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[Privates1stClass]

Not being a woman, I can't relate to your situation. However, I can tell you about my wife as I masturbated her. She never had an orgasm from PIV intercourse, and I felt badly that she never orgasmed when she gave me so many. So I purchased a Hitachi Magic Wand and used it on her.

We discovered that the vibrator directly on her clitoris was too much. Over a number of trials, we found that putting the vibrator on the side of her outer labia (she preferred the right side) and my finger in the valley between her clit and opposite inner labia, it would begin her arousal. After a couple minutes, I could increase the pressure against her outer labia and feel her clit swell as she climbed to an orgasm. I'd insert one or two fingers into her pussy when her juices began flowing.

At about the three minute mark, she'd be breathing in deep breaths as the vibrations brought her nearer and nearer her orgasm. When her orgasm started, she wanted me to back off the pressure of the vibrator against her outer labia because it became too intense. I could feel her vaginal muscles clenching and unclenching around my fingers as her orgasm rolled on. As long as I didn't overstimulate her clitoris, her orgasms would last for about thirty seconds until the sensations from the vibrator became too much for her and she'd push the vibrator away when she'd had enough.

So, I wish you luck with your vibrator, and hope you might find the method we used will work for you.

 

[LoneMilf]

Congratulations on finding your way back to some pleasure!

Orgasms have never come very easily to me, and I've even gone through a long period without any libido at all, so I can at least partially relate to your situation.

It sounds like you're on the right path though - maybe you just need to slow down a little and enjoy the journey instead of focusing only on the destination?

That said, here are a couple of practical ideas:
1) Watch porn while using the vibrator - you are probably already doing this though
2) We all vary in how much direct stimulation we can handle and how much we react to broader vibrations. You might need to experiment a little by putting some kind of cloth between the vibrator and your clit. Thickness and texture can change the sensations too..
3) Don't forget foreplay. Just because it's a vibrator doesn't mean you don't need to warm up..
4) Instead of fiddling with the vibrator speed settings, try using it on a setting that is a little more than you are comfortable with and then regulate the effect by how much pressure you put on and where you place it. That way you can transition more smoothly to higher levels of intensity without needing to focus on buttons
5) Most importantly, just have fun and enjoy yourself. Don't rush

 

[Wonderer67]

Hey!In this post for warning but I can only talk about this to internet strangers.

I don’t masturbate either as for years my clit has basically felt numb, I get no feeling from just touching myself. However, I feel something when I’m turned on so I thought a vibrator might help.

I got a one from Inhapx I've been trying it out lol, it definitely showed me I can feel things because when I used it I literally went crazy when I hit the right spot. I low-key thought moaning, your eyes rolling back and legs shaking was something intentional (stupidly) but the pleasure was so intense it was like a reflex, it was literally like my body was contorting lmao.

It got so intense that I had to stop. I know it sounds like I had an orgasm but I know I didn’t. I couldn’t handle it and it verged on slightly painful. The two lowest settings don’t give me much pleasure but I can’t go past 3-4 as it’s too much. I couldn’t stop smiling when I first used it as I never thought I’d feel any pleasure but now I’m scared I won’t be able to have an orgasm as I can only go about 10 seconds before the pleasure verges on too intense.

If you made it this far then thanks for reading.

Good luck exploring and finding pleasure zones. I am male so cannot really give much practical advice here since everyone orgasms slightly differently.

But you’re in the right place. I’ve always liked the how-to thread.

I wish you the best of luck exploring, having fun and obtaining advice!!

 

[Britva415]

Hey!In this post for warning but I can only talk about this to internet strangers.

I don’t masturbate either as for years my clit has basically felt numb, I get no feeling from just touching myself. However, I feel something when I’m turned on so I thought a vibrator might help.

I got a one from Inhapx I've been trying it out lol, it definitely showed me I can feel things because when I used it I literally went crazy when I hit the right spot. I low-key thought moaning, your eyes rolling back and legs shaking was something intentional (stupidly) but the pleasure was so intense it was like a reflex, it was literally like my body was contorting lmao.

It got so intense that I had to stop. I know it sounds like I had an orgasm but I know I didn’t. I couldn’t handle it and it verged on slightly painful. The two lowest settings don’t give me much pleasure but I can’t go past 3-4 as it’s too much. I couldn’t stop smiling when I first used it as I never thought I’d feel any pleasure but now I’m scared I won’t be able to have an orgasm as I can only go about 10 seconds before the pleasure verges on too intense.

If you made it this far then thanks for reading.

Try holding the vibrator in one hand, putting your other hand (fingers, maybe) on yourself, and putting the vibrator on the hand (or fingers). It will reduce the intensity of the vibrations a lot, and give you a lot more control about how firmly, where, and what kind of touch the vibrations will reach you through.

This should turn into a lovely middle ground between touching yourself and feeling nothing, and using the vibrator and getting way too much.

 

[Rob_Royale]

Okay, so what does G-spot stimulation do for you? I know that the G-spot and clit are both part of the same mysterious nerve bundle, but my wife says the feelings are different one to the other. Have you tried a combination of both? Perhaps something like this from the inside and gentle massaging on the outside? Sends my wife off like a rocket.

 

[Lucy_Lastic]

I get over-sensitive sometimes.

try holding the vibe tight in the palm of your hand then let the vibrations travel down your fingers onto your clit. Or just use the vibe near your clit without touching it. I can totally recommend trying a wand or a clitsucker, both have the desired effect on me!

Sometimes if it feels too intense you can kind of relax into it, not sure how to explain but instead of being tense let your body kind of melt, sometimes you can actually embrace the extra sensitivity and then FIREWORKS!!

Good luck exploring yourself. Just don't stop trying, you'll find your way.