A lot has happened in the last three years. Yes, I'm still madly in love with Kitty, but as platonic soulmates and confidants. We are friends on fetlife and talk daily.
I took years off to try to get my life and marriage back together, but that royally failed so I am starting over from scratch. I am getting involved in my local fetlife community. It is very satisfying to live out my caring, kinky Daddy Dom self in "fleshspace". Being on an actual couch with two or three littles in an actual bar, snuggling, asking about their day, is like Literotica brought to life. Oh yes and plenty of rope and spankings.
One of the most ironically flattering comments I got from a fet friend recently is when she was coaching a young, attractive vanilla guy who called himself a "Dom". She pointed to me and said something like "To be honest, he's maybe like a 5 but he always has 8s and 9s hanging around him because he genuinely listens and uses language so eloquently. Women feel at ease and respected with him, not like a piece of meat."
Every single one of my "Daddy skills" I learned on Literotica and it has enriched my life in so many ways. Thanks guys!