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Welcome to the board curiousjen.
While i don't have much to offer in the way of advice on your situation (maybe our resident Dommes can), i have found a few links that maybe helpful to you and your mate. Please see below:
http://www.cfnm.net/
http://www.fetishforum.net/boards/cfnm/index.html
i hope these help in terms of gathering ideas for you. Good luck
lara
While i don't have much to offer in the way of advice on your situation (maybe our resident Dommes can), i have found a few links that maybe helpful to you and your mate. Please see below:
http://www.cfnm.net/
http://www.fetishforum.net/boards/cfnm/index.html
i hope these help in terms of gathering ideas for you. Good luck
lara
well i haven't read the links above, but here are some thoughts.
First while I'm sure that any man would enjoy his woman to be wearing "sexy" clothes, I don't think that is the point of this. I think every day regular clothes would be fine.
I have to imagine that the point of this is the vulnerability of it. I think walking around (or however you make him move around) with your cock and balls hanging would give quite a vulnerable feeling.
It could also be that you see him. I mean, women prance around with such tight clothing that you can see every curve in her body all the time. Men tend to wear clothing that isn't quite so form fitting. Thus you being able to see him that way, while maybe he cannot see you in this way is a turn on.
Just some thoughts, it's not my kink so I'm just trying to look into it from the outside.
First while I'm sure that any man would enjoy his woman to be wearing "sexy" clothes, I don't think that is the point of this. I think every day regular clothes would be fine.
I have to imagine that the point of this is the vulnerability of it. I think walking around (or however you make him move around) with your cock and balls hanging would give quite a vulnerable feeling.
It could also be that you see him. I mean, women prance around with such tight clothing that you can see every curve in her body all the time. Men tend to wear clothing that isn't quite so form fitting. Thus you being able to see him that way, while maybe he cannot see you in this way is a turn on.
Just some thoughts, it's not my kink so I'm just trying to look into it from the outside.
How about this - try spending a day at home (a lazy Sunday scenario, perchance) with you clothed as you usually are, and him naked.
The unhurried pace and absence of expectation will give both of you a chance to ease into the moment and allow the fantasy factory to kick into high gear.
The unhurried pace and absence of expectation will give both of you a chance to ease into the moment and allow the fantasy factory to kick into high gear.
I don't know much about cfnm, but I have done something similar myself.
What we did, was we left a clothes hamper by the front door. When I entered the house, I had to strip naked and deposit my clothes.
He would also lay out clothes on top of the hamper for me to wear when I needed to leave the house.
It is a very vulnerable feeling!
You really want to have fun, invite 4 or 5 girlfriends over and have him make you all dinner.
Now that would be fun!
Keiko
What we did, was we left a clothes hamper by the front door. When I entered the house, I had to strip naked and deposit my clothes.
He would also lay out clothes on top of the hamper for me to wear when I needed to leave the house.
It is a very vulnerable feeling!
You really want to have fun, invite 4 or 5 girlfriends over and have him make you all dinner.
Now that would be fun!
Keiko
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As a student/collector of kink & kink-psychology...
I have to admit, that's one I've never really recognized as a specific kink or fetish. (Thinks for opening my eyes to this detail, btw!)
Now that you've pointed it out though, it seems as obvious as the nose on my face: So close I didn't see it. It's power-exchange symbolism, at least that's the immediate response it triggers in me. (In the converse version, of course: CMnf...
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Next time you Top, try commanding him to strip- don't let him be fancy or sexy & seductive, and if he tries, look elsewhere, look bored, and maybe look at your watch. *L* As for what to wear for it, I'd suggest pseudoeveryday clothing. In other words, Domme it up some, add some sexy powerful undies- say, garterbelt with black stockings that you could reward him with a glimpse of, or maybe something on the surface that adds a hint of power. (Corsets are terrific for this, and they lend well to switchiness too!)
I think the underlying message is that since you are clothed, you could shrug and walk out the door without a moment's notice, whereas he, naked, is both vulnerable and exposed, and a little trapped as well, since if he wanted to leave, he'd have to fumble for his pants, etc...
I can also see an aspect of acceptance in all of this: You, looking absolutely FABulous, accept him, (on whatever level you choose to allow him to see,) unadorned.
oooooooooo... Then there's the civilized-to-primitive aspect that lurks in there, that contrasts intellectual force & power against the ironic weakness of naked animal male "strength"... Very nice!
