Cling!!! warning: RANT

[perks]

Hey, I'm on MSN.

funny, it doesn't say Carlton.

Morgy and I will keep talking without you, unless...

 

[TWB]

Blame the victim, I say.

Stop showing us those ruffles and lip licking avs and I might leave you alone, you nasty thang.

 

[perks]

Re: Re: Cling!!! warning: RANT

Bu tI luv you.

If you loved me, you'd get hooked on phonics.

 

[Marxist]

But your blocked

Don't talk about my head like that. I'm pretty sensitive.

 

[RainbowBright]

Yor meen!

Yu mack m ewanda cry.

 

[WickedEve]

Perky, is this all about those 378 PMs I sent you yesterday. I'm really not that clingy. Just answer half and I'll be satisfied!

(I'm glad someone finally asked about your AV. I wondered what that nasty growth was on that girl's tongue.)

 

[perks]

Yor meen!

Yu mack m ewanda cry.

you can wipe your tears with the petals of your fl ouer

 

[RainbowBright]

 

[juicygirl]

Perky sweety just get yourself some mace. Always works for me. Love the hang down.

 

[perks]

 

[perks]

Perky sweety just get yourself some mace. Always works for me. Love the hang down.

if it was tangible, I would. But it's not. Unless you know of online mace

 

[alexandraaah]

Yor meen!

Yu mack m ewanda cry.

I love you R tutha B.

You don't reciprocate my love, but that's okay.

Perks, you need some rest, chica, sorry someone has you all in a tizzy, I know it takes a lot to push you there.

Morgaine, I think that's my favorite av so far.

 

[RainbowBright]

Ib ett yud o'nt even lick fingur panting.

 

[perks]

Ib ett yud o'nt even lick fingur panting.

I can't believe I understand that.

And of course I do, the duckling and I did her first one the other day.

 

[RainbowBright]

I love you R tutha B.
You don't reciprocate my love, but that's okay.

I lauve yu two!
Im' notc linky amn I?

Wat dos Rekiprochate mean?

Flaower?

 

[Dhalgren]

OOhhhh...

This is about RB.
Well, in that case...you'd have to hit her over the head with a big, fluffy, unicorn~shaped pillow and run, run away.

 

[RainbowBright]

I can't believe I understand that.

Balive it. I rubberof on peeple.

And of course I do, the duckling and I did her first one the other day.

Wee! Gud fou rher! Didt he dukm akea ny doagys?

 

[RainbowBright]

Well, in that case...you'd have to hit her over the head with a big, fluffy, unicorn~shaped pillow and run, run away.

Pellow fite!

Yu dn't thynk Im' clinky, doy u?

 

[perks]

Balive it. I rubberof on peeple.



Wee! Gud fou rher! Didt he dukm akea ny doagys?

no, she's only 14 months, doagys are quite beyond her developmental expertise.

 

[Dhalgren]

Yup...
I think you are very clinky in the head.

Maybe if we hold you upside down long enough, blood will flow into your pretty little head.

Can we try?
Please?

 

[naudiz]

Oh, perky. You've touched upon one of my biggest peeves. I love it when some meat-headed he-man complains about how all women are clingy and it's such a female thing to cling and be insecure. I love it the way I love rolling in nests of wasps and porcupines. Chalk up one more for gender equality: I've known just as many clingy men, and no matter where the clinging is coming from, it's annoying and invasive.

Bottom line, though: my time is my own. I don't owe it to anyone. Caveat: I don't have children. If I did, then I would owe them my time because I brought them into this world.

It's hard sometimes to scrape off these people, and it's easy to feel guilty when they give you the puppy-eyes, but in the end, you're doing them a favor by not validating their behavior. A grown adult, male or female, is better off learning to stand on his/her own two feet. Don't tell me you -need- me. You don't -need- me. You need to get your life in shape so that you don't feel like you need me to make it complete. I never asked for that burden. I've got my own shit going on, here.

Someone should write a book on how to discourage clingy behavior without damaging relationships, bio-matter, or personal property. One of the hardest things for me to say is, "I love you, but back the fuck off." Actually, that's getting easier and easier to say as time goes on.

