Chance for a first time

[CodieH]

I've been lurking forever. I have a chance to try a guy for the first time. Its a friend of mine that is gay and is going to let me explore my curiosity. I was wondering if there are any tips here that can help me relax and enjoy this new experience. I've been wanting to try a guy for a while...but i'm alittle uneasy now that it can actually happen. Any advice?

 

[Chrissi]

I've been lurking forever. I have a chance to try a guy for the first time. Its a friend of mine that is gay and is going to let me explore my curiosity. I was wondering if there are any tips here that can help me relax and enjoy this new experience. I've been wanting to try a guy for a while...but i'm alittle uneasy now that it can actually happen. Any advice?

Let him take the lead, but you control the pace and what happens.

As far as tips: as you say, relax and enjoy the experience, you may hate it, you may love it. Although, I have to say that every first time guy I have been with, has absolutely loved the experience.
Forget all your preconceived notions about homosexuality, they can really get in the way and complicate things. Right now you are not gay, you are just curious or experimenting with a close friend. Keep in your mind that you never know until you try, but also know that this is just sex, not any emotional connection.

Take it slow. If you like massage, try that, with him massaging you. He, being gay, will have no hang ups about touching you, and you can direct how intimate the touching gets. Have him start on with you face down, and he starts on your head, shoulders, arms, hands, feet, legs, then slowly moves to more intimate zones as you and your body respond.

If you like gay porn, or if he likes straight porn, you could try that.

Maybe a glass or two of wine, or a beer or two, not too much, but can help calm the nerves.

 

[CodieH]

i like the massage idea. May break the ice because i have no idea how to start. I think this may be a great idea since i will be facing away, enjoying the touching and he will be doing what he likes..and it will go slow. We talked about the porn thing..he says he has some bi threesome stuff so it has girls in it too and may help get me going being that is known territory..ha. We have talked abut what all i want to try and what he will do to me and my limits. He is good with it. He also knows i may start and not be able to do it and is ok with that also. Pretty much giving me my way and anything i want.

 

[SilkyDave]

you have a wonderful friend...to let you explore with him is great

 

[Experiencedguy]

Just my opinion, but . . .

First of all, welcome to our world. So far, I would only say you are bi-curious. And - from what you have written, I think you will enjoy it. I would advise you to be slow your first time.

But - there are some (remotely) possible consequences. If this goes badly, it may ruin your friendship. Of course, it may make your friendship more. Or, it may have no effect at all. As long as you understand all the outcomes that may happen with first time sex with a friend, go for it.

The outcome could be the same with first time of either sex, if it is a friend.

Good luck, and let us know the 'end' results.

 

[CodieH]

weve talked about any awekwardness that may follow. We both have agreed that its just for fun and no emotion/regret on either side. Lets hope thats the way it turns out. I think it will. The plan is at most to give/receive oral if i can work up to that point. Its really a play it by ear deal and not to go where either of us are uncomfortable. We both have the option to call it off/stop at any point of this whole thing. The only problem is getting the opportunity where its not rushed and is safe for everyone.

 

[Hitchiker69]

I agree with the wine and massage idea...it always works for me. Is there a hot tub available? If there is, use it, nude.

Remember that you are alone, and that what you do (or don't do) is entirely private. No one else ever needs to know.

You already know you love to be stroked off and sucked, right? Let yourself enjoy having a man do it.

Relax and explore what is both new and so familiar...

Think 'sensual' and be free to explore. Be 'in the moment'...don't worry about what's 'right' or 'wrong', just enjoy the moment. There is so much to enjoy about a man, and about being a man.

I'm sure glad I did. And I wish I could be there to help you. If you enjoy the experience, a whole new world opens to you. You can be a bisexual man, and enjoy the best of both sexes.

Your'e an adult. You have the right to pleasure on your own terms, in your own way.

Good luck.

 

[cureustoo]

I know the thought of a massage sounds nice. to have a guy rubbing oil up and down your back. I too was hoping for that a week ago but my married friend didn't have time.

 

[CodieH]

we have access to hottubs..the problem is just finding "alone time" ha.

hitchhiker, yes, i love to be stroked and sucked by a woman..i'm looking forward to seeing how a man can do it.

I think one of the problems is gonna be with me getting my head out of it with all the preconceived rights and wrongs that are out there. I really just want to enjoy it when it happens.

thanks for the help everyone..the support is making me want it even more.

