Classes... lessons.... suggestions.....

[RedHairedandFriendly]

Hello all... here is my idea... if it doesn't fly.. hey... no biggie! I'd like to have people post their ideas on techinques when it comes to certain things... whether it be sexual, online fantasies, relife exploits.... really anything will fall into this catagory... This is a place for students and teachers...

Maybe there is a special place on your body that your lover is overlooking... post it and tell us/him/her what you want done..... maybe there is something you don't like... post it here...

Maybe you want to try something new, but aren't sure where to begin, or how to approach your partner, or where to go purchase what you need.

I enjoy writing stories for lit.. and though I feel I'm doing well.. I would like to add a few more interesting "antics....", however my own personnel experience is limited... so this thread will not only be a fun teaching tool for me but a fun learning tool as well....

If you post on this thread or read the posts.. please do not judge those that ask questions or those that answer them.. please do not harass others.. that isn't what this is for.... Those posting please take care as to how you want people to contact you if you decide to give "private" lessons.. please do that off of the thread!

 

[mark197205]

Hello all... here is my idea... if it doesn't fly.. hey... no biggie! I'd like to have people post their ideas on techinques when it comes to certain things... whether it be sexual, online fantasies, relife exploits.... really anything will fall into this catagory... This is a place for students and teachers...

Maybe there is a special place on your body that your lover is overlooking... post it and tell us/him/her what you want done..... maybe there is something you don't like... post it here...

Maybe you want to try something new, but aren't sure where to begin, or how to approach your partner, or where to go purchase what you need.

I enjoy writing stories for lit.. and though I feel I'm doing well.. I would like to add a few more interesting "antics....", however my own personnel experience is limited... so this thread will not only be a fun teaching tool for me but a fun learning tool as well....

If you post on this thread or read the posts.. please do not judge those that ask questions or those that answer them.. please do not harass others.. that isn't what this is for.... Those posting please take care as to how you want people to contact you if you decide to give "private" lessons.. please do that off of the thread!

This thread is a very good idea Red, I wish you every success with it

 

[Illusionz]

The gentle caress

I was politely asked by Ms. Red to write on the subject of the first caress. Now under normal circumstances, most of us will use the first caress on the first date, possibly with someone we would like to have a relationship with. No? Then look elsewhere. There will be posts for you later on, I'm sure.

Also, I'll be typing this from a strictly male point of view, but ladies, you'll know how to adjust what I say to your benefit. And if not, PM me. I can give you some pointers.

Okay, so you're at the end of supper and deciding where to go after a wonderful meal, spending your time talking to this person that has completely captivated you. As you sit there, the waitress having brought the check to you (hopefull to you, but if to her, awesome!), you notice your new interest's hand laying on the table next to her glass, fairly close to the check. You let your finger softly drape over the back of her hand. One of two things should happen here. Either she will look into your eyes and smile gently or she will pull her hand away from your touch. If the latter is the case, you have a woman that is unsure of another person's touch and you should not give up on her, but you should slow down severely. If it is the prior, you're doing very well, and you can slowly move on through the remainder of the evening.

Okay, check's paid, you left a generous tip, and you stand before her to walk her out the door. She smiles at you with the sweetest face you've ever seen then steps in front of you, leading you to the front door because, let's face it guys, you forgot which way it was. As you pass the hostess's station, you have the opportunity to get next to her. Again, watching for the expression on her face, you let your hand drop behind her, ABOVE HER ASS, softly touching the small of her back. Lightly trace a line up and down her spine with your middle finger, careful not to go to low. If she smiles, you're still doing fine. If she shys away, back off. That's just the way it goes.

You're out of the restaurant/McDonalds/gas station. Yeah, first dates can happen anywhere. Depends on the people. Anyway, you're out in the parking lot trying to decide where to go from there. Her apartment, you say? You like her? Relax. She's leaning against your car, looking into your eyes, wondering what type of guy you are. Show her. Softly let your fingers trace up and down her upper arm, not tickling her, but not applying so much pressure that she thinks you're trying to bruise her. There is a fine line here that you'll be able to read by her facial expressions. If she grimaces, chances are you're tickling her. If she slaps your hand away and starts rubbing her arm, you were probably bruising her. But if she's responsive and you're applying that perfect amount of pressure, she might sigh softly, she might just smile, but she'll let you know.

You've moved along and you're standing in line for a movie now. The line's long and you've got about an hour before the movie starts, so she stands facing you, talking. The wind blows a strand of her hair into her face. Before she can move her hand to brush it out of the way, you raise your hand, your finger tips softly brushing her cheek or forehead as you pull the hair away from her face. Her face may lend into your hand a little, letting your palm touch her cheek, which may feel hot if she's blushing. That's usually a good thing.