Thank you, jen! You've opened a seriously fascinating little can of worms here!
I have to admit, that's one I've never really recognized as a specific kink or fetish. (Thinks for opening my eyes to this detail, btw!)
Now that you've pointed it out though, it seems as obvious as the nose on my face: So close I didn't see it. It's power-exchange symbolism, at least that's the immediate response it triggers in me. (In the converse version, of course: CMnf...
)Next time you Top, try commanding him to strip- don't let him be fancy or sexy & seductive, and if he tries, look elsewhere, look bored, and maybe look at your watch. *L* As for what to wear for it, I'd suggest pseudoeveryday clothing. In other words, Domme it up some, add some sexy powerful undies- say, garterbelt with black stockings that you could reward him with a glimpse of, or maybe something on the surface that adds a hint of power. (Corsets are terrific for this, and they lend well to switchiness too!)
I think the underlying message is that since you are clothed, you could shrug and walk out the door without a moment's notice, whereas he, naked, is both vulnerable and exposed, and a little trapped as well, since if he wanted to leave, he'd have to fumble for his pants, etc...
I can also see an aspect of acceptance in all of this: You, looking absolutely FABulous, accept him, (on whatever level you choose to allow him to see,) unadorned.
oooooooooo... Then there's the civilized-to-primitive aspect that lurks in there, that contrasts intellectual force & power against the ironic weakness of naked animal male "strength"... Very nice!
Thank you, jen! You've opened a seriously fascinating little can of worms here!
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I have been posting my experiences at weekly CFNM parties if anyone is interested.
https://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?s=&threadid=256324
The parties are held by a group of women and they keep a list of guys guys willing and able to to come to the parties. They are a little different each week and really wild.
The exciting thing about CFNM I think is the role reversal combined with the common male fantasy of exhibitionism. Guys that like to flash or be caught masturbating are made sex objects and subject to the womens whims. Similar to but different from BDSM.
I have been posting my experiences at weekly CFNM parties if anyone is interested.
https://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?s=&threadid=256324
The parties are held by a group of women and they keep a list of guys guys willing and able to to come to the parties. They are a little different each week and really wild.
The exciting thing about CFNM I think is the role reversal combined with the common male fantasy of exhibitionism. Guys that like to flash or be caught masturbating are made sex objects and subject to the womens whims. Similar to but different from BDSM.
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Well, I've never really knew the title of such kink, but I knew I was into this for quite a hile. So I can give you a few suggestions.
- Dressing up as a businesswoman/schoolteacher is really really hot, well, at least for me. Find out if that makes your boy weak in the knees or find what does the trick. A blouse will do, no need for a jacket, though you may want to do that anyways.
I see no need to put domme-y undergarments like garters or corsets or whatever, but that's my personal opinion.
Also, when having sex, make a little rip in the pantyhose and hike up the skirt - that usually does the trick.
- Dressing up as a businesswoman/schoolteacher is really really hot, well, at least for me. Find out if that makes your boy weak in the knees or find what does the trick. A blouse will do, no need for a jacket, though you may want to do that anyways.
I see no need to put domme-y undergarments like garters or corsets or whatever, but that's my personal opinion.
Also, when having sex, make a little rip in the pantyhose and hike up the skirt - that usually does the trick.
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Thank God for the Internet!! It makes us realize that we are not alone in our weird sexual fantasies and kinks! I thought I was the only guy in the world who found the idea of being exposed naked (in a vulnerable way) in front of a clothed woman -was very erotic! - Until I realized that I was one of many.
I first realized the absolute thrill of this scene when I had to be fitted for a back brace when I was in my twenties. I was in a situation where I was stripped to my underwear (tighty-whitees at that time), standing directly in front of a clothed, seated woman who was bending the metal stays to fit the curveture of my spine.
The briefs I was wearing were nearly transparent (since I am like most guys and won't throw away a pair until they become dust in the wind), and I happend to catch my reflection in a mirror. To my HORROR I realizeed that my cock was completely visable through my briefs!! I imediatly grew flush with embarrassment when I relaized how exposed I was right in front of this woman, who was probably nearly old enough to be my mom. It was really very embarrassing.