 

[Hitchiker69]

I can't stop thinking about the hot date you have coming up, and what an opportunity it is. I wish I'd had my first time with someone I knew and trusted.

Want more advice? Make the most of it. Take all your ideas and fantasies about what the best possible night with your friend could be, and make sure it happens.
You've obviously fantasized about this, now's the chance to make it real. Fantasized about a hot and heavy 69 session? Here's your chance. Always wanted to suck cock? Do it with him. Whether you want to be a top or a bottom, do it with him. (You'll never find a girl with a butt as tight as a man's, trust me. Enjoy it.) Just want to get some good head, do it with him.

Make sure you experience all you can think of during that date. If you later decide it's not for you, at least you've had a new experience, and learned from it. Maybe it will change your life, maybe it will be a one-time thing. Go forward without holding back. Look back with no regrets.

 

[none2_none2]

To be safe with your friendship, I think you should also make sure you and your friend both discuss exactly what you want and what you don't want to try -- in other words discuss your boundaries. Do it in a non-threatening way. Perhaps even do it over an email exchange, and promise each other to wait at least a week before responding to what the other guy wrote.

I say this from my own experiences. I know many years ago when I was young, I had some nice encounters with a particular guy now and then. Then one day he opened up his greatest sexual secrete fantasy during one of our encounters. He caught me off guard; thus my response was too hasty and too negative.

Basically, he wanted to be tied up and ordered around during sex. While I am and always have been a top by nature, I have never forced anybody to do anything. I love men, and I love to make love to their assholes. I want them to desire to be fucked -- not forced like rape. My enjoyment is that they are having a good time being on the bottom. So I told him that I wasn't interested. That encounter where he spoke of his fantasy was the last encounter we had. I even bought hand cuffs some time after that in hopes that I would run into him again. I never did run into him again.

In hindsight, I wish I would have had some time to think about it. I still even to this day don't understand what people see in such practices, but I do know what it means to loose someone who was otherwise a nice guy and decent buddy to have sex with. I should have engaged his wims as it was no skin off my back. Even though I wouldn't have gotten anything out of it, he would have. Maybe also his appreciation would have meant that he would have enjoyed accommodating what I enjoyed. I also realize too that it was an honor for him to share his deepest fantasy with me, and the fact that he did probably meant how much he trusted ME specifically. I'm ashamed how I blotched up my response.

 

[CodieH]

I hae to say is it was pretty coollll.....

I can't stop thinking about the hot date you have coming up, and what an opportunity it is. I wish I'd had my first time with someone I knew and trusted.

Want more advice? Make the most of it. Take all your ideas and fantasies about what the best possible night with your friend could be, and make sure it happens.
You've obviously fantasized about this, now's the chance to make it real. Fantasized about a hot and heavy 69 session? Here's your chance. Always wanted to suck cock? Do it with him. Whether you want to be a top or a bottom, do it with him. (You'll never find a girl with a butt as tight as a man's, trust me. Enjoy it.) Just want to get some good head, do it with him.

Make sure you experience all you can think of during that date. If you later decide it's not for you, at least you've had a new experience, and learned from it. Maybe it will change your life, maybe it will be a one-time thing. Go forward without holding back. Look back with no regrets.

 

[drube]

Codie did it happen yet?

 

[CodieH]

yes, it happened sunday night. did the hot tub thing with a combination of him massaging me.

 

[nalas15]

details perhaps?

 

[Phydeax69]

Yeah, how did it go???

 

[CodieH]

started with drinks and a hot tub. He started giving me a massage and worked his way down. I have to admit that it felt great but my head was trying to get in the way. It took some time for me to be ready but eventually he reached around me and started lightly stroking me. this felt so good, i leaned back against him and just kinda let my mind go blank, enjoying the experience..i could feel his hard cock against me and i got very excited. he got me to set on the side of the hot tub and when i entered his mouth i knew it was gonna be good. He was right when he told me he was very good at it..lol. Def. one of my best ever. I stopped him before i came and got back into the water where i touched him for the first time.......

