Can't find it, now what?

[ebunny15]

Here's the deal: I know that every woman has one. Yes, I have read all the how-to manuals to find it myself. But I still can't get at my G-spot. I even bought a special vibrator to stimulate it, and nothing happens. So here's my question: Is it ethical to ask my ob/gyn to find it for me? I'm not looking to have some full-body orgasm in the doc's office, but would it be wrong to have the doc point out, as it were, where the damn thing is? There is no boyfriend/significant other in my life, and The Ex has that status for a reason.
Any thoughts from the community? Thanks in advance!

 

[rthnck]

They've heard it all

Doctors have heard it all so I wouldn't think from a clinical point of view that it would be a problem to ask (I would think it would be easier with a female OBGYN but that's just my first thought). Your OBGYN could point it out for you but I doubt it's going to be helpful if you're looked for yourself. 2 inches in on the roof of the vaginal vault. The more excited you are the easier it is to stimulate. And it should become a little easier to feel after you have an orgasm. At least that's been my experience.

 

[GrimsPet]

I have never managed to find mine. Gave up on that whole mission a long time ago. Clitoral stimulation is about all that does anything for me. I've never had an orgasm from just a man's cock alone. Hence I derive more pleasure by making sure the man I'm with get's immense pleasure and gets off. To me if I give pleasure then I feel satisfied. I've never felt a need to have an orgasm during sex to make it worth my while. I know I'm not normal in that regard.

 

[Cameo_Fleur]

I located my G spot very easily. Just insert one or two fingers into your vagina and bend them, make a "come here" motion and that ridged area you feel just before the orgasm blows your mind is the G spot. It's very easy to find and gives mind blowing orgasms. I often ejaculate too. Sex is just motions without an orgasm.

Ask your doctor to locate it for you. Believe me, a doctor has heard it all...

 

[Nasty_Deeds]

Here's the deal: I know that every woman has one. Yes, I have read all the how-to manuals to find it myself. But I still can't get at my G-spot. I even bought a special vibrator to stimulate it, and nothing happens. So here's my question: Is it ethical to ask my ob/gyn to find it for me? I'm not looking to have some full-body orgasm in the doc's office, but would it be wrong to have the doc point out, as it were, where the damn thing is? There is no boyfriend/significant other in my life, and The Ex has that status for a reason.
Any thoughts from the community? Thanks in advance!

The G-spot is actually a gland called the Skene’s gland that surrounds the urethra at the front side of the vagina. This gland is the female counterpart of the male prostate, and is the source of female ejaculation. What is known as the G-spot is the nerve endings for this gland that are exposed or sensitive inside the vagina. Every woman has a G-spot and Skene’s gland, but unfortunately, not every woman’s nerve endings appear to be well developed.

There is some information about this gland on Wikipedia:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Skene’s_gland

When you slide your middle finger inside your vagina, the G-spot is normally within reach of this finger on the front side of the vagina. When you massage or stimulate this area for a bit, you should feel an area about the size of a dime swell. It should feel more spongy than the surrounding tissue. When you find the spongy area, if your nerve endings are well developed, you should feel yourself becoming aroused.

This is a thought that I have, and honestly, I have no experience to back it up, but I believe if underdeveloped nerve ending in a woman’s G-spot are stimulated over a period of time, the nerve endings may develop normally. I say this because I have known women who when divorced had never had a G-spot orgasms (or fluid ejaculation); however, with a new lover over a period of time began to have G-spot orgasms.

 

[infinity706]

That probably is accurate. I don't know of any research on g-spot development, but the brain can rewire itself.

 

[SweetErika]

When you're really aroused, explore the entire front wall of your vagina with your finger(s) and/or g-spot vibe. My g-spot, for instance, is higher up than most it seems. I can barely reach it myself, and my husband can just get it properly with his middle finger (which is obviously longer than the 1.5-2 inches most guides cite as the location). When aroused, it becomes slightly swollen and "rougher" than the surrounding tissue. Stimulating it can produce all sorts of sensations.

FWIW, some women who seem extremely familiar with their bodies have said they've been unable to locate their g-spots on here. Perhaps you're just one of those women who doesn't feel additional pleasure from stimulating that area. If you're having fun exploring, keep at it, but there's certainly nothing wrong with you if you don't have a noticeable g-spot.

