College friend erotic experience: Still think about it. What do you think?

[CuriousGuy77]

Hello my friends.

I identify as a straight male, but somewhere along the sex spectrum not directly aligned with straight because I find the thought of certain experiences with another male to be erotic. As a side note, I also find it erotic and exciting to think about being with a feminine trans, boobs and penis. I apologize in advance because I am not sure of the correct or appropriate description and do not want to offend anyone.

I'm curious as to your thoughts on an experience I had many many years ago with my best friend in college and I continue to find the memory of it extremely erotic. My friend and I are still very close. In college, for a few months after going out with our girlfriends, we'd come back to either his apartment or mine drunk of course and would pleasure each other. He started it off by telling ne one night he wanted to JO together. I was so nervous it took me a few minutes to get hard. He took the lead and helped me get there. That lead to us jacking either other off and then to rubbing our hard cocks together until we came on each other. It was incredible. We graduated to sucking each other off before the fun stopped for good. I still think about rubbing oil on his cock and stroking him until he got hard and came. Also, what it was like to suck him off which was also incredibly erotic. We both are married, with kids and have stayed friends over the years. As far as I know he hasn't had another experience like this and neither have I. Now on the other side, I love a women's body and sex with my wife is fantastic. I also think about being able to play with a hard cock and maybe sucking as well. I am not interested in kissing or anal with a man. Over the years I have had lots of wonderful gay male friends and one actually kissed me when we were drunk one night. So, I've tried that and it was not as good as when I kiss women. Not interested in kissing more guys. I have always been into working out, and body building so I am attracted to muscular men and muscular woman. My wife is a D1 Athlete, tall and muscular. To this point, I find it arousing to think about playing with, and exploring a man's body that's in really great shape. Giving him a massage and happy ending. So, the question for those taking the time to read this is, do you think I'm Bi, or how would you describe me?

As a side note, unfortunately I am not able to share this story or my desire to explore this with my wife. She's not down with it, though she loves the thought of being with another woman and me.. Huh? Now that's not fare...LOL.

Thanks for your thoughts.

 

[Dreadman1]

I am sure someone will come along with a better answer, but you are who you are.

I hooked up with an army buddy a couple times over the years, but it has been like 30 years since I was with a guy. I still think about back then, and fantasize about doing it again...

#labelfreefornow

 

[PFWilly]

If you are still friends with that college buddy, I think you’d not risk very much by reminiscing with him a little bit, in a “we had some good times together and I enjoy thinking occasionally about how we enjoyed our friendship.” You just have to find the right moment and nudge the door open without an expectation that it will lead anywhere. You said you don’t know if he has done anything, just open the door a bit and give him time/space to respond. If he doesn’t respond, that’s totally okay. I sense he wouldn’t end an enduring relationship over a casual friendly remark. If he does respond in a fashion to move forward, great.

 

[JiminNC]

Hello my friends.

I identify as a straight male, but somewhere along the sex spectrum not directly aligned with straight because I find the thought of certain experiences with another male to be erotic. As a side note, I also find it erotic and exciting to think about being with a feminine trans, boobs and penis. I apologize in advance because I am not sure of the correct or appropriate description and do not want to offend anyone.

I'm curious as to your thoughts on an experience I had many many years ago with my best friend in college and I continue to find the memory of it extremely erotic. My friend and I are still very close. In college, for a few months after going out with our girlfriends, we'd come back to either his apartment or mine drunk of course and would pleasure each other. He started it off by telling ne one night he wanted to JO together. I was so nervous it took me a few minutes to get hard. He took the lead and helped me get there. That lead to us jacking either other off and then to rubbing our hard cocks together until we came on each other. It was incredible. We graduated to sucking each other off before the fun stopped for good. I still think about rubbing oil on his cock and stroking him until he got hard and came. Also, what it was like to suck him off which was also incredibly erotic. We both are married, with kids and have stayed friends over the years. As far as I know he hasn't had another experience like this and neither have I. Now on the other side, I love a women's body and sex with my wife is fantastic. I also think about being able to play with a hard cock and maybe sucking as well. I am not interested in kissing or anal with a man. Over the years I have had lots of wonderful gay male friends and one actually kissed me when we were drunk one night. So, I've tried that and it was not as good as when I kiss women. Not interested in kissing more guys. I have always been into working out, and body building so I am attracted to muscular men and muscular woman. My wife is a D1 Athlete, tall and muscular. To this point, I find it arousing to think about playing with, and exploring a man's body that's in really great shape. Giving him a massage and happy ending. So, the question for those taking the time to read this is, do you think I'm Bi, or how would you describe me?

