Clairvoyance Wanted

[Killishandra]

Physics and genetics in one term?!!! Ouch, no wonder you have no time!!! Best of luck to you with them Killishandra.

History of Math, Immunology, Bacterial Genetics, and Physics of Electromagnetism! *sob*

Thanks for the luck, Caela. *greedily hoardes it for finals week*

 

[caela]

History of Math, Immunology, Bacterial Genetics, and Physics of Electromagnetism! *sob*

Thanks for the luck, Caela. *greedily hoardes it for finals week*

Good god!!!!

~sends you all the luck I have to spare~

I think you just made me even happier that I simply want to be a surgical technologist and someday an OR Nurse.

 

[Marquis]

Why, thank you Marquis, for the reminder. And I'm perfectly capable of writing my own update. I'll do so sometime when I'm not running inbetween physics and genetics classes.

I already can imagine the types of reactions I'll get, so I don't see much point in going into details, but I'll post something for those who might be interested or concerned. It'll take a few days to get enough privacy and time on the net to do so, but it'll get done.

You started this thread to get advice, didn't you?

Why ask a question if you don't want to hear the answer?

 

[Betticus]

I'll post something for those who might be interested or concerned. It'll take a few days to get enough privacy and time on the net to do so, but it'll get done.

Sounds like you don't even have time to sleep.

 

[caela]

Sounds like you don't even have time to sleep.

With that class list she probably doesn't!

 

[shy slave]

I have a pretty spiffy Dom, a sweetly submissive sister-sub, and all things in my life (work, school, home life) seemingly falling into place.

By all accounts, I should be happy all the time. My last relationship with a Dom (and another submissive) ended abruptly, about 7 weeks ago. Since then, He and I have had our times of not speaking, our times of heart-felt shows of emotion, and our times of vicious name calling... and, everything inbetween. About 3 weeks ago I met my current Dom and things have proceeded VERY quickly since then... to the point of the three of us looking for an apartment together by the end of this month. He treats me excellently, supports me in all my endeavors, and takes care of me in any way He can see to. On top of that we get along great, He is smart, funny, Dominant, etc...

Unfortunately, although I am excited and happy most of the time, I still wake up many nights and run to the bathroom to cry over the One I miss. Thankfully, neither of my current SO's have woken during these little fits (I bring a pillow to muffle with) but as they have started to happen during the daytime I am becoming more and more concerned about my subconcious mind. I can't stop longing for Him, I never stop thinking about Him, and I had (perhaps naively) hoped that by now, and with others in my life to offer me purpose, I would come to peace with our breakup.

How can I, in honesty, offer myself body and soul to my Dom when I am constantly plagued with thoughts of another? Not just thoughts, but intense emotions... I have never been in love with anyone before Him. I had used the words "I love you" but I came to realize that whatever emotions I felt for previous boyfriends, it is not in the same ballpark as what I carry in my heart for Him. Whatever the reasons, I cannot detach myself from my feelings for Him and I am so afraid that I never will.

Does anyone out there have clairvoyant powers? I need to know... Does time really heal all wounds, or am I destined to live my life in love with one man - yet belonging to another?

Killi
I keep coming back to this thread.

I am thinking of you and hop that things are getting easier.
When we are busy and every minute is full (as it must be at present for you with school), its easy for our emotions to leak through at the wrong time.

Treat yourself with care, your grieving not just for a lost relationship but for the potential you thought it had.
None of this is your fault, its part of life.
I am not sure wounds 'heal' but I think they can become manageable and time helps to keep them in perspective.
Your are a young, bright, beautiful woman with a wonderful future in front of you and with the right people beside you.
Strong people who can love and admire all that you are and who not try to diminsh you in any way but support you to become a stronger person.
Love shy xxx

 

[Killishandra]

You started this thread to get advice, didn't you?

Why ask a question if you don't want to hear the answer?

*ahem*
I asked a question, and got many replies and much good advice on the situation I was in. What you are referring to now is a different situation, one I have not started a thread on nor asked for advice on.

Just pointing out the difference.

 

[Killishandra]

Sounds like you don't even have time to sleep.

Sleep? Wassthat?

 

[Killishandra]

Killi
I keep coming back to this thread.

I am thinking of you and hop that things are getting easier.
When we are busy and every minute is full (as it must be at present for you with school), its easy for our emotions to leak through at the wrong time.

