Cheating?? Is This A Common Practice??

[Comshaw]

Do you think everyone out there cheating today? Have you ever?

And besides the obvisous - of catching them in the act, or finding proof - what are other ways to tell if you are being cheated on??

(ie: e-mails or letters are fine if you are shy!!)

It depends on how you define cheating. Each couple defines it a little bit differently. Some would say flirting online is cheating, while others would say the act of sex is.

The easiest and best way to avoid that pit fall is total honesty between partners.

My wife and I, after many years are at that point. Whatever I do, what ever she does, it's with each others knowledge and blessing.

That way we never have to worry about our partner cheating on us.

As for catching someone cheating, if you're not the jealous type and your gut is telling you they are; more then likely they are.

Best way to find out, sit them down look them in the eye and ask the question. If you have any empathy, if you have any sensitivity to others, you'll know by their body language and demeanor if they have, even if they try to lie.

Then it's just a matter of making them admit it.

I prefer our way. A lot simpler, a lot easier and much more fun.


Comshaw

 

[wnyken]

depends on what is acceptable to the couple

I agree with the last post. It depends on what your SO and you agree is ok and not ok. For some, that means being emotionally intimate with someone, for some it is sex. My wife and I share just about everything when we're talking with one another, emotionally and otherwise. We have had others in bed with us and have enjoyed it. I've watched her with others and vice versa and we both know that it is with eachother that we're going home with and so it's ok to have some fun at the same time. We both would not feel the same way if the other was emotionally or physically intimate with someone else without the other knowing and/or approving. That is not necessarily what is usual for every couple, but each has their own level of trust and level of openness.

The best way to ensure that you don't step over that line is to discuss what you are or want to do with your SO BEFORE you do it and make sure they are ok with it.

just my $.02

Ken

 

[playful_pal69]

Thanks....

{{{Comshaw}}} And {{{wnyken}}}

It appears that a lot do feel this way, and it is nice to know that some men are open with their SO in this manner. If it is a practice that works for your marriage, then by all means, don't try to fix something that isn't broken!!

Thanks for sharing...

 

[alfa_lupogrigio]

Because you are a little chilly??? lol

hmmmmmm could be but i think its someting else ...any ideas how to warm up?????

 

[Caress40]

this is a tricky question because so many people/couples define it different.but in the most basic sense i have cheated and did everything i could to explaine/defend it, i got involved with a girl from lit and it started out very innocently as pen pals.it then grew into a small fire of desire that rapidly grew into full on wanting. which led to me looking for ways to hide and decieve my s.o. all the while calling it innocent and "nothing but friendship" all the while the fire and longing growing, then it happend the first phone call. after that it was full on cheating i gave myself to this other woman full on emotionaly and that is the very basic level of cheating. and also the most dangerous one. i never slept or even met her in person....but i gave my heart to her. at which time she tore it apart and married another....i think it hurt more to all involved to cheat the way i did......that was 3 years ago and im still paying for it each and everyday... my s.o. didnt leave me or end the relationship even though everyone told her too.....but to answer the question yes everyone cheats not saying everyday or even in the most physcial way but when you look at another or think of what it would be like to be with that person you let the emotional bounds streatch if you will and then you are cheating.

From what a friend of mine tells me ... you're still doing it.

Didnt learn a lesson did you? I feel for your family