I felt somewhat humiliated and exposed, and for some strange reason, I began to get excited. VERY excited! I became embarrassingly erect in my briefs, right in fron of her! My face was burning red with embarrasment as I stammered and apology, but she just ignored the situation quite smugly.
While nothing more happened, that remains one of my fondest erotic memories to this day.
I don't know if this L-O-N-G rambling post sheds any light on CFNM, but I feel better!!
Thank God for the Internet!! It makes us realize that we are not alone in our weird sexual fantasies and kinks! I thought I was the only guy in the world who found the idea of being exposed naked (in a vulnerable way) in front of a clothed woman -was very erotic! - Until I realized that I was one of many.
I first realized the absolute thrill of this scene when I had to be fitted for a back brace when I was in my twenties. I was in a situation where I was stripped to my underwear (tighty-whitees at that time), standing directly in front of a clothed, seated woman who was bending the metal stays to fit the curveture of my spine.
The briefs I was wearing were nearly transparent (since I am like most guys and won't throw away a pair until they become dust in the wind), and I happend to catch my reflection in a mirror. To my HORROR I realizeed that my cock was completely visable through my briefs!! I imediatly grew flush with embarrassment when I relaized how exposed I was right in front of this woman, who was probably nearly old enough to be my mom. It was really very embarrassing.
I felt somewhat humiliated and exposed, and for some strange reason, I began to get excited. VERY excited! I became embarrassingly erect in my briefs, right in fron of her! My face was burning red with embarrasment as I stammered and apology, but she just ignored the situation quite smugly.
While nothing more happened, that remains one of my fondest erotic memories to this day.
I don't know if this L-O-N-G rambling post sheds any light on CFNM, but I feel better!!
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curiousjen said:Yes, i am seeing this again and again. There seems to be a big cross over between cfnm and femdom- that i am very excited about
Yesterday we just had a whole day pretty much where he was naked and i was clothed. It was fun. We didn't really dotoo much sexual stuff- just got into the power vibe and feeling used to it.
thanks for your experiences
Did you like the idea of being objectified when you were in that vunerable situation?
I didn't realise it at the time, buit in retrospect -YES! I would love to have a repeat experience someday! - Great Topic, dear!
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Here is an exciting femdom / cfnm game that an old gf and I used to play that you might enjoy using with your boyfriend.
we used to go to a weekend house that was 2.5 hours away from where we lived.
on many weekends we would make the drive in the evening after work and she would choose to drive. Since we were in the dark she would demand that I strip to be her "nude passenger." The road was deserted enough that we could play this game without having alot of people see us, just enough of a chance of being caught to make it exciting but not to lead to arrest.
On these drives she would usually stroke me casually for the entire ride, but would not allow me to cum. There was also a gas station on the way that closed early but you could still use a credit card to pay at the pump. It was extremely exciting to pump gas in the nude with a raging hard on, hoping no one would see me but at the same time hoping that I might get caught.
Occassionally, my gf would get me so worked up by the end of the trip that I would beg her to let me cum. This always required that I promise to do whatever she requested/demanded for the remainder of the weekend. Since she needed to focus on driving, she would make me finish myself off for her amusement.
And of course since we were in her car, she demaned that I cum in my hand and get rid of the mess by eating my load as she called me her little cum eating whore.
On one of the trips I did not cum into my hand and "made a mess" on her passenger seat. When we got to the weekend house, she made me bend over the hood of her car so that she could spank me for the mess that I made. Needless to say at that point I was rock hard again after the spanking. This certainly came in handy since she than fucked me on the hood of the car.
CFnm and FEMDOM is a great combination...
we used to go to a weekend house that was 2.5 hours away from where we lived.
on many weekends we would make the drive in the evening after work and she would choose to drive. Since we were in the dark she would demand that I strip to be her "nude passenger." The road was deserted enough that we could play this game without having alot of people see us, just enough of a chance of being caught to make it exciting but not to lead to arrest.
On these drives she would usually stroke me casually for the entire ride, but would not allow me to cum. There was also a gas station on the way that closed early but you could still use a credit card to pay at the pump. It was extremely exciting to pump gas in the nude with a raging hard on, hoping no one would see me but at the same time hoping that I might get caught.