As a side note, unfortunately I am not able to share this story or my desire to explore this with my wife. She's not down with it, though she loves the thought of being with another woman and me.. Huh? Now that's not fare...LOL.

Thanks for your thoughts.

Once you suck cock, you’re hooked. If she’s ok with another woman, how about another couple? Then… your opportunity arises.

 

[CuriousTxGuy]

...I'm curious as to your thoughts ....the question for those taking the time to read this is, do you think I'm Bi, or how would you describe me?

I wouldn't describe you. I'd slowly, gently get ahold of your cock and rub it thru your pants and look you in the eyes. Maybe lick my lips a bit, then put some spit on a finger and reach inside your pants and lube that cock up a bit.

So you see, there wouldn't be any talk at all.

 

[Lotus_Kitty]

Hi CuriousGuy77,

What a beautifully described lovely experience you've shared with your good friend! I am glad you remained close.

The way you describe your orientation sounds to me like you may be a 1 or 2 on the Kinsey scale of sexuality (from entirely heterosexual to entirely homosexual). Mostly heterosexual attraction but more than incidentally homosexually attracted. I happen to be a Kinsey 1 or 2 myself, a woman mostly attracted to men, but a bit towards women too (lots when aroused).

I think the whole range of the scale is beautiful because it is all connection between people, connection that ideally brings pleasure and joy. I hope those close to you either see you that way already or may come to see you that way too.

I would not presume to speak for nor make assumptions about your wife. Were I in your place (which I'm not, nor do I know much about your relationship dynamics), I might gently ask why she is not down with idea of you feeling attraction to men.

I feel so much sympathy for you because you feel you cannot discuss this with your wife. I very much wish, for both of you, that this was something you could talk about. I completely understand that some topics, given our society and upbringing, may be very difficult or scary to talk about. I hope that in a loving relationship we could all find enough safety for those conversations but it's not an ideal world, is it?

side note: Today I told my husband I might maybe possibly be polyamorous. Not intending to seek other partners, just not opposed and feel positively about the thought of it. Scary as hell for me, especially since he said me sharing nude pictures with friends would cause him to feel jealous. (I don't even want to sleep with them but I am an exhibitionist and they had expressed enthusiastic interest at the prospect.) I feared hurting him, I feared being disapproved of. Fucking scary. The talk went so much better than I imagined! I feel such tremendous relief and I really, really want such relief for you too.

I wonder how much is her being opposed to even talking and how much is perhaps fear on your part of how she would react? I don't know if she is opposed to talking about it at all or just opposed to you acting on that attraction, just opposed to an MMF threesome. Perhaps you are assuming that means she doesn't want to discuss attraction at all. I have no idea, but you could certainly answer those question better than I.

What does she think about *feeling* attraction as opposed to *acting on* attraction? Attraction is a feeling, not an action. It does not reflect on your desire for her, if I'm hearing you correctly. Does your attraction to men feel differently to her than your attraction to other women (which I assume you feel [edit: and don't act on]). Attraction is not action nor a desire to cheat. Would she feel that you think something is missing in the marriage? I see it more as you love your wife, and you also wish to show physical affection to a close friend. If either you and your wife or the other couple are monogamous, then clearly that's a no go. If both couples are poly or open, and your wife were comfortable, then that's a different situation. I just assume everyone is monogamous unless they state otherwise but I know that's sometimes not an accurate assumption.

I won't ask what your girlfriends at the time thought of you and your friend having sexual experiences together. I don't know if there was an expectation of exclusivity at the time, or if they would have considered those acts to violate exclusivity. I am not shaming nor judging. I am however wondering if there was secrecy due to fear of societal reprisal for doing "gay stuff" or shame due to internalized homophobia. If there was fear or shame, I can see how that might certainly color your current feelings about talking to your wife. You said you started being physical while "drunk of course" so that makes me think maybe there was fear/shame. May you be free of shame about your attraction. May you live somewhere you can be free of fear (that sure isn't where I live and that sucks).

Lastly, I wonder if you would consider yourself demisexual and/or polyamorous? I don't know if you know those terms or not, so please forgive me if you do. Demisexual people are sexually attracted to people they have close emotional bonds with. Polyamorous people desire a sexual and/or romantic relationship or experiences with more than one partner. The relationships need not all be life partner relationships, it could look more like an open marriage.

I send you care and respect. May you find the answers you seek. May you find peace. May you find fulfillment. Most of all, may you find the safety to talk about this with your wife, if at all possible.

