Maxwellmurder
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Some one tell me this is normal?
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Comfort needed please? Or not, depending on the case.
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fuckmeat
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Hi there. There are a few issues that come to mind that you might want to consider.
Firstly, I don't know whether the contact you have with your gf is regular. Is this a problem that occurs when you haven't seen her for a while or you haven't had sex for a while, perhaps when she has her period? If that's the case, it could be that your more frequent masturbating has desensitised you a little, so that vaginal intercourse is less stimulating for you.
Have you had your blood pressure checked? Problems with BP can cause problems with maintaining an erection, which in turn effects ejaculation. BP issues can fluctuate too, which would explain why this isn't always a problem.
If you look back, are the times when you have trouble climaxing times when you have a lot of stress or worry in your life? It sounds simplistic maybe but unless you sit down and look for correlations, you won't figure out what is triggering this.
Hope you figure it out. If you can't it might be a good idea to visit your GP. They really have heard it all before and they'll be able to set your mind at rest by ruling out any underlying medical cause.
Firstly, I don't know whether the contact you have with your gf is regular. Is this a problem that occurs when you haven't seen her for a while or you haven't had sex for a while, perhaps when she has her period? If that's the case, it could be that your more frequent masturbating has desensitised you a little, so that vaginal intercourse is less stimulating for you.
Have you had your blood pressure checked? Problems with BP can cause problems with maintaining an erection, which in turn effects ejaculation. BP issues can fluctuate too, which would explain why this isn't always a problem.
If you look back, are the times when you have trouble climaxing times when you have a lot of stress or worry in your life? It sounds simplistic maybe but unless you sit down and look for correlations, you won't figure out what is triggering this.
Hope you figure it out. If you can't it might be a good idea to visit your GP. They really have heard it all before and they'll be able to set your mind at rest by ruling out any underlying medical cause.
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It's also possible that some meds you are taking are effecting your performance. Even tylenol or aspirin, etc can effect things to some degree.
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satindesire
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You know, my ex was like this, and I know at least one guy her eon Lit talks about his difficulty reaching orgasm regularly as well.
They (as far as I know) are/were both completely healthy and had no mental problems regarding body image, performance anxiety or sex in general, so really...I think that's just YOU, you know what I mean? There are some men (and women) who just naturally have a difficult time reaching orgasm, and generally they come to accept it and find that once their partners accept that it's not "them" that's preventing the orgasm, they're fine.
They (as far as I know) are/were both completely healthy and had no mental problems regarding body image, performance anxiety or sex in general, so really...I think that's just YOU, you know what I mean? There are some men (and women) who just naturally have a difficult time reaching orgasm, and generally they come to accept it and find that once their partners accept that it's not "them" that's preventing the orgasm, they're fine.
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What Fuckmeat brought up about noting each situation is very good advice. Keep a notebook or whatever and if it happens again take the time to check in with yourself, physical, emotional, environment, job, other stress. The more info the better. You might see a pattern, you might not but it's worth a try for yourself.
As for your girlfriend's feelings that she's not satisfying you, you'll need to continue to reassure her that she is. Whether or not you climax I'd take the come down time to talk softly to her, let her know you desire her, lust for her etc. I'd do outside the bedroom too. I know I'd feel inadequate in some way...rational or not, true or not, I'd feel it and would so want some assurances.
Gather the info and if it persists see your doctor and share what you learned, s/he might see something you don't. I wish you the best.
As for your girlfriend's feelings that she's not satisfying you, you'll need to continue to reassure her that she is. Whether or not you climax I'd take the come down time to talk softly to her, let her know you desire her, lust for her etc. I'd do outside the bedroom too. I know I'd feel inadequate in some way...rational or not, true or not, I'd feel it and would so want some assurances.
Gather the info and if it persists see your doctor and share what you learned, s/he might see something you don't. I wish you the best.