Occassionally, my gf would get me so worked up by the end of the trip that I would beg her to let me cum. This always required that I promise to do whatever she requested/demanded for the remainder of the weekend. Since she needed to focus on driving, she would make me finish myself off for her amusement.
And of course since we were in her car, she demaned that I cum in my hand and get rid of the mess by eating my load as she called me her little cum eating whore.
On one of the trips I did not cum into my hand and "made a mess" on her passenger seat. When we got to the weekend house, she made me bend over the hood of her car so that she could spank me for the mess that I made. Needless to say at that point I was rock hard again after the spanking. This certainly came in handy since she than fucked me on the hood of the car.
CFnm and FEMDOM is a great combination...
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Have some fun with this, and I'll sure he will like it.
Repeat the day where he is nude and you are dressed in your everyday clothes. Have one of your girlfriends over without telling him about it. Before she arrives, put your boyfriend in some contrived situation that he cannot get back to his clothes when your friend comes over.
The situation should appear somewhat real, and you know what might work, but here is a suggestion. Have him clean something,
maybe the bathroon or a lower kitchen cabinet. Anything that will occupy him when she comes in the door.
The feeling of vulnerability will be great. Ask your friend, "Oh my boyfriend was just fixing the cabinet. It doesn't bother you that he is not dressed does it?" If it does, save the friendship and have him get dressed.
But, if she says, "No it doesn't bother me."
Then the way is clear for him to be naked for quite a while. Make it obvious at some point that you are looking at his cock. The attention will have an effect. I'll bet the two of you will be treated to a nice hardon that will last a while.
Little comments like, "Sweetheart, that is so sweet of you to get hard for us," and "Get us all a soda dear," will drive him crazy.
The open mention of his hardness is sure to arouse him even further. You can judge how much to play it out. When your friend leaves I'll bet he is saving that hardon just for you. Don't waste it.
--Waterkemist
Have some fun with this, and I'll sure he will like it.
Repeat the day where he is nude and you are dressed in your everyday clothes. Have one of your girlfriends over without telling him about it. Before she arrives, put your boyfriend in some contrived situation that he cannot get back to his clothes when your friend comes over.
The situation should appear somewhat real, and you know what might work, but here is a suggestion. Have him clean something,
maybe the bathroon or a lower kitchen cabinet. Anything that will occupy him when she comes in the door.
The feeling of vulnerability will be great. Ask your friend, "Oh my boyfriend was just fixing the cabinet. It doesn't bother you that he is not dressed does it?" If it does, save the friendship and have him get dressed.
But, if she says, "No it doesn't bother me."
Then the way is clear for him to be naked for quite a while. Make it obvious at some point that you are looking at his cock. The attention will have an effect. I'll bet the two of you will be treated to a nice hardon that will last a while.
Little comments like, "Sweetheart, that is so sweet of you to get hard for us," and "Get us all a soda dear," will drive him crazy.
The open mention of his hardness is sure to arouse him even further. You can judge how much to play it out. When your friend leaves I'll bet he is saving that hardon just for you. Don't waste it.
--Waterkemist
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This happened to me a couple of times when playing strip games.
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wow, thats some interesting stuff.....the phila party sounded like a good time! i know i could do it around my gf, but not so sure how i'd do around a lot of women...
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Here are some additional links on this topic for those interested.
http://www.cfnmusa.com/sites.htm
www.cfnmusa.com
http://www.freecfnm.com/
http://www.4cfnm.com/
lara
http://www.cfnmusa.com/sites.htm
www.cfnmusa.com
http://www.freecfnm.com/
http://www.4cfnm.com/
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I've been a long time reader/lurker here at Lit, but this thread finally got me to register!
To make a long story short, earlier this summer my sister in law was visiting us, she's 29, and one evening we were eating mexican food and watching a dumbass cable news show. Anyway there was a section on the show about male strippers and how much money they make and how they can be normal people who live next door blah blah.. Anyway my dear wife and her sister joke a little about me wanting a career change anyway and I start pointing out the flaws in these guys logic about it being the dream job they say it is. Anyway, at the end of my mini speech I come up with the quip that it would be a bad career choice, but a 30th birthday party would be a different occasion. At any rate, I meant it as a joke and it came out that way but of course my wife and her sis being the sneaks they are didn't let me get away with it as such.
