Collaring

[CutieMouse]

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[serijules]

I handed my boys a collar and said "there you go."
Seeing someone's eyes light up when you do something offhandedly can sometimes be really romantic, actually. Worked well for me.

Ma'am prefers this way as well....she just simply handed me a wooden box engraved with dolphins (her symbol) and the collar was inside. I've belonged to her ever since.

New collars are often made to wait for, and the most ceremony she does is surprise me by telling me to put it on and that I'm not allowed to remove it.

Ceremonies of any type are a huge turn off to me...I don't even enjoy watching other collaring ceremonies or even talking about them, it just seems too overdone and cliche' for me. Im not sure why I'm like this...even weddings are a turn-off, heh. I understand the significance for others, but I find my comfort and joy in the smaller things and am uneasy with large displays.

 

[SexSweetheart]

Sexsweetheart, I don't believe anyone is trying to be rude, but your questions are just a bit... mind boggling. (The very cutsy avatar that reminds me of nursey decor, only adds to the surrealness of your posts.)

I for one, get this very strange fishbowl feeling when I read this thread- like someone has no real interest in BDSM, or the people who practice it, but wants a bunch of easy, black and white answers for a story.

10 minutes of lurking in the forum could have told you Netzach was a Domme, and has a submissive, a slave, and several clients (she's a professional Dome).

Asking someone if they enjoy being a submissive is well... a dead question. Why would someone be submissive if they didn't enjoy it? Reading threads on this board would give you a lot of information about how submissives view themselves, their "place" with regards to BDSM, etc.

I'm still totally confused as to what you are asking, wanting, or expecting from the BDSM forum, through this thread.

Hello

I picked my AV because of my love for Giraffes. This one was sent to me around Valentines day and thought it was perfect for me. Yes it is cute and perhaps a decoration you put up in a child's room but than again, why only for a child?

Sorry to say I have an interest in this lifestyle but never found anyone to share it with. I don't know all the rules that go with it. Have looked on the BDSM boards and never found what I'm looking for. I just asked a question for anyone who is willing to tell me how they were collar. I can only see what is told to me and don't understand everything. Perhaps I'm just a dreamer even at my age.

Maybe I ask dead questions because I don't know better or don't know who to discuss it with.

Can I gather from the way answered my question that you are a Domme?

 

[SexSweetheart]

Ma'am prefers this way as well....she just simply handed me a wooden box engraved with dolphins (her symbol) and the collar was inside. I've belonged to her ever since.

New collars are often made to wait for, and the most ceremony she does is surprise me by telling me to put it on and that I'm not allowed to remove it.

Ceremonies of any type are a huge turn off to me...I don't even enjoy watching other collaring ceremonies or even talking about them, it just seems too overdone and cliche' for me. Im not sure why I'm like this...even weddings are a turn-off, heh. I understand the significance for others, but I find my comfort and joy in the smaller things and am uneasy with large displays.

Hello

Thanks for letting me know. It is interesting to know how some things are done. Some people are not interested in large events but quiet individual events. I'm a one on one kind of person myself and I would like the quiet gift with no one around.

 

[CutieMouse]

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[Kajira Callista]

This is an alt or an idiot. I haven't decided which yet.

 

[CutieMouse]

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[Daddyslilpet]

I've actually corresponded with this poster via email, and she's really a nice lady.

 

[CutieMouse]

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[catalina_francisco]

I've actually corresponded with this poster via email, and she's really a nice lady.

Have to say after checking the profile I also have had contact with her a long time back and from memory found nothing sus. Guess like many, this is just a situation of not knowing how to put a million questions in order and without feeling naive perhaps.

My own collaring was also intimate and not a ceremony of any sort for others. He put the first collar around my neck as he gave me my first kiss at the airport when we met for the first time.....the second collar was simply placed around my neck outside the shop where he bought it.

Catalina

 

[SexSweetheart]

There is no reason why the image should be restricted to a child's enjoyment; however, it isn't what one would expect to see on an adult oriented site, and is thus, a bit disconcerting.



The only "rules" are Safe, Sane and Consensual- beyond that, everyone designs a dynamic that fits the particular view/opinion/needs within their relationship.

The only way to learn about BDSM is through study or practice - which means devoting an equal amount of energy to discovery, as fantasy, as seeking out a partner. You've been given quite a few answers, and a few links. Google is a good resource, as are links through the threads in the BDSM Library, which I linked in an earlier post. Local organizations often put on workshops or seminars; there is a plethra of reading material on the subject (Greenery Press is a good publishing house). Generally speaking, if one wants something in Life, one must do the necessary work to get it.

This question has be somewhat curious...may I ask what it was about my post that left you with the impression that I am a Domme?

Maybe I can't see the information I'm looking for because of the way things are stated. You are right about searching things out and I will continue to do the searching.

As for you impression you are a Domme is the manner in which you responde to my request.