As you're sitting in the movie, she should have the arm rest between the two of you. This will give you the chance to run your finger up and down each of her fingers and over the back of her hand. If the closeness is there and there is a connection, she'll allow this. Again, gentleness is your friend.

Movie's over and it's time to say goodnight. First kiss? Maybe that'll be next. Just softly caress her back, up and down her spine as you hug her. If you DO get that first kiss in, the touch of your palm on her cheek might be a good thing. Good dating, guys and gals!

 

[RedHairedandFriendly]

Making love online...

Making love or cyber sex.. whatever you want to call it... it is still an art that can be learned....

Ladies... this lesson is for us.. lol

After forming a desired interest between each party, cover some ground rules... such as words you won't be offended by or sexual situations you don't even want to approach.. (I have my own personal hang up LOL!!)

Then take your time.. approach your partner with words not just simple words.. like .. my thumb rubs your nipple....

I mean you could bring that one nipple to harden more realistically for your partner if you put some detail into it..

I let my hand press gently against your chest, feeling your nipple through your clothes, your heart quickens under my touch. Leaning in closer, my breath caresses your skin, pressing my body closer to yours... slowly I work the buttons from your shirt, kissing your skin, tasting you. Finally I reach the treasure my hand had been searching for, my finger runs gently over it, my nails graze your sensitive flesh, my thumb rubs gently feeling your nipple harden under my caress, my eyes watch your nipple darken as my mouth hovers just a lick away....

Now ladies.. I think that is a good description of a nice way to add some detail to a love scene..

I'll post more later.. fill free to leave your own descriptions or take some with you for your desires or your writings ..... remembers these are ideas and suggestions..

 

[RedHairedandFriendly]

Now some questions to ask for your opinions...

Please answer the following 3 seperate posts if you would like or answer what ones may apply to you.. remember thoughts and opinons are encouraged..


1. Your opinon and/or advice concerning anal sex.....

 

[RedHairedandFriendly]

Now some questions to ask for your opinions...

Question # 2 of three....

2. After online fantasy when both partners reach desired affect.... how do you feel when your partner..suddenly must leave.....

 

[RedHairedandFriendly]

Now some questions to ask for your opinions...

Question # 3 of 3

3. Have you or do you want to purchase a sex toy for your partner? Please list either sites you favor, or toys you favor.. maybe advice on the proper or nicest way you have used or had a toy used on you.

 

[omahaman2]

Making love or cyber sex.. whatever you want to call it... it is still an art that can be learned....

Ladies... this lesson is for us.. lol

After forming a desired interest between each party, cover some ground rules... such as words you won't be offended by or sexual situations you don't even want to approach.. (I have my own personal hang up LOL!!)

Then take your time.. approach your partner with words not just simple words.. like .. my thumb rubs your nipple....

I mean you could bring that one nipple to harden more realistically for your partner if you put some detail into it..

I let my hand press gently against your chest, feeling your nipple through your clothes, your heart quickens under my touch. Leaning in closer, my breath caresses your skin, pressing my body closer to yours... slowly I work the buttons from your shirt, kissing your skin, tasting you. Finally I reach the treasure my hand had been searching for, my finger runs gently over it, my nails graze your sensitive flesh, my thumb rubs gently feeling your nipple harden under my caress, my eyes watch your nipple darken as my mouth hovers just a lick away....

Now ladies.. I think that is a good description of a nice way to add some detail to a love scene..

I'll post more later.. fill free to leave your own descriptions or take some with you for your desires or your writings ..... remembers these are ideas and suggestions..

you are having cyber sex, it is important to be safe and cautious. It is best to have cyber sex alone, but when you are with a partner, be sure to follow these guidelines and advice:



Always use a firewall or other protection against C.T.D.s (Cyberly Transmitted Disease)



Orally is safer, but if going all out, be sure to stretch your hands and wrists properly. Use a wrist rest if possible.



Do not attempt to actually insert anything in to the keyboard itself, may cause serious injury.



In case of a broken firewall, be sure to pull out and shut down immediately! You will need to restart. Be sure your firewall is in place.



In the event little fonts are created, you will be responsible for Font Support. An IP test can be ordered to determine the parents of this font. These tests are 99.999% accurate.

 

[RedHairedandFriendly]

you are having cyber sex, it is important to be safe and cautious. It is best to have cyber sex alone, but when you are with a partner, be sure to follow these guidelines and advice:



Always use a firewall or other protection against C.T.D.s (Cyberly Transmitted Disease)



Orally is safer, but if going all out, be sure to stretch your hands and wrists properly. Use a wrist rest if possible.