[edit: If you do end up talking, maybe ask your wife how she would feel about just you and your friend, not a threesome with her. That's if all stakeholders, you, your wife, your friend and his wife, were ok with it.]

[edit: Someone else suggested you both play together with the other couple, if they're up for it. If she doesn't want to be with another man but is interested in being with another woman, I definitely see possibilities for everyone being satisfied.]

Take care and be well,
Lotus_Kitty

 

[Astroman72]

Hello my friends.

...So, the question for those taking the time to read this is, do you think I'm Bi, or how would you describe me?

As a side note, unfortunately I am not able to share this story or my desire to explore this with my wife. She's not down with it, though she loves the thought of being with another woman and me.. Huh? Now that's not fare...LOL.

Thanks for your thoughts.

I don't know about labels, but one thing I've concluded after a number of years on this forum: the percentage of guys who crave some type of gay sex is much, much greater than the percentage of guys who are completely gay in their orientation. I believe most guys have some interest in women and most guys have some interest in cock. Just my speculation--I could be wrong.

 

[Tayloroc]

You’re exactly right. I still live breastscand oussy. But I’d prefer a man now

 

[ShinyCrazyDi]

Personally, although I identify as bi (I'm a cis woman) even THAT'S more flexible on the sexual spectrum. Labels can be useful when entering them into a system like a dating/hookup app but if you're just trying to identify yourself for your own sense of self, I wouldn't worry too much about it.

But if it helps to define a label - you might want to take the Kinsey scale test (there are plenty available free online) For me, sometimes I fall on a 2, sometimes a 3.

But I think you could describe yourself as bi, or bi-curious or straight with a bi kink. If you're looking for a hookup for a man to JO with like your experience at college I'd suggest making that clear on whatever app you use. That all you want is mutual masturbation, or a blowjob, & nothing else or romantic. Enjoy yourself, stay kinky!

 

[Cardinal]

Hello my friends.

I identify as a straight male, but somewhere along the sex spectrum not directly aligned with straight because I find the thought of certain experiences with another male to be erotic. As a side note, I also find it erotic and exciting to think about being with a feminine trans, boobs and penis. I apologize in advance because I am not sure of the correct or appropriate description and do not want to offend anyone.

I'm curious as to your thoughts on an experience I had many many years ago with my best friend in college and I continue to find the memory of it extremely erotic. My friend and I are still very close. In college, for a few months after going out with our girlfriends, we'd come back to either his apartment or mine drunk of course and would pleasure each other. He started it off by telling ne one night he wanted to JO together. I was so nervous it took me a few minutes to get hard. He took the lead and helped me get there. That lead to us jacking either other off and then to rubbing our hard cocks together until we came on each other. It was incredible. We graduated to sucking each other off before the fun stopped for good. I still think about rubbing oil on his cock and stroking him until he got hard and came. Also, what it was like to suck him off which was also incredibly erotic. We both are married, with kids and have stayed friends over the years. As far as I know he hasn't had another experience like this and neither have I. Now on the other side, I love a women's body and sex with my wife is fantastic. I also think about being able to play with a hard cock and maybe sucking as well. I am not interested in kissing or anal with a man. Over the years I have had lots of wonderful gay male friends and one actually kissed me when we were drunk one night. So, I've tried that and it was not as good as when I kiss women. Not interested in kissing more guys. I have always been into working out, and body building so I am attracted to muscular men and muscular woman. My wife is a D1 Athlete, tall and muscular. To this point, I find it arousing to think about playing with, and exploring a man's body that's in really great shape. Giving him a massage and happy ending. So, the question for those taking the time to read this is, do you think I'm Bi, or how would you describe me?

As a side note, unfortunately I am not able to share this story or my desire to explore this with my wife. She's not down with it, though she loves the thought of being with another woman and me.. Huh? Now that's not fare...LOL.

Thanks for your thoughts.

Don’t concern yourself with labels, who cares what others would label you as.
Sounds like you had a great experience, one that you’ll never forget and one that makes you want to do it again.
Probably not going to be easy to find a buddy like that and not get caught so it might be best to not risk your marriage and just fondly enjoy the memory.

 

[Excitabletom]

I had alot of sex with a friend in high school. It was so amazing. I still think about sucking his cock. My only regrets are I never let him cum in my mouth and I never got fucked by him. Damnit!!!

Sounds so much like me back in high school!

 

[HotLoadLover]

I'm curious as to your thoughts on an experience I had many many years ago with my best friend in college and I continue to find the memory of it extremely erotic.

