Celebratory Scenes

[Goddess Helena]

When My boy had a birthday, I made sure that W/we had a scene that he would always remember. It was a mix of things that he enjoys greatly and things that he does not like at all. I allowed his more aggressive side to come out briefly and a good time was had by A/all. I took special care afterward, bathing him and praising him before taking him into My bed where he slept in my arms.

Now I have a birthday soon and he has been told that he may plan something for U/us. Something that he knows will please Me. The wicked little half smile I catch him wearing has Me wondering what he is planning for Me.

It also has Me wondering what O/others do to celebrate birthdays or anniversaries or other special events.


Btw, someone be proud of me for finally starting a thread.


Helena

 

[bunny bondage]

i'll be proud for you! yay! hurrah! congratulations!

and i really like the idea of a b-day scene. i've never done anything super special on my birthdays involving scenes, or any other holiday for that matter, but it sounds like a really good idea! sadly, i have to wait till the end of september....but that's lots of time to think of something!

 

[Goddess Helena]

Thank you, Bunny.


It was a nice night with My boy. I think W/we found a new tradition for O/our relationship that night.

Something tells Me you will think up something wonderful for Septmeber.


Helena

 

[Ebonyfire]

It also has Me wondering what O/others do to celebrate birthdays or anniversaries or other special events.


Btw, someone be proud of me for finally starting a thread.


Helena

Better late than never...

I am definitely proud of you. And I really like the thread cause it is a unique one. I do not think we have covered this territory at all!

I have not had an occasion to celebrate birthdays with my boys. Their Mommas have first dibs!

And I have never thought about it.

Eb

 

[Goddess Helena]

Thank you, Ebony.

It took a long time for Me to think of something that I had not already seen.
Now I think I know why.

I'm starting to think I'm an oddball around here.

It seemed perfectly natural do something special for My boy's birthday that was beyond presents.
Perhaps that's because W/we are in a relationship that is romantic as well as being D/s.

I was hoping to hear about how people in different kinds of BDSM relationships handle birthdays, etc.

I do understand letting the mommas have Your boys, though, Ebony. That would be an odd phone call for the boy to make.


Helena

 

[Red Menace]

I had only recently started playing with Sir when he had his Birthday and I had no money. So, being sort of creatively gifted, I drew him a picture I knew would have a lot of meaning for him. It's the sort of thing that you can play off as being no big deal... it's only a small charcoal drawing... or you could read more into it and see it as being really special, since I really wasn't sure just what he'd be comfortable with.

That was the first time he let me come to the local club with him, he said he wanted me to be there for his birthday, but he ended up working as a DM that night because it was so busy. He handed me over to a friend to baby-sit me while he monitored the dungeon and I didn't see him for most of the night.

We haven't come to my birthday yet... but I don't think he even knows when it is. If I'm really lucky, it'll pass unnoticed.

 

[Goddess Helena]

Red Menace, I think that was a lovely gift.
I would greatly enjoy a gift like that to keep always. One that was made for Me would have even more meaning to Me.

I do understand how a birthday at the start of a relationship can cause concern about what to give.

I also understand your wish to have your birthday forgotten.

That is what I am now wishing for.


Helena

 

[Goddess Helia]

Helena,

What you did for Your boy was very special.
Allot of great new experiences came from that Birthday it would seem.

I doubt he will let Your Birthday go by unnoticed.
I doubt anyone could.


My Master always seems to find a liittle way to make every holiday a a special treat for me. For Thanksgiving he gifted me with new Nipple Clamps. They are silver with Gem-like beads on them. Blue and black. He gifted them to me in a scene. It was wonderful.

For Christmas he gifted me with slavebells for my ankel and some new slavebell silk scarves. It was nice because I had the pleasure of dancing for him with my new trinkets that night.


It makes me feel special to know that he has taken extra time to plan something like that for me on those days when there is plenty of stupid crap that has us running around super busy.

