Cheating wives

[DrewM88]

Man, i don't know where to start on this. I think I've entered it an online "relationship" with a married woman. We've "sexted" multiple times now and spent hours talking to each other about our lives... It's a crazy thing. She's the one that's initiated contact with me initially and she keeps coming back for more.

Any woman here cheat on their husbands? whether online or irl? I've asked her if she has any regrets and she's said no.

I'm not going to lie and say that it doesn't turn me on to know that she's married but it's an online relationship and i don't know what to make it of it. Or what to make of myself right now.

 

[DrewM88]

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[screwher]

I say just go with it and enjoy. You’re not doing anything wrong. Your friend is the one cheating on her husband. The onus is totally on her.

 

[SharesMe]

I’d say enjoy it and if it enhances both of your other relationships all the better

 

[screwher]

Man, i don't know where to start on this. I think I've entered it an online "relationship" with a married woman. We've "sexted" multiple times now and spent hours talking to each other about our lives... It's a crazy thing. She's the one that's initiated contact with me initially and she keeps coming back for more.

Any woman here cheat on their husbands? whether online or irl? I've asked her if she has any regrets and she's said no.

My wife cheated on me three times early in our marriage. She regretted it for many years. But now that we have a hotwife relationship I hope she now looks back on those trysts with some pleasure.

I'm not going to lie and say that it doesn't turn me on to know that she's married but it's an online relationship and i don't know what to make it of it. Or what to make of myself right now.

 

[DrewM88]

I say just go with it and enjoy. You’re not doing anything wrong. Your friend is the one cheating on her husband. The onus is totally on her.

Yeah, i don't really feel bad, which i guess is the part that's weird for me. I like her, a lot, as much as you can like someone over the net. I've given her "outs" multiple times but she keeps coming back, she tells me she thinks about me, she misses me etc. It's just weird. Like i don't know if she's just using me to fill an emotional need or something else is going on. she tells me constantly how much she loves that i'm willing to have conversations with her about random things.

I’d say enjoy it and if it enhances both of your other relationships all the better

I'm single, and I've made it clear to her from the jump.

 

[DrewM88]

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[policywank]

Yeah, i don't really feel bad, which i guess is the part that's weird for me. I like her, a lot, as much as you can like someone over the net. I've given her "outs" multiple times but she keeps coming back, she tells me she thinks about me, she misses me etc. It's just weird. Like i don't know if she's just using me to fill an emotional need or something else is going on. she tells me constantly how much she loves that i'm willing to have conversations with her about random things.


I'm single, and I've made it clear to her from the jump.

You're sexting with another person online. You are both filling some kind of need or desire. That doesn't amount to her "using" you in a negative sense unless she is leading you on or operating under false pretences. Nothing you have said suggests she is after anything more than fun and conversation with a sexual bent. How could she be using you?

 

[DrewM88]

You're sexting with another person online. You are both filling some kind of need or desire. That doesn't amount to her "using" you in a negative sense unless she is leading you on or operating under false pretences. Nothing you have said suggests she is after anything more than fun and conversation with a sexual bent. How could she be using you?

Yeah, we've "sexted" twice so far but have spent way more time just talking and getting to know each other.

"Using" is the wrong word i guess. I guess misleading me? I dunno. It's the internet so you can't believe what the person on the other side of the keyboard is truly saying. It's just hard for my brain to reconcile what is going on.

 

[policywank]

Yeah, we've "sexted" twice so far but have spent way more time just talking and getting to know each other.

"Using" is the wrong word i guess. I guess misleading me? I dunno. It's the internet so you can't believe what the person on the other side of the keyboard is truly saying. It's just hard for my brain to reconcile what is going on.

Misleading you how? Like do you feel she is potentially being dishonest in the things she is saying? Or is she suggesting this is anything more than harmless fun?

 

[DrewM88]

Misleading you how? Like do you feel she is potentially being dishonest in the things she is saying? Or is she suggesting this is anything more than harmless fun?

yes to both? Like I've asked her if she's fulfilling a fantasy by talking to me or playing one out but she's said that no, she's not, and that she thinks of me and is starting to like me. But like we haven't known each other that long so it's just weird. She says things like I make her feel more like a person than her husband does, that she wishes i was there with her, and she insists that she's "not just saying that"

 

[policywank]

Oh I see. Whether it is online or IRL I'd be wary.

If she is being completely honest it seems like she is taking things pretty seriously and quickly. That is always a bit of a red flag for me but even more so if the person is currently in a relationship that isn't going well.

If she isn't being honest that would be an odd way to approach things. I mean engaging in some fun sexual fantasy is quite a different matter than pretending to be falling for someone.

How much does the online element of this play into it for you? I mean if you met her in real life and had an affair with her I would probably be of the view that she is the one with the obligation to her husband, not you. If you wanted to indulge the sexual experience I'd say go ahead. But if it turns into "I'm falling for you" and "I wish I was with you instead of my husband" etc. that is a whole different ballgame. In that scenario she is obviously looking for more than a sexual fling so you have to ask yourself if that is what you want. The scenario also suggests that she might be running away from something (i.e. her husband) more so than to you per se.

That isn't a knock on you. But the behaviour doesn't suggest a stable outlook on her part.

 

[DrewM88]

Oh I see. Whether it is online or IRL I'd be wary.

If she is being completely honest it seems like she is taking things pretty seriously and quickly. That is always a bit of a red flag for me but even more so if the person is currently in a relationship that isn't going well.