Without knowing either of you, I can all but guarantee that he remembers every moment of it and probably continues to find it as erotic as you do, or else he would avoid your company. While he *might* be trying to suppress the memory, I'm sure it's still there. The suggestions others have posted about gently re-opening that door are probably your best shot.

He may not want a repeat, but I think that if you were alone with him, having a few friendly drinks, and you were to casually reminisce that “we had some good times together and I enjoy thinking occasionally about how we enjoyed our friendship.” -- you'd only have to look into his eyes to know your answer. He's either going to be uncomfortable and find a reason to go home, or he's going to be receptive to the idea of resuming those good times.

 

[slideby]

Hello my friends.

I identify as a straight male, but somewhere along the sex spectrum not directly aligned with straight because I find the thought of certain experiences with another male to be erotic. As a side note, I also find it erotic and exciting to think about being with a feminine trans, boobs and penis. I apologize in advance because I am not sure of the correct or appropriate description and do not want to offend anyone.

I'm curious as to your thoughts on an experience I had many many years ago with my best friend in college and I continue to find the memory of it extremely erotic. My friend and I are still very close. In college, for a few months after going out with our girlfriends, we'd come back to either his apartment or mine drunk of course and would pleasure each other. He started it off by telling ne one night he wanted to JO together. I was so nervous it took me a few minutes to get hard. He took the lead and helped me get there. That lead to us jacking either other off and then to rubbing our hard cocks together until we came on each other. It was incredible. We graduated to sucking each other off before the fun stopped for good. I still think about rubbing oil on his cock and stroking him until he got hard and came. Also, what it was like to suck him off which was also incredibly erotic. We both are married, with kids and have stayed friends over the years. As far as I know he hasn't had another experience like this and neither have I. Now on the other side, I love a women's body and sex with my wife is fantastic. I also think about being able to play with a hard cock and maybe sucking as well. I am not interested in kissing or anal with a man. Over the years I have had lots of wonderful gay male friends and one actually kissed me when we were drunk one night. So, I've tried that and it was not as good as when I kiss women. Not interested in kissing more guys. I have always been into working out, and body building so I am attracted to muscular men and muscular woman. My wife is a D1 Athlete, tall and muscular. To this point, I find it arousing to think about playing with, and exploring a man's body that's in really great shape. Giving him a massage and happy ending. So, the question for those taking the time to read this is, do you think I'm Bi, or how would you describe me?

As a side note, unfortunately I am not able to share this story or my desire to explore this with my wife. She's not down with it, though she loves the thought of being with another woman and me.. Huh? Now that's not fare...LOL.

Thanks for your thoughts.

I don't think labels are that important. What is important, is that you know for yourself that you enjoy being sexual with both men and women! That's something to both rejoice about and be proud of. I'm happy for you.

 

[wankerholic42]

Hello my friends.

I identify as a straight male, but somewhere along the sex spectrum not directly aligned with straight because I find the thought of certain experiences with another male to be erotic. As a side note, I also find it erotic and exciting to think about being with a feminine trans, boobs and penis. I apologize in advance because I am not sure of the correct or appropriate description and do not want to offend anyone.

I'm curious as to your thoughts on an experience I had many many years ago with my best friend in college and I continue to find the memory of it extremely erotic. My friend and I are still very close. In college, for a few months after going out with our girlfriends, we'd come back to either his apartment or mine drunk of course and would pleasure each other. He started it off by telling ne one night he wanted to JO together. I was so nervous it took me a few minutes to get hard. He took the lead and helped me get there. That lead to us jacking either other off and then to rubbing our hard cocks together until we came on each other. It was incredible. We graduated to sucking each other off before the fun stopped for good. I still think about rubbing oil on his cock and stroking him until he got hard and came. Also, what it was like to suck him off which was also incredibly erotic. We both are married, with kids and have stayed friends over the years. As far as I know he hasn't had another experience like this and neither have I. Now on the other side, I love a women's body and sex with my wife is fantastic. I also think about being able to play with a hard cock and maybe sucking as well. I am not interested in kissing or anal with a man. Over the years I have had lots of wonderful gay male friends and one actually kissed me when we were drunk one night. So, I've tried that and it was not as good as when I kiss women. Not interested in kissing more guys. I have always been into working out, and body building so I am attracted to muscular men and muscular woman. My wife is a D1 Athlete, tall and muscular. To this point, I find it arousing to think about playing with, and exploring a man's body that's in really great shape. Giving him a massage and happy ending. So, the question for those taking the time to read this is, do you think I'm Bi, or how would you describe me?