Do not attempt to actually insert anything in to the keyboard itself, may cause serious injury.



In case of a broken firewall, be sure to pull out and shut down immediately! You will need to restart. Be sure your firewall is in place.



In the event little fonts are created, you will be responsible for Font Support. An IP test can be ordered to determine the parents of this font. These tests are 99.999% accurate.

THANKS!!!!! LOVE THIS....!!!!!!

 

[Illusionz]

That first, gentle kiss

Maybe it's the end of your first date, maybe you just saw each other and knew you had to kiss, or maybe you've been friends for years and you want to take it further. Either way, your first kiss should show emotion and sensuality. But how? Well, that's where I come in.

You look lovingly into her eyes and you know that your souls desperately need for your lips to touch. You proceed slowly, closing in with a smile on your face, a giggle in her voice. Your hand gently touches her cheek, bringing her lips up to meet yours, as you stop at about 90% of the distance between your lips. Why stop there? Well, you don't want to push her head back as you kiss and, if she's not ready for it, you want to allow her enough distance to not be forced to kiss you. As she comes in the other 10% (probably just an inch or two), her lips brush against yours. They're so soft, so delicate. After just two to three seconds, break the contact. Leave her wanting more. If she reaches in to kiss you again, let her. This time, part your lips just a bit, but you don't have to let your tongue slip into her mouth if you aren't ready for that. Plus you have to consider that she may not be ready for that, either.

Some women and some men find that the lip only kiss is more affectionate and loving than the tongue swapping, saliva sucking kiss. You may not be this type of person and she may not be this type of person. Hopefully you'll be able to tell. Some people like soft and sensual, some like hard and passionate. It all depends on the person. You'll know when the time is right.

Happy dating guys and gals.

 

[RedHairedandFriendly]

My heart is all a flutter..

Now it is 3:50 am.. and I am to tired for sex... how do you get me in the mood?

 

[Illusionz]

Midnight arousal

Damn that's a hard one. A good one, but hard. Let's see if I can figure this one out.

So, you're feeling all randy and your lady isn't. She's tired, but you know in the back of your mind that if you just get her horny, you can get some. But how? Most women are different, so be sure that if the things I say to do are things she doesn't like, you don't do them.

First, some soft kisses would be in order. Work her shoulders, her arms, and her neck. You know where she likes to be kissed, so kiss her there. Trace your hand up and down her back or side or where ever she likes. Again, she's your special lady, you know. If she likes it, play with her hair. Whisper how much she means to you and how much you love her, all that good stuff. Some women (not saying all, so don't PM me or flame me in disgust if you're not one of those women) like hearing that stuff. As you do, let your breath drift over her ear. At this point, you're just getting started.

Roll her over and kiss the front of her neck, her cheeks, but don't make it obvious that you're trying to get her heated up. Slowly move up to her lips as you let your hand rest on her tummy, side, where ever. Kiss her gently, letting the kiss get more intimate as you go. By now, if she's getting horny, you'll know it. If she is, let your hand slip down to her thighs, rubbing them softly. If she isn't into it, go to the bathroom and take care of yourself.

As you're rubbing her thighs, continue kissing on her. Let your tongue tease hers, your lips soft against her mouth. Slowly let your hand come up to her panties (if she wears them) and brush across them lightly. Hopefully she'll be getting ready now. Move your body closer to hers, letting her feel your cock against her hip. One of two things will happen. Either she'll feel a bolt of electricity shoot through her body straight to her pussy or she'll roll away. If she rolls away, again, go to the bathroom.

She might start bucking her hips against your hand. If so, it's time. If not, just keep up the kissing and rubbing. You know when she's ready. You know when she wants it. She's your lady, not mine. Happy seducing, guys.

 

[RedHairedandFriendly]

Well.. I'm copying that down and slipping it under my pillow maybe I'll wake up horny....lol.... Thanks for the lesson!!!

 

[Scooby_Dew]

love it

I love this thread and I will be reading your future postings with anticipation. I have a question for the panel of experts.........What do you do when your partner doesn't even know what the word "horney" means?

 

[Illusionz]

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[RedHairedandFriendly]

I love this thread and I will be reading your future postings with anticipation. I have a question for the panel of experts.........What do you do when your partner doesn't even know what the word "horney" means?

Well you need to decide what it means to you first, then ask them what they think it means. You may be surprised that each one of you have the same meaning and you didn't even know it, or just the opposite.

Just because I may want to caress my partners rear as we are walking down the sidewalk doesn't mean I'm horney, it could mean I just want to touch them, connect with them intimately. Also just because my partner may want to brush my breast doesn't mean he is wanting to jump me right then and there, again, just wanting that personnel connection.