 

[Betticus]

You just pin her down, tear her clothes off, give her a very thorough lashing until the tears are flowing. Then you put the collar on her and explain that she now belongs to you.

Then aftercare.

 

[SexSweetheart]

Have to say after checking the profile I also have had contact with her a long time back and from memory found nothing sus. Guess like many, this is just a situation of not knowing how to put a million questions in order and without feeling naive perhaps.

My own collaring was also intimate and not a ceremony of any sort for others. He put the first collar around my neck as he gave me my first kiss at the airport when we met for the first time.....the second collar was simply placed around my neck outside the shop where he bought it.

Catalina

Hello,

You are right about trying to ask the right question, it's not easy. Perhaps the only way is being about to have a private chat with them on an IM and as the conservation goes on, the questions will be answered.

That is so sweet the way you were collared. This is the kind of thing I like to know. With the two together, it was a inmate thing between that know one else would know what was going on, that is, other than lovers kissing and you man placing a necklace around your neck.

You answer and another that stated here is making it easy for me to do what I want in the story I'm writing.

Another question, when you are with your Dom, all other Dom's respect your collar and the position you have with your Dom?

There are some other questions, that you may want me to chat more privately. If you PM me, I can you give you email address.

Sexy

 

[SexSweetheart]

You just pin her down, tear her clothes off, give her a very thorough lashing until the tears are flowing. Then you put the collar on her and explain that she now belongs to you.

Then aftercare.

On really, that sounds very rough and uncaring. Is that what you did?

 

[SexSweetheart]

I don't mean any disrespect, and she does seem terribly sweet; I'm really confused as to how to help/advise/what information to give that will be of use.

I don't take your statements as disrespectful, just trying to pin me down on what I'm looking for. It is not easy when all the experiences you have had have not been the best or with the right person.

The only way to give help and advise on the need information is to meet a Submissive that is free to chat about inmate things between her and her Master. Most of the subs I have meet have remained closed mouth because they are not permitted to tell tales out of school.

 

[CutieMouse]

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[SexSweetheart]

I've actually corresponded with this poster via email, and she's really a nice lady.

Hello Dixicritter

Have not seen you on in along time. How are things? How was your visit with your hubby?

Sexy

 

[Shankara20]

(For the record, I most often identify myself as a masochistic submissive.)

[hijack]
your just being mean to yourself...


oh, now I see what you meant


[/hijack over]

 

[SexSweetheart]

This is an alt or an idiot. I haven't decided which yet.

Hello,

What do you mean by alt?

I'm not an idiot, just lacking information.

 

[Betticus]

On really, that sounds very rough and uncaring. Is that what you did?

Nah, that's just because kitten will read it and get all teased and bothered. Then she will do something Sammy to get put in the corner.

 

[CutieMouse]

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[SexSweetheart]

Finding the language to figure out what you want, need, and expect from a BDSM relationship can be very hard, I agree.

I'm still confused about being viewed as a Domme... I guess it's one of those areas in which I don't see myself, as others see me. *shrug*

(For the record, I most often identify myself as a masochistic submissive.)

As for it being difficult to find someone willing to discuss details of a relationship... yup. I never discuss our intimate moments. Period. Not even with my best friend who is like a soulmate to me. It has nothing to do with being "allowed" or not- I just like keeping certain things private.

There really are some great books, that have excellent examples of scenes or daily life for couples, as well as websites linked in the Library thread where various opinions/views on the Lifestyle are discussed. Lit's BDSM forums are a great resource, but it means wading through a lot of posts to find the information you're seeking.

Interesting point of view. You must have a very strong Dominate side that shows through.

Perhaps that is part of my problem as well. I have a very strong protective side because of past experiences that have left major emotional scares.

 

[SexSweetheart]

Nah, that's just because kitten will read it and get all teased and bothered. Then she will do something Sammy to get put in the corner.

Ah, just teasing someone. Who is Sammy? or what is Sammy?

Was not sure if you were serious or not. With some of the things I have read, it has been done.

 

[CutieMouse]

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[Daddyslilpet]

Hello Dixicritter

Have not seen you on in along time. How are things? How was your visit with your hubby?

Sexy

Things are fine with me. The visit went very nicely thank you, even got "tied up" a few times.

As for our collaring, there really hasn't been much ceremony involved. Daddy put my first everyday collar on me and claimed me as His. I've since had to change to a different one because of a reaction to the metal in it. Now I have one that's made from leather "string" (for lack of a better description) with a pendant on it. I've had to "paint" the back of the pendant with clear nail polish to keep from reacting to it. (Gotta just love sensitive skin huh? )

When it comes to the play collar, there are two ways that can go. My personal favorite is to bring it to Daddy and for Him to place it around my neck. That really puts me in the correct mindset right away. Other times He will tell me to go put on my collar and cuffs. Also effective but not as quickly.