends who don't know about this yet will find out. The problem is, I don't know what the best way to tell them this would be. I'm guessing it would be to find someone to hang out with who knows about it. Am I right, or is there something better?

 

[SweetErika]

Do you really need to tell your friends who don't know already? Do you think they'd be upset about you not telling them?

What are the chances you'll run into them while you're wearing a skirt/dressed?

Is it important for you to wear a skirt around town, or would a kilt give you similar feelings without garnering attention? I'm not suggesting you shouldn't wear skirts wherever you want, I'm just suggesting what could be a happy medium for some people.

Have you considered hooking up with your local alternative (like even crossdressing, sex-positive, GLBTQ & Allies, etc.) communities, and dressing for those events? Like you said, being with people who don't mind and even embrace your interests might be really fun and freeing.

 

[Nasty_Deeds]

Something has been rolling around in my mind for years and I've been wondering if any of y'all have ever experienced this.
I'm male. I don't pass myself off as female and probably never will.
I wear skirts sometimes. Nothing overly girly (floral stuff, pink, lacy things, etc.), but stuff that's not quite mainstream. I mostly do this when I'm on the trails hiking, where folks don't tend to question it. However, I've yet to gather the guts to go out by myself around town and whatnot. I think part of it is that I'm afraid that some of my friends who don't know about this yet will find out. The problem is, I don't know what the best way to tell them this would be. I'm guessing it would be to find someone to hang out with who knows about it. Am I right, or is there something better?

Why tell anyone? If you tell your friends, or let them find out, it probably won't make your life any better, and it could create problems. If you want to wear a skirt, or anything else you might want, go somewhere you aren't likely to run into anyone you know. Finding someone who isn't judgmental to hang out with would likely solve your problem. There is no advantage to telling anyone about what you do.

 

[VTDarkAngel]

Thank you for the input.
Erika, you do bring up some good points. They would probably be somewhat understanding about me not telling them, but some also wouldn't want to know.
The idea of seeing them while in a skirt is one of the reasons I haven't done it a lot in certain places. As for kilts, I do like them, but I like skirts that are much longer than that. It's a bit harder to go unnoticed with those. I'll have to give your idea a try, because I know we have some off-the-wall people in Roanoke who'd probably embrace it. Granted, I've found a soul or two to hang out with, but the occasion just hasn't arrived... yet.

 

[Nasty_Deeds]

Thank you for the input.
Erika, you do bring up some good points. They would probably be somewhat understanding about me not telling them, but some also wouldn't want to know.
The idea of seeing them while in a skirt is one of the reasons I haven't done it a lot in certain places. As for kilts, I do like them, but I like skirts that are much longer than that. It's a bit harder to go unnoticed with those. I'll have to give your idea a try, because I know we have some off-the-wall people in Roanoke who'd probably embrace it. Granted, I've found a soul or two to hang out with, but the occasion just hasn't arrived... yet.

There is nothing wrong with wearing a skirt, but anything even the slightest out-of-mainstream is more than most people can handle. Don't get rid of your old friends, just add some new friends when you want to dress. No advantage in upsetting the friends already have.