You need to decide what horney means to you... does it mean.... if you touch my eroganis zones be ready because I will be, if a french kiss is the thing that turns you on and your raring to go... Horney means different things to different people.

Find out what it means to you and your partner, then let them know.. when I do this to you or feel this way... I'm horney.. how do you feel when I start doing things to you... ????

Communication is the key!!

 

[Scooby_Dew]

Well you need to decide what it means to you first, then ask them what they think it means. You may be surprised that each one of you have the same meaning and you didn't even know it, or just the opposite.

Just because I may want to caress my partners rear as we are walking down the sidewalk doesn't mean I'm horney, it could mean I just want to touch them, connect with them intimately. Also just because my partner may want to brush my breast doesn't mean he is wanting to jump me right then and there, again, just wanting that personnel connection.

You need to decide what horney means to you... does it mean.... if you touch my eroganis zones be ready because I will be, if a french kiss is the thing that turns you on and your raring to go... Horney means different things to different people.

Find out what it means to you and your partner, then let them know.. when I do this to you or feel this way... I'm horney.. how do you feel when I start doing things to you... ????

Communication is the key!!

I guess you missunderstood my question. I am sorry. What I meant was that she has no sex drive. She doesn't know what it is to be horney.

 

[RedHairedandFriendly]

I guess you missunderstood my question. I am sorry. What I meant was that she has no sex drive. She doesn't know what it is to be horney.

Yes I did misunderstand your question.. my apologies..

Have you discussed any issues with her? such as past experiences, lack of feeling during sex, or pain.

Many women are very self consious about how they look and/or how to please there partner.

Do you know of any reason why she may have this inability to not want sex?

I have my own reasons as to why for a moment in my life I didn't have a sex drive. It was shortly after the birth of my last child, I just didn't want sex. I didn't for about two years.

If you can answer some of those questions let me know and I'll try to post an answer, if you don't I'll still give you my advice. But I'd like to hear if you have any ideas as to why she may be having the problem.

 

[Illusionz]

I guess you missunderstood my question. I am sorry. What I meant was that she has no sex drive. She doesn't know what it is to be horney.

Sounds to me like she might have some emotional problems. Possibly a problem with intimacy. The best thing you can do is just be there for her. Hold her, kiss her, and let her know you love her more than anything. Be sweet to her, treat her right, and let her be herself. And be yourself. If the lack of sex is an issue for you, then maybe you need to let her go. But if you love her, you'll understand.

Just my $.02

 

[marriedmanseeks]

you are having cyber sex, it is important to be safe and cautious. It is best to have cyber sex alone, but when you are with a partner, be sure to follow these guidelines and advice:



Always use a firewall or other protection against C.T.D.s (Cyberly Transmitted Disease)



Orally is safer, but if going all out, be sure to stretch your hands and wrists properly. Use a wrist rest if possible.



Do not attempt to actually insert anything in to the keyboard itself, may cause serious injury.



In case of a broken firewall, be sure to pull out and shut down immediately! You will need to restart. Be sure your firewall is in place.



In the event little fonts are created, you will be responsible for Font Support. An IP test can be ordered to determine the parents of this font. These tests are 99.999% accurate.

Someone told me about this post, I didn't see it myself, it is so funny !!!

Personally I always sit at the computer in a rubber suit, just to be on the safe side.

 

[RedHairedandFriendly]

Someone told me about this post, I didn't see it myself, it is so funny !!!

Personally I always sit at the computer in a rubber suit, just to be on the safe side.

That is probably the best thing you can do.. less mess also.

 

[JagFarlane]

Question # 3 of 3

3. Have you or do you want to purchase a sex toy for your partner? Please list either sites you favor, or toys you favor.. maybe advice on the proper or nicest way you have used or had a toy used on you.

Hmmmm well a recent female friend was interested in trying anal for the first time but was wary of the penetration...so...I used a vibrating dildo on her, varying the speeds up and down, bringing her to several climax's...then worked her up to a large climax...and as she reached the top of the climax, slipped a lubed finger into her arse, which sent her wildly over the edge...we spent the rest of the night slowly getting her used to the idea of something in her arse.

 

[RedHairedandFriendly]

Hmmmm well a recent female friend was interested in trying anal for the first time but was wary of the penetration...so...I used a vibrating dildo on her, varying the speeds up and down, bringing her to several climax's...then worked her up to a large climax...and as she reached the top of the climax, slipped a lubed finger into her arse, which sent her wildly over the edge...we spent the rest of the night slowly getting her used to the idea of something in her arse.

Thank you for answering this question.. I'll admit I have never had anal.. not sure if I would like it. I think I may if I was allowed to get used to the idea. I have only ever heard of one negative experience and everything else seems to be positive.