 

[terry hawley]

dont stop ..... cant wait to her the rest of your story

 

[CodieH]

well it was a different feeling. it was hard and soft at the same time. We stroked each other for a while...he was letting me get the feel for it and made sure i was comfortable with everything so far. I asked him to sit on the side and i moved between his legs. I studied it for a while, its slight curve and its pulsating head. He is average i guess..but my knowledge of other dicks is limited..haha. I would say im thicker but we are about the same length 6.5 to 7 inches. I played with it, stroked it, felt the weight of his balls..and kissed/licked it some. I wanted to do more to it but once again my head got involved and i asked if we could go inside. We did and got another glass of wine. He was talking to me making sure i was ok with everything and said it was ok if we stopped. I was fine..just needed to let go more. he came over to me and led me to the bed room, sat me on his bed and kissed his way down to my dick which was getting hard again. Once again he took me and started sucking me. i leaned back and watched him give me an unbelievable blow job. I started to pump his mouth....Im thankfull he knew when to stop becaues i was fixing to release..which wouldn't have been good for me to do more. He knew he needed to keep my desire up and not let my head clear..lol. I knew i had to go for it...while my desire was at its peak..I stood him up. went down on my knees, grabbed the base of his cock and wrapped my lips around it for the first time. It had a slightly salty taste, and that soft and hard feeling again..its really hard to explain i guess. He let me start slow..taking short strokes, making sure i wasn't scraping anything..letting me adjust to having someones cock in my mouth...

 

[CodieH]

i got comfortable with it and let go...just did what i knew i liked. I have to say i was def. enjoying myself. I didn't look up...kept my eyes pretty much closed most of the time..haha. But i was taking him as deep as i could witout gagging and was getting a good rythm going. I could hear him..which kept me going and let me know i was doing ok. He placed his had on the back of my head and started meeting my rythm. I would pump his cock with each stroke. eventually he pulled me off and said he was gonna cum..I pumped him and watched his cum spurt from his dick...a couple streams then it dribbled over my hand. When he stopped i wanted to see so i sucked what was left on his dick off...its was a bitter and very salty taste...have to admit i like the taste of pussy better..lol. He laid me back down and went back down on me and this time gave me his best and never stopped until i released in his mouth..he drank it all down..and stayed on it miliking it...which sends me into convulsions honstly because my head is so sensative after i cum..i had to pull him off..haha.

it was alittle awekward for me after..we talked and had another glass of wine. I'm cool with everything and i'm so glad i did it. I'm still a pussy first guy tho i can tell you. I want to do it again i'm pretty sure and we plan on it...

all in all it was a great first time i think...and i did figure out that i'm at least partially bi...

 

[SilverDrake]

well it was a different feeling. it was hard and soft at the same time. We stroked each other for a while...he was letting me get the feel for it and made sure i was comfortable with everything so far. I asked him to sit on the side and i moved between his legs. I studied it for a while, its slight curve and its pulsating head. He is average i guess..but my knowledge of other dicks is limited..haha. I would say im thicker but we are about the same length 6.5 to 7 inches. I played with it, stroked it, felt the weight of his balls..and kissed/licked it some. I wanted to do more to it but once again my head got involved and i asked if we could go inside. We did and got another glass of wine. He was talking to me making sure i was ok with everything and said it was ok if we stopped. I was fine..just needed to let go more. he came over to me and led me to the bed room, sat me on his bed and kissed his way down to my dick which was getting hard again. Once again he took me and started sucking me. i leaned back and watched him give me an unbelievable blow job. I started to pump his mouth....Im thankfull he knew when to stop becaues i was fixing to release..which wouldn't have been good for me to do more. He knew he needed to keep my desire up and not let my head clear..lol. I knew i had to go for it...while my desire was at its peak..I stood him up. went down on my knees, grabbed the base of his cock and wrapped my lips around it for the first time. It had a slightly salty taste, and that soft and hard feeling again..its really hard to explain i guess. He let me start slow..taking short strokes, making sure i wasn't scraping anything..letting me adjust to having someones cock in my mouth...

Don't stop...

 

[TomBoner]

Congrats on getting over your fears about the first time. Sounds like you handled it right. Next time should even be easier ...

... and more enjoyable!

 

[Hitchiker69]

Congratulations. You're a richer person for the experience... aren't you glad you did it? Welcome to the brotherhood of Bi men. Perhaps some day you and I can get together.

 

[Hitchiker69]

By the way, I love the way you tell your story. You're quite the cock tease....I'm hard as a rock. Excuse me, I gotta go get some release!

 

[Phydeax69]

Great stuff! You got me hard just reading that...I gotta go do something now! ;-)