Treat yourself with care, your grieving not just for a lost relationship but for the potential you thought it had.
None of this is your fault, its part of life.
I am not sure wounds 'heal' but I think they can become manageable and time helps to keep them in perspective.
Your are a young, bright, beautiful woman with a wonderful future in front of you and with the right people beside you.
Strong people who can love and admire all that you are and who not try to diminsh you in any way but support you to become a stronger person.
Love shy xxx

Well, I have ended the relationship I was just in... In *most* part, because I feel I need time (months at the minimum) to just be with myself before being in another committed relationship. He was also getting way too controling way too fast. At any rate, we're still friends (all three of us) but the breakup was pretty painful for all involved.

Thanks for your support, SS. And I'll still take you up on you-know-what pretty soon. You're an awesome friend.

 

[Marquis]

*ahem*
I asked a question, and got many replies and much good advice on the situation I was in. What you are referring to now is a different situation, one I have not started a thread on nor asked for advice on.

Just pointing out the difference.

I stand corrected, and you have my apologies.

 

[Betticus]

Well, I have ended the relationship I was just in... In *most* part, because I feel I need time (months at the minimum) to just be with myself before being in another committed relationship. He was also getting way too controling way too fast. At any rate, we're still friends (all three of us) but the breakup was pretty painful for all involved.

Thanks for your support, SS. And I'll still take you up on you-know-what pretty soon. You're an awesome friend.

Young lady, you and I will have a heart to heart talk about everything in your life very soon. There are some things that must take priority such as your education and your well being that you are completely fucking off. This is where a dom comes in, even just a substitute dom who needs someone to take care of like myself. You and I and the rest of us know just how I feel and treat other Dom's. I treat them like something that needs to be scraped off of my fucking shoe. With a few exceptions and you guys know exactly who you are here. Do not make me come to Hawaii. If that happens there will be nothing but a path of devastation and broken, crying bitch assed punks left in my wake. For the good of everyone there you Will begin to put your own interests before those of everyone else. That means that you will focus on your future and your education and just you! I take you very seriously and so does Marquis and the rest of us here. For the safety of everyone you know you will begin to take our advice on what you need to do. We have never given you any bad advice. We have never told you to do something that would be bad for you. In our history together as mere acquaintences we have all tried to help you to be the best person you can be but you have fucked us over and done what others that can touch you wanted you to do. We feel a responsibility to you, to keep you safe and happy and to keep you on track to being the best person you can possibly be. We can support you through anything but you have to trust us. So far you have fucked us up our collective asses. How about this time you just accept our friendship in the open and trusting manner in which it is offered to you and also accept that some of us are fucking rocket scientists.

In return for you becoming the most awesome chick that Hawaii has ever seen I require only one thing. I require a mere weekend of your time taking me to the hottest dance clubs that are there. They must be techno clubs. I'm not doing this just out of the goodness of my heart. I want to go and dance to the hottest music that Hawaii has to offer and you are going to take me there. Also Sphynx and Draggie if they want to dance with me.

For the rest of the weekend I want you to take some time and reflect upon those of us who you let down. We are really fucking pissed off at you even though, like family we want you to be with us all the way. Just tell us that you love us and that our advice will be better heeded in the future.

One last thing, if I have to come over there you will have at least three broken ribs to think about. I will fuck you up beyond anything you can imagine. I will gladly show you every trick that I learned in the military for interrogation without leaving evidence. Killishandra, you do not want this to happen. I will drag you and make you watch me break every person that I even have a clue that hurt you just for further punishment. You will not be able to keep them from me and you will gladly lead me to them. I will hurt you in ways that you have never thought possible until you do what I want.

Oh yeah, have a nice weekend and I hope that you are having fun in whatever you are up to.

Kisses,

 

[Marquis]

Young lady, you and I will have a heart to heart talk about everything in your life very soon. There are some things that must take priority such as your education and your well being that you are completely fucking off. This is where a dom comes in, even just a substitute dom who needs someone to take care of like myself. You and I and the rest of us know just how I feel and treat other Dom's. I treat them like something that needs to be scraped off of my fucking shoe. With a few exceptions and you guys know exactly who you are here. Do not make me come to Hawaii. If that happens there will be nothing but a path of devastation and broken, crying bitch assed punks left in my wake. For the good of everyone there you Will begin to put your own interests before those of everyone else. That means that you will focus on your future and your education and just you! I take you very seriously and so does Marquis and the rest of us here. For the safety of everyone you know you will begin to take our advice on what you need to do. We have never given you any bad advice. We have never told you to do something that would be bad for you. In our history together as mere acquaintences we have all tried to help you to be the best person you can be but you have fucked us over and done what others that can touch you wanted you to do. We feel a responsibility to you, to keep you safe and happy and to keep you on track to being the best person you can possibly be. We can support you through anything but you have to trust us. So far you have fucked us up our collective asses. How about this time you just accept our friendship in the open and trusting manner in which it is offered to you and also accept that some of us are fucking rocket scientists.