If she isn't being honest that would be an odd way to approach things. I mean engaging in some fun sexual fantasy is quite a different matter than pretending to be falling for someone.

How much does the online element of this play into it for you? I mean if you met her in real life and had an affair with her I would probably be of the view that she is the one with the obligation to her husband, not you. If you wanted to indulge the sexual experience I'd say go ahead. But if it turns into "I'm falling for you" and "I wish I was with you instead of my husband" etc. that is a whole different ballgame. In that scenario she is obviously looking for more than a sexual fling so you have to ask yourself if that is what you want. The scenario also suggests that she might be running away from something (i.e. her husband) more so than to you per se.

That isn't a knock on you. But the behaviour doesn't suggest a stable outlook on her part.

Yeah, that's the thing. She's said she's not happy in her marriage and feels stuck. She enjoys talking to me because as i said. i'm willing to talk to her about anything and other things like I make her feel like more than just an "object." We've sext a couple of times. It's that line between "is she really developing feelings for me" or "is she just pretending because it makes her hot" that's confusing and I don't know where i stand either. I like talking with her. If she's faking the things she says to me, she really knows what to say to make me like her.

 

[DrewM88]

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[policywank]

Well if she is doing it because it makes her hot then enjoy it and let her enjoy it. But if she really has feelings for you it gets a lot more complicated. Is that what you want and are those feelings real or just a response to her current challenges?

Personally I feel like having strong feelings for someone is a headspace that needs to stand on its own. Same goes for not being happy in a relationship. If she isn't happy in her marriage she needs to make a decision to get out (or not) completely independent of any notion of finding a replacement relationship.

Being the catalyst for a decision she isn't able to make on her own is potentially problematic for her. Assuming her intentions towards you aren't coloured by her marital issues is potentially problematic for you.

 

[DrewM88]

Well if she is doing it because it makes her hot then enjoy it and let her enjoy it. But if she really has feelings for you it gets a lot more complicated. Is that what you want and are those feelings real or just a response to her current challenges?

Personally I feel like having strong feelings for someone is a headspace that needs to stand on its own. Same goes for not being happy in a relationship. If she isn't happy in her marriage she needs to make a decision to get out (or not) completely independent of any notion of finding a replacement relationship.

Being the catalyst for a decision she isn't able to make on her own is potentially problematic for her. Assuming her intentions towards you aren't coloured by her marital issues is potentially problematic for you.

Today she told me she thought about me during the weekend. We didn't talk over the weekend except for a brief 15 minutes when she logged on and asked me how i felt about starting my new job today and to wish me luck. She said she was at the grocery store. We talked for like an hour and a half this afternoon before she got off work.

She told me she thought about me this weekend and "masturbated" thinking about one of our sexting sessions while she was laying in bed.

She also told me she thought about me while she was having sex with her husband. The sexting session I think and she said "i thought about how much better you'd be"

 

[Fucktoyslave1024]

This strikes a chord with me. I am married too but I am my Master's slave. Master has integrated the activities of my marital bed in the M/s dynamic. There are days he forbids me to from having sex even if my husband wants it. I am often given specific instructions as to what I should do with him on the days i am permitted to have sex. I am also expected to ask permission using a specific sentence before I allow myself to be used. This is because Master says I am his property being lent out with his permission and I should always be aware of it. After it is over, I inform my master using another specified sentence. Both the sentences are degrading and help to put me in my place as Master's slave.

 

[magic_rat]

i don't know what to make it of it. Or what to make of myself right now.

Just enjoy it for what it is. Don't confuse it with real life, and be open to the fact that it's probably a 60 year old truck driver who lives in his mother's basement.

 

[DrewM88]

Just enjoy it for what it is. Don't confuse it with real life, and be open to the fact that it's probably a 60 year old truck driver who lives in his mother's basement.

oh for sure.

 

[DrewM88]

You say that you "talked" with her and "sexted", but you also mention her being on the other side of a keyboard and that this talk happened when she logged-on. You mention things that she has "said," but you don't say that any of this happened during a voice call or cam-to-cam video chat.

Honestly, if this has all been written word so far, I'm guessing that about ten percent of what "she" has "said" to you may be true. It could be a scam that has yet to present itself fully. It could be a guy posing as a woman and he simply gets off on this.

If it's just text (words on a screen), don't pay it too much mind. People appear and disappear. They use deception for fun or profit. It's just life in the internet age. Don't over-think it, until "she" asks you to pay for a plane ticket, or otherwise spend money, and then take your own eIi

i get it, trust me.

 

[Mystories189]

I cheated on my husband alot. He knows I fuck around with guys now. He doesn't know the extent though.

 

[DrewM88]

We normally don’t talk a lot. Usually we talk for like an hour but the last two days i we’ve talked for like 1.5-2.5 hours. Usually it’s in the afternoon while she claims to be at work. She says it’s too risky in the evening…

 

[DrewM88]

“She” messaged me early this morning, like 715am and we ended up sexting. First time we’ve ever talked that early. She said her husband had left for work. Real or not, this is hot lol. We usually talk in the afternoon like I said so we’re planning on talking more today.

We don’t talk on weekends because she says it’s too tricky with her husband around

 

[ChrissyCD64]

We don't cheat, we have each others permission and have sex with others right in front of each other.

 

[Mystories189]

I'd want pictures if I was your husband.

He's walked in on it a couple times