Deepryyder
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So they say the first few lines of any message is what catches peoples attention and keeps them reading whoever they might be but regardless it has been said. Honesty is often an important thing that allures people keeps them engaged so that is what I'm going to do here in this post.
My title is referencing many people here probably more ladies have to deal with this then men who find it difficult to see the person that they click with or shares their interests due to all the other "trees" or getting to caught up in certain details people so often regurgitate here. Though some of these details are needed there is always a lot more to the person then those details and when they aren't honest details well it messes up the entire process makes it become less honest.
So let me give you the quick details that is so important to start. I'm 50 years old, male, married, live in the southern US (yes I have a southern accent), no kids, not Mr. Ken Doll.
I have been married 24 years to a woman who about 6 years ago withdrew emotionally due to an event in her life that involved her family who lives cross country. I was supportive and she more than let me know this fact. But during this time any forms of intimacy from the way someone touches your hand or wrist to actual intimate bedroom encounters ceased totally. We don't fight or argue so we get along just fine. The problem is that I miss even having a female friend I can just talk to besides my wife who can be a bit unconcerned and detached.
I have tried really hard to re start things but there have been huge hurdles that I will only divulge of I start talking to someone privately if they want to know. As it stands now my I do all the errands, cooking, cleaning etc. for reasons that are my own none of which are me being a simp or push over. My wife is kinds but often not overly considerate never sharing a text if I'm going longer than expected and she rarely cares to leave the house.
Perhaps I'm the only person experiencing some type of spousal detachment but I doubt it so my hope is that there is another person out there going through similar things perhaps not exactly but something that has the same effect on them of feeling alone them against the world. Walking through a crowd of people without being seen or heard though on the emotional level. I'm not looking for love as I still love my wife, I'm not looking for a quick hook up, I'm not looking for drama or to cause it.
I'm looking for someone to share some hello's how was your day/week, goodnights, someone to talk about nothing or everything with no pre set expectations. Someone to share in triumphs and low points as a friendly ear or if asked to offer advice. A pen pal (via email or a msg app, this site etc.) No pre conceived notions of what they look like or where things might lead (once more not looking for a wife).
So far I sound like one sad sack here and perhaps there is some truth to that but I'm still active and try to enjoy life to the fullest just alone which becomes tiresome. I would love to have a partner or friend that I can at the very least discuss life with from time to time. If things happen to progress to something more (once more not looking for love, affection possibly, friendship yes, friends with benefits of some type possibly).
Do I have preferences not really outside of one. I do have a bit of an age preference 30 and above below 30 and well starts to make me feel uncomfortable to be honest. I'm to old for 20 somethings drama and energy most likely. Outside of age come as you are and the perhaps make a friend I know I don't have enough do you?
My title is referencing many people here probably more ladies have to deal with this then men who find it difficult to see the person that they click with or shares their interests due to all the other "trees" or getting to caught up in certain details people so often regurgitate here. Though some of these details are needed there is always a lot more to the person then those details and when they aren't honest details well it messes up the entire process makes it become less honest.
So let me give you the quick details that is so important to start. I'm 50 years old, male, married, live in the southern US (yes I have a southern accent), no kids, not Mr. Ken Doll.
I have been married 24 years to a woman who about 6 years ago withdrew emotionally due to an event in her life that involved her family who lives cross country. I was supportive and she more than let me know this fact. But during this time any forms of intimacy from the way someone touches your hand or wrist to actual intimate bedroom encounters ceased totally. We don't fight or argue so we get along just fine. The problem is that I miss even having a female friend I can just talk to besides my wife who can be a bit unconcerned and detached.
I have tried really hard to re start things but there have been huge hurdles that I will only divulge of I start talking to someone privately if they want to know. As it stands now my I do all the errands, cooking, cleaning etc. for reasons that are my own none of which are me being a simp or push over. My wife is kinds but often not overly considerate never sharing a text if I'm going longer than expected and she rarely cares to leave the house.
Perhaps I'm the only person experiencing some type of spousal detachment but I doubt it so my hope is that there is another person out there going through similar things perhaps not exactly but something that has the same effect on them of feeling alone them against the world. Walking through a crowd of people without being seen or heard though on the emotional level. I'm not looking for love as I still love my wife, I'm not looking for a quick hook up, I'm not looking for drama or to cause it.
I'm looking for someone to share some hello's how was your day/week, goodnights, someone to talk about nothing or everything with no pre set expectations. Someone to share in triumphs and low points as a friendly ear or if asked to offer advice. A pen pal (via email or a msg app, this site etc.) No pre conceived notions of what they look like or where things might lead (once more not looking for a wife).
So far I sound like one sad sack here and perhaps there is some truth to that but I'm still active and try to enjoy life to the fullest just alone which becomes tiresome. I would love to have a partner or friend that I can at the very least discuss life with from time to time. If things happen to progress to something more (once more not looking for love, affection possibly, friendship yes, friends with benefits of some type possibly).
Do I have preferences not really outside of one. I do have a bit of an age preference 30 and above below 30 and well starts to make me feel uncomfortable to be honest. I'm to old for 20 somethings drama and energy most likely. Outside of age come as you are and the perhaps make a friend I know I don't have enough do you?