In return for you becoming the most awesome chick that Hawaii has ever seen I require only one thing. I require a mere weekend of your time taking me to the hottest dance clubs that are there. They must be techno clubs. I'm not doing this just out of the goodness of my heart. I want to go and dance to the hottest music that Hawaii has to offer and you are going to take me there. Also Sphynx and Draggie if they want to dance with me.

For the rest of the weekend I want you to take some time and reflect upon those of us who you let down. We are really fucking pissed off at you even though, like family we want you to be with us all the way. Just tell us that you love us and that our advice will be better heeded in the future.

One last thing, if I have to come over there you will have at least three broken ribs to think about. I will fuck you up beyond anything you can imagine. I will gladly show you every trick that I learned in the military for interrogation without leaving evidence. Killishandra, you do not want this to happen. I will drag you and make you watch me break every person that I even have a clue that hurt you just for further punishment. You will not be able to keep them from me and you will gladly lead me to them. I will hurt you in ways that you have never thought possible until you do what I want.

Oh yeah, have a nice weekend and I hope that you are having fun in whatever you are up to.

Kisses,

Your heart is in the right place Betticus, but I think sometimes our protective instincts can do more to hold back the progress of the person we hope to help, then move them forward.

It's great that you're a rocket scientist. Help her with her physics homework. You are simply not qualified to be a therapist by virtue of your lack of training, experience and personal feelings with the situation. You might know the best auto-mechanic in the whole wide world, but you're better off seeing a dermatologist if you have a rash on your nuts.

 

[shy slave]

Young lady, you and I will have a heart to heart talk about everything in your life very soon. There are some things that must take priority such as your education and your well being that you are completely fucking off. This is where a dom comes in, even just a substitute dom who needs someone to take care of like myself. You and I and the rest of us know just how I feel and treat other Dom's. I treat them like something that needs to be scraped off of my fucking shoe. With a few exceptions and you guys know exactly who you are here. Do not make me come to Hawaii. If that happens there will be nothing but a path of devastation and broken, crying bitch assed punks left in my wake. For the good of everyone there you Will begin to put your own interests before those of everyone else. That means that you will focus on your future and your education and just you! I take you very seriously and so does Marquis and the rest of us here. For the safety of everyone you know you will begin to take our advice on what you need to do. We have never given you any bad advice. We have never told you to do something that would be bad for you. In our history together as mere acquaintences we have all tried to help you to be the best person you can be but you have fucked us over and done what others that can touch you wanted you to do. We feel a responsibility to you, to keep you safe and happy and to keep you on track to being the best person you can possibly be. We can support you through anything but you have to trust us. So far you have fucked us up our collective asses. How about this time you just accept our friendship in the open and trusting manner in which it is offered to you and also accept that some of us are fucking rocket scientists.

In return for you becoming the most awesome chick that Hawaii has ever seen I require only one thing. I require a mere weekend of your time taking me to the hottest dance clubs that are there. They must be techno clubs. I'm not doing this just out of the goodness of my heart. I want to go and dance to the hottest music that Hawaii has to offer and you are going to take me there. Also Sphynx and Draggie if they want to dance with me.

For the rest of the weekend I want you to take some time and reflect upon those of us who you let down. We are really fucking pissed off at you even though, like family we want you to be with us all the way. Just tell us that you love us and that our advice will be better heeded in the future.

One last thing, if I have to come over there you will have at least three broken ribs to think about. I will fuck you up beyond anything you can imagine. I will gladly show you every trick that I learned in the military for interrogation without leaving evidence. Killishandra, you do not want this to happen. I will drag you and make you watch me break every person that I even have a clue that hurt you just for further punishment. You will not be able to keep them from me and you will gladly lead me to them. I will hurt you in ways that you have never thought possible until you do what I want.

Oh yeah, have a nice weekend and I hope that you are having fun in whatever you are up to.

Kisses,

I often keep my mouth shut when I read things I disagree with on the Lit boards; but Betticus this is rubbish.

The issue with giving people advice is, it is usually advice that would suit ourselves, not the person we are offering it to.

Advice from anyone is rarely worth the taking as a whole and acting on it.
People listen, reflect and take from it what they need.

Support, words of care or our opinion on the situation (good or bad) should be freely given, not given on the understanding the person will follow meekly like a sheep.

Give people credit for having open minds and reaching out, I don't see in the rules of Lit, The Human Rights Act or the American Constition that every piece of advice given should be treated with grovelling respect and thankfulness followed by an extended period of begging thanks.

