Closet Slut

[friskygirl51]

If men are wondering why they don't notice the women around them being sexual it's because you judge us by double standards. On this site men crave a slut and encourage it yet ask questions like....well how many men have you been with.....
for a man "sowing wild oats" or "just being a man" is acceptable and a sign of machismo
Maybe these double standards need to be questioned.

Until that happens women like me are just going to be closet sluts - invisible to you in your everydays lives....don't you find that boring?

 

[Pervy_Sage]

If men are wondering why they don't notice the women around them being sexual it's because you judge us by double standards. On this site men crave a slut and encourage it yet ask questions like....well how many men have you been with.....
for a man "sowing wild oats" or "just being a man" is acceptable and a sign of machismo
Maybe these double standards need to be questioned.

Until that happens women like me are just going to be closet sluts - invisible to you in your everydays lives....don't you find that boring?

Nice to meet you, Frisky. I don't think all men have that double standard. I don't necesarily crave a slut. I rather enjoy meeting a woman and finding the slut in her over time. So you are not invisible to me. I see you, girl!

 

[pesto]

sluts

There are many reasons to ask, "how many ". I occasionally ask to get an idea of experience level. I get asked that question myself, I assume for the same reason. It's about the personality more than anything else. That double standard is prevalent, but seems to be fading in my view.

Hang in there, this too will pass.

 

[PinupgirlLvr]

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[western_fireman]

Slut or Sexual?

If men are wondering why they don't notice the women around them being sexual it's because you judge us by double standards. On this site men crave a slut and encourage it yet ask questions like....well how many men have you been with.....
for a man "sowing wild oats" or "just being a man" is acceptable and a sign of machismo
Maybe these double standards need to be questioned.

Until that happens women like me are just going to be closet sluts - invisible to you in your everydays lives....don't you find that boring?

Hmmm. For me I am not looking for a slut, if you mean by that someone, (male or female) that will have sex with about anyone without discretion. I think also part of the "slut" label would be that the multiple partners w/o discretion is part of the turn on. I very much look for a woman who enjoys being sexual and sexy, in many different facets. Someone who enjoys sex in all its' forms, with little discretion, judgement or guilt, but not with anyone and everyone who feels the same way.

Does that make sense?

Oh yea.. it would be wonderful, if we chose each other, through our discretion prcoess, for a wonderful sexual adventure if you wanted to ACT like a slut with me!

 

[kcwordsmith]

my take

The trouble with the term "slut", as the poster suggests, is that it has a negative connotation. But why? From grade school on, girls who shows the slightest tendency to enjoy being outwardly sexual with others with anyone who she is attracted to, is branded a slut, like it's something to be ashamed of. To compound the sin, guys will refer to a girl as a slut and as "easy" when she gives him what he is asking for. And if she doesn't give in she is thought of as a cold fish. What's a poor girl to do? Behave as if she enjoys sex or act like it's some forbidden act that can only be enjoyed with a select few? In fact, "slut" should be regarded as a complimentary term to describe a woman who enjoys sex, has a lot of sex, is good at sex, and isn't ashamed to have sex with more than one person. When you can get comfortable referring to a girlfriend as a slut as a way of praising her, and when she can accept it as a compliment and not an insult, that's when you are on the right track.

 

[kneedeep98]

If men are wondering why they don't notice the women around them being sexual it's because you judge us by double standards. On this site men crave a slut and encourage it yet ask questions like....well how many men have you been with.....
for a man "sowing wild oats" or "just being a man" is acceptable and a sign of machismo
Maybe these double standards need to be questioned.

Until that happens women like me are just going to be closet sluts - invisible to you in your everydays lives....don't you find that boring?

There is no need to be a closet slut. If you enjoy sex this should be the palce to state it. This is not a prude board. We are all here for the same thing, "We enjoy sex". If you feel that you are being labeled by anyone here, it is not me. If you are aware of your sexual side then you are way ahead of most women. Please leave the closet for us and let us see how truly sexual you are.

 

[LaChica]

Thumbs up!!

 

[tnh_06]

I think

A big part of the issue is that many guys, like me, were raised with sisters. Our Mothers constantly preached that girls should be good girls and not want sex. It is now clear to me in my adult life just how many women love and truly desire sex. I thought I was marrying one of those, unfortunately it turns out not to be so.

So now when I would really like to find a woman who is in a similar no-sex marriage situation and really desires sex and wants to be a "slut" in the bedroom it is very difficult for us guys to identify them because it has been drilled in our heads that all women are "good girls" and our first thought is that a woman does Not want sex, when the reality may be the opposite.

 

[MoNasty]

great response tnh

 

[Minalick]

I agree. I think in about 99% of day-to-day conversation, "slut" has a negative connotation. Remember the girls in high school who had the slut reputation? Most guys wanted them and most girls hated them. That's the conditioning.

So now, later in life for some of us, we come to see that this term doesn't necessary reflect poorly on the woman. Could just simply mean she's awesome in bed. Not that she's a whore.

I think it is hard to find the guy who can appreciate that difference. And I can totally relate to Frisky, because I guarantee u that I'm invisible in my everyday life.

Best of luck Frisky!

 

[niv78]

I love sluts.