The good news is that her birthday isn't until February so there is time for it to be talked about, which we haven't done seriously at all but it has already come up a few times in a joking manner in the last couple of months so I don't think it is going to get forgotten about anytime soon.
What it has done though is get me thinking about whether or not I'd feel comfortable doing this, which is easy to make a decision until you realize that you may actually HAVE to do whatever you decide. The good part there is that it would only be the 2 of them, and I'd have no problem getting naked in front of my sister in law in a neutral situation, but this is a bit more than neutral here!
Part of the reason I joked about it is that her sister is very shy and thought I'd get a blush out of it and that would be all. Now I'm wondering what the hell to do if this continues as I don't want to be too crude, but at the same time help her open up her shell a little too.
We have small children so it would have to be a late nite thing, so my big ideas have been to serve them margaritas in martini glasses (because we have them) and take off an article of clothing whenever they get another drink, at least that would get her in a less shy mood as time wore on. I was thinking about seeing if I could find a big rubber stamp that said "happy birthday" to stamp on my butt, but otherwise I'm at a loss for anything else to do. I was thinking about getting a ping pong paddle and letting her give me a birthday spanking but knowing her I think that may be too edgy. Even if I decided to keep it as an option I would have to wait and see if the vibes were right at the time before I suggested it. My big concern would be if my wife has had a few drinks by this time too she might go into the bedroom and come out with one of our real paddles! I usually like to give more than receive but I don't think that would happen here, and that is another real concern.
Does anyone else have some ideas here? Granted it is some time away, and it may still end up forgotten but as I said it's been brought up enough I don't think it will go away by itself. When it gets closer if it is still being joked about I'll have a sit down talk with my wife about what would feel comfortable for all, but since this topic has come up here I thought I'd come out of the closet and see what other ideas are out there!
Thanks,
L.
To make a long story short, earlier this summer my sister in law was visiting us, she's 29, and one evening we were eating mexican food and watching a dumbass cable news show. Anyway there was a section on the show about male strippers and how much money they make and how they can be normal people who live next door blah blah.. Anyway my dear wife and her sister joke a little about me wanting a career change anyway and I start pointing out the flaws in these guys logic about it being the dream job they say it is. Anyway, at the end of my mini speech I come up with the quip that it would be a bad career choice, but a 30th birthday party would be a different occasion. At any rate, I meant it as a joke and it came out that way but of course my wife and her sis being the sneaks they are didn't let me get away with it as such.
The good news is that her birthday isn't until February so there is time for it to be talked about, which we haven't done seriously at all but it has already come up a few times in a joking manner in the last couple of months so I don't think it is going to get forgotten about anytime soon.
What it has done though is get me thinking about whether or not I'd feel comfortable doing this, which is easy to make a decision until you realize that you may actually HAVE to do whatever you decide. The good part there is that it would only be the 2 of them, and I'd have no problem getting naked in front of my sister in law in a neutral situation, but this is a bit more than neutral here!
Part of the reason I joked about it is that her sister is very shy and thought I'd get a blush out of it and that would be all. Now I'm wondering what the hell to do if this continues as I don't want to be too crude, but at the same time help her open up her shell a little too.
We have small children so it would have to be a late nite thing, so my big ideas have been to serve them margaritas in martini glasses (because we have them) and take off an article of clothing whenever they get another drink, at least that would get her in a less shy mood as time wore on. I was thinking about seeing if I could find a big rubber stamp that said "happy birthday" to stamp on my butt, but otherwise I'm at a loss for anything else to do. I was thinking about getting a ping pong paddle and letting her give me a birthday spanking but knowing her I think that may be too edgy. Even if I decided to keep it as an option I would have to wait and see if the vibes were right at the time before I suggested it. My big concern would be if my wife has had a few drinks by this time too she might go into the bedroom and come out with one of our real paddles! I usually like to give more than receive but I don't think that would happen here, and that is another real concern.
Does anyone else have some ideas here? Granted it is some time away, and it may still end up forgotten but as I said it's been brought up enough I don't think it will go away by itself. When it gets closer if it is still being joked about I'll have a sit down talk with my wife about what would feel comfortable for all, but since this topic has come up here I thought I'd come out of the closet and see what other ideas are out there!
Thanks,
L.
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Re: CFNM for charity
Any bondage at these parties?? It would be exciting if the women tied the man up before they play with and tease him.tb66332 said:
