Card / gift advice ...

[boston_bbw]

A very good "bed buddy" friend is having a birthday pretty soon. He says he no longer has birthdays and wishes to not aknowledge it. So I was thinking of a "thanks for being my bed buddy" type card/gift instead so it is aknowledged but not a "birthday"..lol Any ideas?? Not sure if it matters but yep we fool around but don't actually have sex, and yes he has a gf (who he is unhappy with but story for another time)

 

[wicked woman]

A very good "bed buddy" friend is having a birthday pretty soon. He says he no longer has birthdays and wishes to not aknowledge it. So I was thinking of a "thanks for being my bed buddy" type card/gift instead so it is aknowledged but not a "birthday"..lol Any ideas?? Not sure if it matters but yep we fool around but don't actually have sex, and yes he has a gf (who he is unhappy with but story for another time)

Personally I think the relationship is a moot point to this question. If it is someone you'd normally want to send birthday wishes to and they make it clear they wish not to acknowledge it, if they're serious about it, I'd respect their wishes. Period. If they are only quasi-serious...I'd send a bday card and that's it.


I've got a friend who really dislikes her birthday...not so much she wants it completely ignored but it's clear she would rather forget them and have everyone else forget them but will put up with a 'minor' acknowledgement to compromise. She's a dear friend and I'd love to do something major but she gets a card...and that's it. In fact her card is in the mail.

 

[Ravin the Poet]

What is with people and not wanting to acknowledge their birthday? So you don't want a day to tell you, your getting older? Well newsflash, with or without that day you STILL get older!


Ravin

 

[E's Toy]

Hey this is a new market on the net, can't find any 'No happy birthday cards'

 

[EJFan]

Personally I think the relationship is a moot point to this question. If it is someone you'd normally want to send birthday wishes to and they make it clear they wish not to acknowledge it, if they're serious about it, I'd respect their wishes. Period. If they are only quasi-serious...I'd send a bday card and that's it.

i'm with you WW. giving a gift of any kind to someone who doesn't celebrate what the gift is for is self-serving... a "helper's high" so to speak.

BBW... i think it's great that you want to celebrate with your friend. if he's genuinely not interested in celebrating his birthday directly, perhaps you could find something to celebrate your relationship outside the context of his birthday.

i see no reason why you can't express your love to this person... just be sure you're doing it for HIM.

 

[Eilan]

What is with people and not wanting to acknowledge their birthday? So you don't want a day to tell you, your getting older? Well newsflash, with or without that day you STILL get older!

I've gone through periods where I've hated my birthday, and it had nothing to do with getting older. For a while, I associated my birthday with my parents' separation/divorce, the demise of my own marriage, and my grandfather's death, because all of these events happened within a week of my birthday and brought back painful memories for a time.

Nowadays, I don't mind my birthday so much.

 

[Cathleen]

I don't like big deals made of my birthday either, or any deal actually. A card is fine with me. Lately my sister has had me to her house for my favorite meal and the kids make a cake and I enjoy that a lot, it's more then enough for me. I'm glad my family and friends respect my thoughts about it.

So maybe just a homemade card with dinner is right for him. There are tons of cards with no subject that would be fine too.

I just googled images of bedroom and found this -- a bedroom buddy.


http://stellargraffiti.com/My%20Pictures/Cv%20Bedroom.jpg