9to5
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my wife dont care for it either, but you should set a goal on how long to wear it. keep trying to go longer each time
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I am on a month plus without orgasm; I went 3 months from New Years thru March. Someday if things change I will do months in chastity with short breaks only for cleaning.
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if my wife wants my cock to cum I wont stop her,
3 months caged? Im impressed, I wish I could do that, only a few days at a time then off for a half or full day
are you hoping for it to change to be caged more?
I'm not sure what you mean by change? I would definitely like to be caged more, if that's what you mean. Moreso I guess I would like to give up control to someone.
I recently passed 50. I've had thousands of orgasms. I'm also very much on the downhill side of being of use to anyone in many aspects of life, including sexually. My wife doesn't seem to even think about sex anymore, let alone need me for it, so I wonder what the point of any of it is.
But those lame sorts of psychological realizations have changed the way I think about things. Orgasms feel good, of course. For a while, though, I was using them as a way for me to escape as opposed to a way to feel pleasure.
When I realized that, I decided to simply stop. I went from masturbating to orgasm daily (or more), to weekly, to monthly, and so on. When we did have sex (roughly monthly or less), I would often refrain from finishing. My wife thought it was odd at first, but we never really talked about it. Sex has become even less frequent, maybe because she no longer feels a sense of duty to drain my pipes. I don't know (and don't really care anymore).
Anyways, to me, denial has become much better than climaxing. I still have major urges, but having that heightened sense of urgency has lifted me up a bit... I guess an admittedly odd way to counteract major feelings of inadequacy in terms of family, finances, and career. I definitely mistreated, maybe once a week when I get a minute alone. But I almost never succumb to the intense urge to finish.
When I do cum, it is unbelievably pleasurable... for a few minutes. Then a post-orgasm low overtakes me. That low can last for days. But basically I intensely prefer to not cum.
All of that (and more) has put chastity into my brain. I love the physical feeling of constraint, and just maybe the emotional feeling of completely lacking the ability to do what males do. I did show it to my wife and even gave her the key a time or two. She weakly entertained it, but she wasn't into it, and I didn't push her.
So I never really experienced the loss of control that chastity is really about. I would like to. I am still married so can't bring anyone else into that aspect of my life, nor can I even wear a cage on my own without making things uncomfortable.
Maybe we will eventually become just housemates. At my age and station, I would have no desire to actually be physically intimate at all with another person, but I could definitely see locking up and giving control to a virtual keyholder. Contact through words or even video chats. I think that would be a big positive in my life. Not likely, though.
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I ended up chatting with someone who wants me in chastity until we can chat again tomorrow night.
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and did you lock it up?
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yes I did
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