I have no idea what I'm going to do for his birthday that is coming up soon. Nor what he will do for mine.

I have some planning to do.

Thanks for the reminder Helena.

I hope Your Birthday is as Special as You are.

Helia


PS - Great First time thread!

 

[Goddess Helena]

Thank you for the kind wishes, Helia, and for returning to lit to post here.

I never would have thought of Thanksgiving as an event for nipple clamps but I am very happy that your Master thought of it. It's a good reminder that W/we can find something to celebrate at any time.

A dancing pet would be most pleasing at any time.
I wonder if My boy will have time to lurk here and get ideas.

You are most welcome, precious child.

And thank you.


Helena

 

[Goddess Helia]

Thank you for the welcome back, Helena.
I hope things settle down soon so that I may return to Lit more often.

I hope Your boy finds the time to lurk and plan for your special day.




Helia

 

[Ebonyfire]

Circumstances

<snip>
I'm starting to think I'm an oddball around here.

<snip>
Perhaps that's because W/we are in a relationship that is romantic as well as being D/s.

I was hoping to hear about how people in different kinds of BDSM relationships handle birthdays, etc.

I do understand letting the mommas have Your boys, though, Ebony. That would be an odd phone call for the boy to make.


Helena

the dominant/subs combinations who have romantic relationships are the norm here not vice versa.

I am probably more of the oddball.

I do not live with my subs.
I do not concern myself with every detail of their lives.

In fact, I do not even know my subs birthdays, and I doubt if they know mine.

My vanilla knows my birthday and I know his, so that shows you where the focus of my life is at this time.

My subs and I have long-time commitments to each other, but not a tightly woven commitment cause we have negotiated it that way. It works for us, others can find what works for them. To each his/her own.

Eb

 

[Goddess Helena]

Hijacking My Own thread

Ebony, I've been reading your posts since I arrived here.
I have come to think that Your way with Your boys is better than mine. Being in love with My boy only adds stress to O/our relationship. If I was only his Domme, things would be easier at times. It's not always easy to stand firm when looking into the eyes of the one you love.

I admire Your way, Ebony.

At times, I wish it was mine.


Helena

/hijacking

 

[Ebonyfire]

Re: Hijacking My Own thread

Ebony, I've been reading your posts since I arrived here.
I have come to think that Your way with Your boys is better than mine. Being in love with My boy only adds stress to O/our relationship. If I was only his Domme, things would be easier at times. It's not always easy to stand firm when looking into the eyes of the one you love.

I admire Your way, Ebony.

At times, I wish it was mine.


Helena

/hijacking

I do not think of it that way. Your way is just different. The difference I think is that I am not their life partner. I love them dearly. But not romantically. You cannot have been through what they and I have been through and not care. However, I am not their romantic focus. But who knows what the future may bring?

I train them to leave me, to find a life partner. What if they do not find one? Then they will be with Me. We have each other, for now.

So our big celebration, I think is when they find their life partner/Domme and leave Me. It will be bittersweet, but I shall be full of pride.

Eb

 

[bunny bondage]

wow, eb, i don't think i could live my life with such emotional uncertainty. but i must respect your lifestyle which allows you to remain completly in control of your life. you don't rely on one person for happiness, you don't put all your eggs into one basket, so to speak, which i think must lead to a strong sense of self. you are probably a fascinating woman to get to know and we're all lucky to have your particular insights! ^_^

 

[Goddess Helena]

I agree with Bunny.

Ebony, the day will come when My boy will leave me to find a girl to marry and have children with. He will lead a nilla life for the most part.
I will have a similiar pride in that boy, but will also have a heartbreak that You are lucky enough to avoid.

Our ways are different yet similiar.
W/we are all lucky to you have you here with U/us.


