Clitoral stimulation

[Sinfully Blessed]

I'e neer really had anyone rub my clit. Hell I don't even really rub it. Now I'll orgasm during masturbation by vibes and sometimes I can cum from oral sex and by rubbing my clit against my partner after he's already cum. But with this new man in my life he likes to ru bmy clit. It's such an intense pleasure that I feel like I can't handle it so I make him stop. How do I relax enough to come from this form of pleasure and not make him stop?

 

[pixiewitch]

If you can cum from a vib or rubbing against a guy's leg you can cum from him rubbing you with his fingers. He just might be rubbing it too rough. Or the wrong way.

Take his hand in yours and show him what you like. If he's rubbing too hard or too fast move his hand to the rythym you like. Of give him a show, let him watch you masturbate! Guys love it and they learn how to touch you the way you like. I've never had a guy tell me to stop when I'm touching myself. As a matter of fact they generally stop what they are doing and get close to see the action. Patience and a loving way of showing him what works for you should help. Good luck!

 

[BlueSugar]

make him rub lightly over your panties, make him use his mouth lightly or his tongue lightly.. mouth way different then fingers I'm sure you can agree.
use circular motion instead of up and down...use 3 fingers instead of just one. Make him lick his fingers, or dip into your own wetness as lubricant.

 

[BlueSugar]

ps Welcome to Lit!

 

[BlueElf]

My Favorite Answer

Make him rub your clit with his tongue - yummy for him and should be deeeeelicious for you!

BlueElf, who loves lapping at labia and teasing clits with his tongue

 

[DuckLover]

Bluesugar's comment about lube is important. A lack thereof can really cause a problem.

If what he's doing still feels good, you might try grabbing onto the bedsheets or something and forcing yourself to let him continue. Another option would be to have him tie your hands so that you CAN'T push him away (if you're comfortable with light bondage).

Remember, too, that some women's clits are extremely sensitive and don't respond well to lots of direct stimulation. Maybe he needs to focus his rubbing just above or beside your clit.

Exploring your clit alone, rubbing it with YOUR fingers more, is probably a good idea too. Get a better idea what feels good, and then show him. (I personally LOVE having my gf show/tell me what she likes!)

 

[jeff_is_smiling]

I'e neer really had anyone rub my clit. Hell I don't even really rub it. Now I'll orgasm during masturbation by vibes and sometimes I can cum from oral sex and by rubbing my clit against my partner after he's already cum. But with this new man in my life he likes to ru bmy clit. It's such an intense pleasure that I feel like I can't handle it so I make him stop. How do I relax enough to come from this form of pleasure and not make him stop?

This is what I have done when the woman feels it is too intense...I TEASE more...meaning I try to lick around the clit as gently as I can...and when I DO touch the clit with my tongue...I am as gentle and soft with my tongues caresses as I can make it...and I try to return to teasing instead of lengthy direct stimulation...even with as soft and gentle a tongue as I can make it...

The more teasing and caressing he does...the more you'll want direct stimulation...then he makes the direct contact as soft and gentle a caress as possible....until you cum...then you'll discover you can handle more stimulation than you thought you could...and he can progress to more firm direct stimulation...in increments...

Give it a try...it'll work for you!

 

[Ms_Lilith]

LUBE LUBE LUBE

And I find that splaying out my body while my honey rubs my clit helps.. just let your legs part as wide as possible, I don't know why, it just helps the sensation to soften a bit (I have the same problem, my honey justmakes it so intense). Lubricant does soften the blow, as it were, by coating your clit, and making less friction.

 

[jenlovesamy]

To me, it sounds like you're just not used to the feeling because you haven't really experienced it before. I think you should make yourself cum while by yourself, that way you know what it feels like. Sounds like you're scared of the unknown, so do it yourself first, see what it feels like. I thought I had good orgasms til I bought my first vibe, it works specifically on the clit. I came harder than I ever had before. It's wild. Try it alone first, trust me. Get comfortable with your own clit before you let someone else at it!

 

[Etoile]

Remember, too, that some women's clits are extremely sensitive and don't respond well to lots of direct stimulation. Maybe he needs to focus his rubbing just above or beside your clit.

Bingo - this is exactly the situation with my girlfriend, and even with myself. I can take it more directly than she can, but this is definitely a common enough situation. He also probably should be rubbing the hood, not directly on the clit itself.

There are as many nerve endings in the female clitoris as there are in the glans of a man's penis.