Caught my man looking at gay porn

[CarolineOh]

ok, this is exactly how i found this out. I found his pubic hair on the keyboard, dead give away he masturbated looking at the comp last night. I went to ampland, both of us frequent there, and i noticed that the gay link was highlighted (it wasnt last night when i went to bed) then looked at the links on that page and almost all of them had been viewed. Those were the only links that have been viewed since i cleared out everything.

But like i said, i kinda find it funny. I dont really think he's gay, I think I would've figured that out in the past 4 yrs, well i hope i would.

You think you'd know, but that doesn't matter. I didn't know in eight years of marriage.
Talk to him, sympathetically and non confrontationally. If he is bi, you may discover this is something you can enjoy together. And KM is right, his first reaction will likely be shame and embarrassment. Tell him you love him, no matter what.
I hope it works out OK for you both.

 

[Starfish]

All I have to say is....

You lucky bitch.


(I am just kidding with you, but I am sort of bummed my man isn't bi.)

 

[Morning Rain]

May I ????

I felt your pain.... if I may say something ?
Don't confront him......that will only make him push away .
Use what god gave us....Our minds..... I think the best thing for you to do and the best time is when you are making love or after.
When both are in a state of mind for such topics to come up. Not in a way that is accusing..... bring up thngs that you have looked at ...the women....talk to him about that...then bit by bit get to the men .And ask hm..are you really interested in men ? In a playful way . Tell him you want to share his life with him. Get him to open up to you. If you can't handle it..get out now.
You really do need this taken care of before you're married. This will eventually break up your marriage if you dont get it resolved right now. I have had friends that were married and Bi.and one that is gay ..... it didnt last. Only because they were not open with each other.
If you're going to marry the man..please get it started on the right foot....be open and honest with each other.That is what will make it survive. Or save both of you alot of pain and heartache.

 

[Quisath]

Remember that Nothing is as bad as it seems. Just communicate! In a Nutshell..............

 

[RastaPope]

Gaylords everywhere these days...

 

[Nicodemus]

What morning rain said......ignore the Rastapope.

Nic,

 

[Dhalgren]

communication is key..

By leaving such clues, perhaps he is hoping you’ll find out and ask him about it on a serious note, not in a joking manner.

I’m gathering that he knows how to clear his history and cache.

You are getting married soon..and with a new baby on the way, maybe he feels that this is his chance to open up before things become even more complicated than they already are.

You two joke about it..
I’m assuming that most men would not be looking at other men as a joke..or really even play into that kind of fun at all if he were completely heterosexual..
I mean once or twice, alright..but not as a continual running joke.


If he is having a satisfying sexual relationship with you, he is more apt to be bi..as other have pointed out.
Since you enjoy looking at the female form..at least you understand the dynamic of where he is coming from.

I’m thinking that you definitely should find out if he is gay and trying to live the “straight life,” (afraid to come out, loose you..etc) or if it’s just more sexual play, and fantasy for the two of you to enjoy.

Good luck..
And congratulations on your new, upcoming baby!
~smiles~