Checking out other girls

[browncow]

I don't want to lie to my girlfriend about it, so when she asked me I told her the truth that I have checked out other girls before. Just a glance, nothing more. Now she is absolutely furious and saying that she respects and loves me enough not to look at other guys. I dont know how to explain to her that if I could help it I would, but its not something I control. When I tried to explain, she didnt get it and threw it back in my face.

I love her and I dont know what to do about this.

 

[hard_N_uncut]

I don't want to lie to my girlfriend about it, so when she asked me I told her the truth that I have checked out other girls before. Just a glance, nothing more. Now she is absolutely furious and saying that she respects and loves me enough not to look at other guys. I dont know how to explain to her that if I could help it I would, but its not something I control. When I tried to explain, she didnt get it and threw it back in my face.

I love her and I dont know what to do about this.

Its completely normal for a guy to check out another girl. I'm sure your girlfriend checks out other girls and guys. They want to compare themselves to the other girls (She's fat, ugly, etc.) and compare you to the other guys. Looking is not the problem. The only time you have a problem is when you go beyond looking and touch the other girl. That is wrong.

 

[browncow]

Its completely normal for a guy to check out another girl. I'm sure your girlfriend checks out other girls and guys. They want to compare themselves to the other girls (She's fat, ugly, etc.) and compare you to the other guys. Looking is not the problem. The only time you have a problem is when you go beyond looking and touch the other girl. That is wrong.

She doesn't think that way, she thinks that if I look it means I want. She has bad self esteem and she thinks it means I think of the girls I look at the same way I think of her.

 

[mowbaby82]

well..

Is your girlfriend BLIND by chance? That would be the only way she wasn't checking out other guys. Now by checking out we're talking a quick glance, head to toe or vice versa, if it goes beyond a glance or so, then it's staring, and that's rude hehehe. Now, another thing would be if you were blind, and you "check things out" by "seeing" with your hands... then I could see where that might make your girlfriend mad... but unless any of these apply, it's perfectly normal, your girlfriend is just very self conscious and wanted to hear from you, "No honey, I don't check out other girls, why would I want to when I have the most beautiful girl in the world right here in front of me."
Girls are silly like that. But, what the heck, i don't care if my hubby checks out other girls, we sit in a bar and check out cute girls together

 

[browncow]

Is your girlfriend BLIND by chance? That would be the only way she wasn't checking out other guys. Now by checking out we're talking a quick glance, head to toe or vice versa, if it goes beyond a glance or so, then it's staring, and that's rude hehehe. Now, another thing would be if you were blind, and you "check things out" by "seeing" with your hands... then I could see where that might make your girlfriend mad... but unless any of these apply, it's perfectly normal, your girlfriend is just very self conscious and wanted to hear from you, "No honey, I don't check out other girls, why would I want to when I have the most beautiful girl in the world right here in front of me."
Girls are silly like that. But, what the heck, i don't care if my hubby checks out other girls, we sit in a bar and check out cute girls together

I would LOVE for her to realize this, but I try to explain it and she just doesnt seem to want to listen.

 

[mowbaby82]

well then

Bring her over and let her see what other people think about it.
Looking is only human, we look at pretty things, ugly things, normal things, wierd things, it doesn't matter what it is or what it looks like humans are curious by nature. As long as looking doesn't involve touching then it's ok.
Or, feed her ego, tell her if she gets mad about you looking at other girls, tell her that you were only looking at them to see how pitiful they looked beside her beauty, or something along those lines.

 

[browncow]

Bring her over and let her see what other people think about it.
Looking is only human, we look at pretty things, ugly things, normal things, wierd things, it doesn't matter what it is or what it looks like humans are curious by nature. As long as looking doesn't involve touching then it's ok.
Or, feed her ego, tell her if she gets mad about you looking at other girls, tell her that you were only looking at them to see how pitiful they looked beside her beauty, or something along those lines.

Haha, yeah...bringing her here and showing her that I put our problem on an erotic message board for anyone to see would make her feel MUCH better....I am sure you would hear about the murder on the news.

 

[mowbaby82]

prudish

lol but the forums are about more than just sex.... sometimes. Ok, what you do, is tell her that you were talking to a couple friends on-line, maybe not tell her where exactly. If you want, I'll send you a couple e-mails saying what i've already said, then we're not linked back to this kinky sex place lol
For real though, you've got to explain to your gf that checkin someone out isn't everything, and if she swears she doesn't do it, call her on it, cause she's lying. maybe she's embarassed about it or sometihng, but you've got to get to the root of the problem before you can solve it. If she is truly that needy and has such a low self esteem thats something as honest as looking at someone else can upset her or cause a fight, then maybe things between the two of you are heading in the wrong direction. You have to love yourself before you can love someone else. Otherwise you'll spend the next 20 years with safety pins in your eyes to keep you from looking at someone else and upsetting her. Or she'll fly into a jealous rage one night and kill you while you sleep.... hmmm not sure about that one though.
But for real, just explain to her looking is only natural, humans are curious by nature.... ever think maybe she isn't really human? just a thought, anyway, if you love her, tell her so, if you odn't love her, don't say it to make her feel better about herself. Wait, so if she doesn't like you checking out other chicks literotica would be like a major no no then... hmm... how old are the two of you?

 

[mowbaby82]

Oh yeah

You mentioned that out of love and respect for you, she doesn't check out other guys, and then you said that she feels that if you look at other girls the way you look at her, then that means you wanna have sex with them..... that to me sounds like she has checked out other guys and that she feels akward doing that because she looks at them like a side of beef hanging in a meat market, what she could use them for.. Which is normal, I see guys and girls alike all the time that I look at and think, he/or/she would look really cute looking up at me front between my legs.... anyways, ask her about that, if it's truly out of love and respect or if it's because she see's other people as sex objects and it makes her feel akward.

 

[VampireD]

Does your gf live in closet and doesn't get out much? How can a person not go out and not look at another person for a glance?

this is really confusing... you have not touched or made any intentions to other women and I'm assuming neither has she towards guys... so where is the problem? Either she is so insecure about you "Looking" then you gotta kick this one to the curb before she causes more headaches and has you on her leash.."come here boy, sit!" Can you understand?