Not to put too fine a point on it, but fuck subtlety. If you want people to understand and respect your boundaries, you have to define them clearly. The thing with being subtle is that people are dumb. Even smart people have dumb moments. Also, people have their own shit on their minds, and they're going to see what they want to see anyway unless you make it too clear to misinterpret.

Damn it, in the time it took me type out this serious repsonse, everyone got their snark on. Fuck, fuck, fuck. I'm going off and pout myself into a stupor. You all smell.

 

[Black_Bird]

Maybe if we hold you upside down long enough, blood will flow into your pretty little head.

Blood? She doesn't have blood; she's made of flower sap.

 

[perks]

Oh, perky. You've touched upon one of my biggest peeves. I love it when some meat-headed he-man complains about how all women are clingy and it's such a female thing to cling and be insecure. I love it the way I love rolling in nests of wasps and porcupines. Chalk up one more for gender equality: I've known just as many clingy men, and no matter where the clinging is coming from, it's annoying and invasive.

Bottom line, though: my time is my own. I don't owe it to anyone. Caveat: I don't have children. If I did, then I would owe them my time because I brought them into this world.

It's hard sometimes to scrape off these people, and it's easy to feel guilty when they give you the puppy-eyes, but in the end, you're doing them a favor by not validating their behavior. A grown adult, male or female, is better off learning to stand on his/her own two feet. Don't tell me you -need- me. You don't -need- me. You need to get your life in shape so that you don't feel like you need me to make it complete. I never asked for that burden. I've got my own shit going on, here.

Someone should write a book on how to discourage clingy behavior without damaging relationships, bio-matter, or personal property. One of the hardest things for me to say is, "I love you, but back the fuck off." Actually, that's getting easier and easier to say as time goes on.

Not to put too fine a point on it, but fuck subtlety. If you want people to understand and respect your boundaries, you have to define them clearly. The thing with being subtle is that people are dumb. Even smart people have dumb moments. Also, people have their own shit on their minds, and they're going to see what they want to see anyway unless you make it too clear to misinterpret.

Damn it, in the time it took me type out this serious repsonse, everyone got their snark on. Fuck, fuck, fuck. I'm going off and pout myself into a stupor. You all smell.

You're so on point about this, naudiz. I wanted to say why the fuck are men clingy, but it's just certain people women and men. I don't get it. I don't understand how someone can be that needy. I mean everyone has shit in their lives, but do you have to smear yourself all over another person? fuck!

 

[naudiz]

It's a learned behavior dating back to childhood. Babies cling to their mothers for security. If they never learn to stand on their own, they grow into adults who cling to their friends and partners for security.

It's pretty simple. People cling because they want something. Try asking, "What do you want?" That might come off as curt and disinterested. There are probably better ways to say it. It really is the crux of the matter, though. Find out what the person wants, and evaluate whether or not you're in a position, and are willing, to give it. If so, everyone's happy. If not, then someone is going to have to learn to live with disappointment.

The worst thing you can do is reward the behavior. Asking what the person wants invites them to move away from clinging into communication. It's not a bad thing to want someone's company. It's a bad thing to devour their time and make them drop everything to tend to your every whim because that's the only way you know how to feel wanted and important.

Just about everyone has moments when they want something from someone. The best thing to do is ask. "Hey, I've got this thing I'd really like to talk about. Are you available/interested?" If you don't get a clear answer, err on the side of caution and assume it's a no. Also, get over yourself. If someone tells you no, they are not telling you that you suck and they hate you. They're just saying no. Why not entertain the idea that they have lives of their own?

I prefer the direct approach. If I think you suck, fear not. I'll make sure you know this, with no room for misinterpretation. It's just one of the many fine services offered at Naudiz Inc.

 

[perks]

It's a bad thing to devour their time and make them drop everything to tend to your every whim because that's the only way you know how to feel wanted and important
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This is exactly what I'm talking about, especially that devour their time part.

I don't have much. And the time I do have I like use to unwind, relax. If I have to cater to someone else during that entire time. I never get to relax. Which makes the rest of my life just fucked. I don't think it is fair of another person to steal all of someone else's downtime. It's rude, and inconsiderate and makes me pissy.