I find the this line from the garbage you have chosen to spew particularly offensive: So far you have fucked us up our collective asses.

This is vile nonsense you should be ashamed of yourself, and if your not, take a long look in the mirror.
Do you really like the person looking back??

No, don't bother to tell me that you do.
Somehow I would find you a better man if you said 'No'

 

[Betticus]

You aren't so shy after all.

 

[Killishandra]

Confused

Betticus, if you have ever wondered why I wasn't interested in pursuing something with you when you offered it, please re-read your big post up there. In our conversations in the past, you have set off all kinds of red flags in my head, and that post is proof of the validity of my instincts as well as being pure garbage! What gives you the right to judge me, threaten me and people I care about, or act controlling in the least?? And if you come to Hawaii, I will take some advice from a Dom I *DO* respect, in regards to what to do with psycho men - just call the police on you and have you arrested.

Apparently, you think that being a "Dom" gives you the right to bully me around - which makes you no better than the other Doms you constantly hate on.

P.S. Watch your fucking mouth, retard. You're not a rocket scientist, but if you want to see stars that can be arranged. Just keep threatening to hurt people close to me and see what happens, you asshole.

 

[Killishandra]

P.P.S. Thank you, Shy and Marquis, for your last posts.

I hope Bet logs in tomorrow and informs us that someone ursurped his account and wrote that filth without his knowledge. Otherwise, I have lost all respect for his opinions.

 

[Betticus]

P.P.S. Thank you, Shy and Marquis, for your last posts.

I hope Bet logs in tomorrow and informs us that someone ursurped his account and wrote that filth without his knowledge. Otherwise, I have lost all respect for his opinions.

I wish that was what happened. I actually wandered home blind drunk from the club last night, vaguely recall logging in and posting and was quoted before I could go back and remove it.

I don't really know what I was thinking. I wanted to completely disassociate with you but that was just very wrong. I'm terribly sorry.

 

[DVS]

......

 

[canadiancutie]

......

I saw what you had there before. tisk.

 

[Krinaia]

Okay, as someone who did three years of stressed out, I don't have time to sleep much less brush my teeth college life - can I just say, take some time out! Screw everything for a day, take yourself somewher eyou can be quiet, take a box of kleenex and try to be as honest as you can and work through some stuff so that you can make good decisions. I used to do this, sitting on the floor of my dorm bathroom, with the shower running so that my suitemates would think i was showering. Often I'd cry. Sounds like we have that in common. Really, I was just being alone long enough to get my act together. But I wasn't healthy, I came precariously close to the kind of nervous breakdown that totals your life.

Be brutally honest with yourself. Realize that dominant or no dominant, you have to make life decisions that you can live with and not hate yourself for later. Remember too that tf you can't talk to someone openly and honestly about your fears and concerns, then perhaps it isn't time to move in together yet.

I've never been able to enjoy something I rushed into because I was never able to feel secure with the decision to persue it. I, personally, need time to deliberate and feel I have considered all the options, really been truthful with how I feel and made the best possible deicision. Course, you don't always have this luxury of time but if someone is pressuring you to make this kind of relationship decision - well, red flag yes? You seem like you have at least book smarts, try applying that intelligence to coming up with your own solution.

Of course that's just my opinion, I could be wrong.

 

[DVS]

History of Math

Yuck!

Immunology

Well...kind of interesting, I guess.

Bacterial Genetics

Be sure you wear your rubber gloves in class.

Physics of Electromagnetism!

Oh, now we're talking. This really sounds like an interesting class.

 

[Netzach]

Of course that's just my opinion, I could be wrong.

But you're so not.

 

[FurryFury]

I think people generally do the best that they can given the resources they have. I like to support people when they do well and when they miss a step. We are all only human.

Frankly I don't know of anything you did wrong Killishandra. Maybe I missed part of the story or am not privy to certain details. In my book you is a smart and lovely girl who is doing a fine job in school and generally, in life.

*hugs*

Fury

 

[shy slave]

You aren't so shy after all.

Nope, not always

 

[graceanne]

Well, I have ended the relationship I was just in... In *most* part, because I feel I need time (months at the minimum) to just be with myself before being in another committed relationship. He was also getting way too controling way too fast. At any rate, we're still friends (all three of us) but the breakup was pretty painful for all involved.

Thanks for your support, SS. And I'll still take you up on you-know-what pretty soon. You're an awesome friend.

*hugs* I have to say I'm glad to hear this. Not cause of anything other than I just don't think you're ready for another relationship. *hug*