As a side note, unfortunately I am not able to share this story or my desire to explore this with my wife. She's not down with it, though she loves the thought of being with another woman and me.. Huh? Now that's not fare...LOL.

Thanks for your thoughts.

What a lovely story which aroused me somewhat. I’m a gay guy who has had experience with women and enjoyed most of them, but I still classify myself as gay. So, if a straight guy has the occasional dalliance with another guy, does that mean he’s not straight anymore? I don’t think so.
We seem to be in a world of labelling these days. To me bi-curious implies a more or less heterosexual man who has a desire to enjoy intimacy with another man, but has never done so.
I happen to have a penchant for straight guys and happily, I have experienced a countless number of them in my active life. I’ve never been into anal sex and although I enjoy oral, my main fetish is giving handjobs and watching a cock ejaculate. And I don’t require reciprocation.
Maybe that’s my secret. Perhaps being wanked off by an expert pair of hands gives a straight man pleasure without him thinking: ‘Oh, God! I’ve just been brought off by another man - I can’t be straight anymore!’ Certainly, the guys I’ve pleasured don’t appear to think like that.
I have a current married friend who enjoys watching straight porn while I stroke him off. He tells me in explicit detail how much he enjoys fucking his wife, which turns me on, but claims she is not as good as me when it comes to masturbation. And he loves masturbation! Believe me, I can’t imagine that he’d suddenly fall in love with me and leave his wife. He just enjoys a ‘bit of extra-marital without complications and that suits both of us fine. With no labels!

 

[TheDubbs]

Don’t worry too much about labels, they’re all bullshit anyway. You like what you like, and even that may change as you get older and have new experiences. I’d say lean into it. You only get one life, may as well have as many experiences as possible!

I agree with whoever said you should find a way to subtly bring it up to your friend. As someone who had a similar experience, I guarantee he thinks about it too. One time maybe would’ve just been a fluke, but you guys were doing it for MONTHS, progressing from mutual JO to sucking each other off? Trust me, he is just waiting for you to bring it up.

Hope something comes from it. Feel free to PM me if you want to chat about our experiences and work through what you’re feeling!

 

[wifes_fag]

I sucked several guys in college. Things were a lot more open there. I guess away from home and feeling your oats. I shaved my legs and got hit on quite a bit. There was a bar just off campus we would go to a lot. I learned pretty quick it was gay/trans friendly. I met my wife there. She was from the same little high school as me about 40 miles away but was a grade below me. We had always liked each other in school. I was wearing girls denim shorts to show off my smooth legs and a pair of narrow strapped girls sandals. I was with my boyfriend and she was with a girl. She felt of my leg and said she never had any idea I was gay. I said I never had any idea she was lezzie. We both a big laugh. She said not fully. We started seeing each other and we are still married.

 

[40sBiCuckCple]

I had alot of sex with a friend in high school. It was so amazing. I still think about sucking his cock. My only regrets are I never let him cum in my mouth and I never got fucked by him. Damnit!!!

My experience started in high school when I was seduced by a “30ish” married couple. It was wonderful, but I kept it hidden until I graduated. I wish now I’d have been able to enjoy sex with boys my age back then. Once I went off to college I was able to go back home and make up ffor a little of that lost opportunity.

 

[wifes_fag]

My experience started in high school when I was seduced by a “30ish” married couple. It was wonderful, but I kept it hidden until I graduated. I wish now I’d have been able to enjoy sex with boys my age back then. Once I went off to college I was able to go back home and make up ffor a little of that lost opportunity.

things were definitely easier in college. lots of cock needed sucked and lots of cocksuckers. lots of weird parties on friday and saturday nights. lots of lezzies. kids trying new things. nobody cared either

 

[Uncut1969]

My experience started in high school when I was seduced by a “30ish” married couple. It was wonderful, but I kept it hidden until I graduated. I wish now I’d have been able to enjoy sex with boys my age back then. Once I went off to college I was able to go back home and make up ffor a little of that lost opportunity.

Did you have both of them ?

 

[wifes_fag]

I tried a little of it all

 

[Uncut1969]

No college for me but had a jo buddy that we satisfied each other to completion! I wish I had gone farther and still think about it as opportunities missed! I am sure he wouldn’t have any problem me sucking his cock!

 

[wifes_fag]

If he will let u jack him he will let u suck it

 

[Uncut1969]

If he will let u jack him he will let u suck it

If I knew what I know now it would have been different for sure!

 

[wifes_fag]

Did you ever get to suck any cock

 

[Uncut1969]

Did you ever get to suck any cock

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