Helena

 

[Ebonyfire]

wow, eb, i don't think i could live my life with such emotional uncertainty. but i must respect your lifestyle which allows you to remain completly in control of your life. you don't rely on one person for happiness, you don't put all your eggs into one basket, so to speak, which i think must lead to a strong sense of self. you are probably a fascinating woman to get to know and we're all lucky to have your particular insights! ^_^

We learn to live the way that makes sense for us I think. When I was very young, I was in love and was engaged to be married. My fiance was killed in Viet Nam. His whole company was killed. I learned to rely on myself. And I also learned that love is not an exclusive thing.

Now I am used to being independent.

 

[Ebonyfire]

wow, eb, i don't think i could live my life with such emotional uncertainty.

Bunny, I do not live with emotional uncertainty. What is there to be uncertain about? Having a relationship does not ensure anything. If it did, there would be no divorce or infidelity.

If anything I have more certainty.

Eb

 

[bunny bondage]

i do see your point, i suppose you're more stable relying soley on yourself because you know you'll always be there!

 

[Ebonyfire]

Hi Helena

Bump

 

[Goddess Helena]

Hello Ebony

For My birthday, My boy cleared both of O/our schedules for the long weekend. He cleaned and prepared the house to My taste. He went shopping for things that he knows please Me. He cooked for Me as only he can. He pampered Me and spoiled more than usual. He danced for Me one night in his slave bells while wearing a tiny chainmail thong, his body aglow in candle light and his need to please Me. Later W/we played a bit, he was told to stay still and to keep his bells silent as I did My best to get him to move and make the slave bells sing for Me. The next night he crawled to Me, purring. He told Me of his adoration and devotion and love before begging to touch Me, begging Me to allow him to please Me with his mouth and tongue as he looked up at Me with those beautiful green eyes. How could I say no??

It was a wonderful weekend alone with My boy. One that I will treasure always.


Helena

 

[bunny bondage]

awwww....that's SO suh-weet! ^_^

hey, here's a suprisingly on-topic question: anybody doing anything special for v-day? He and i don't have anything planned, but i'm sure we'll have an interesting valentine's! i shall keep you all posted!

 

[James G 5]

i'll be proud for you! yay! hurrah! congratulations!

and i really like the idea of a b-day scene. i've never done anything super special on my birthdays involving scenes, or any other holiday for that matter, but it sounds like a really good idea! sadly, i have to wait till the end of september....but that's lots of time to think of something!

Gee bunny, you've seen what kind of b-day parties I help friends with.......have your guy PM me, mebbe I can help him think of some things for you?

 

[NemoAlia]

Valentine's Day? Oh, I think I'm booked for something like 50 thousand serenades. My fiance and I will be celebrating on Saturday.

And I specifically asked him to plan something fun. (He complains that we always do what I want to do, but he admits that he almost never suggests something of his own accord.) So I expect that my gift will involve an event or an occasion that finally gets us away from our homes and our work. That, alone, is enough to get excited over.

 

[Justina123]

Valentine's Day

For Valentine's Day (actually, Saturday) we are going to a public club/dungeon in Montreal we have been to a couple of times, but at my request, we are taking my two vanilla girlfriends with whom I have been pretty open about bdsm (but who have never seen or experienced it). It should be quite interesting, to say the least, and Sir has volunteered to kind of "chaperone" and look out for them, etc.

I'm nervous and excited all at once, oh, how I love that mix of feelings d/s gives!

- justina

 

[FungiUg]

Things to do when celebrating

Hmmm. My lover and I have a lot of fun, and when we first started going out together, we celebrated each month. (up until then, neither of us had managed a long term relationship since our respective marriages.)

Possibly the most memorable celebration was arranging a weeked at a luxury resort at a vineyard, and another woman to share one evening with us. We had most of the weekend to ourselves, but a little additional help on the one night. (That was our first threesome, but certainly not our last.)

Generally we use a combination of going somewhere special with some time for sex, food, wine, conversation, and um, more sex.

After all, if you are going to celebrate each other, then celebrating with each other seems the best way!