As to your question, that'll depend on how your doc feels. Some are more open and concerned with sexuality than others. I'm not sure if your doc could find it easily without you being aroused, though. If you haven't found it, it's probably fairly hard to locate, especially while wearing gloves.

 

[ebunny15]

Thanks

Thanks to those who have posted so far. I can go to sleep tonight knowing I'm not necessarily some mis-formed freak. Well, I am a freak, just not that way! If anyone else wants to add their two cents, please feel free. I'll take all the info I can get.

 

[zumpkin]

Not a freak, just unique, like everybody else.

I would offer my help (seeing that I am in the same area as you) but that might be a little "bold" of me. SO instead I could rent an office and you could come visit me and I could play doctor for the afternoon. Tell Dr. Zumpkin your problems...

 

[shadowheaven]

I located my G spot very easily. Just insert one or two fingers into your vagina and bend them, make a "come here" motion and that ridged area you feel just before the orgasm blows your mind is the G spot. It's very easy to find and gives mind blowing orgasms. I often ejaculate too. Sex is just motions without an orgasm.

Ask your doctor to locate it for you. Believe me, a doctor has heard it all...

Yep thats about where mine is.. and OMG the orgasims are mind blowing

 

[horsie_gurl]

I read through the posts and there's not much more advice I could add, but I'll give you mine anyway

I notice it is easier to feel when you are already aroused, for me it doesn't take an orgasm prior, but just to be aroused enough to be really wet. I lay on my back with legs spread, at this point almost any dildo can graze the spot, but i have to insert and tilt it up to press against my belly button (exaggeration so you picture what I'm saying). Now this is not as stimulating or comfortable as other methods, so it may not help you find it when you haven't found it already but that is the general area. In and up.

So I have a dildo with a "g-spot" head on it. Its tilted at an angle and bulbous. So I pretty much have to lay back with legs spread and just insert and it is already pressing up against the top wall, so when I move it back and forth i can feel the g-spot easily.

The other method is to have a partner. You lay back maybe with a pillow under your butt for elevation and angle, they insert two or three (i like more for more pressure) fingers and make the come here motion as everyone is calling it. Make sure their nails are cut smooth because they will basically be scraping with the tips of their fingers along the interior. if you are aroused the skin there will swell and then the movements will put more pressure on your spot whether they are actually hitting it straight on or not.

Personally, when exploring, I've never noticed a different texture, but I can definitely feel the bulge especially when sitting with knees pulled up to my chest. It kind of sticks out when you feeling inside.

The spot for me gives me feelings nothing like an orgasm. This is more of a whole body awareness. My senses all become instantly more heightened and my eyes sometimes water up. Its intense but dull. Oxymoronic like a dull pain I suppose.

 

[Noira]

I think I found it on my own, a rougher lump, but frankly, finger-prodding at it with the awkward angles I could bend at (not many, let me tell you) did nothing for me. (I did know I liked penetration while masturbating, and figured it was likely due to some g-spot stimulation anyway.) I accidentally hit it one time while masturbating and accidentally had the orgasm of my life. Still don't know what I did that time and can't really intentionally repeat it, though I've tried several times!

It wasn't until I got the right toy that I was able to really, really figure out where it was and why I couldn't stimulate it well on my own--it needed pressure and LOTS of pressure, and LOTS of thrusting and a really, REALLY hard toy (preferably with lots of texture!) to jam on it. We're talking "I'm pretty sure I've given myself vagina bruises but it's okay because the orgasm was worth it" hard pressure/thrusting/toy. G-spot vibrator? I have one, it does nothing for me even though I roughly know where my g-spot is, no, no, I have to be pretty hard on that sucker to get it to work with me.

How I know I've found it, though, is that my clitoral orgasms are suddenly able to come in multiples... I recharge very fast with pressure on it. I still can't really get any distinct notice of 'fingering' it, I really only notice actual g-spot pleasure, as it were, from very, very, very, very definitely harder than any penis could ever be dildos (NOT vibrators). Preferably glass or wood, preferably textured, either with a larger head or a crooked head.

So relax. Not everyone's built the same way. I tried for years to find my g-spot... it had been my goal since I discovered it existed!

But anyway, what I learned was, g-spots like pressure, and maybe that's what you need instead of vibrations or fingers. That's what did it for me, when no fingers or vibrations were giving me anything different. But some hard glass in there, and I can hardly MISS it.

 

[OnceFuturePoly]

I know this is a dead thread, but....

G-Spots do like lots and lots of pressure. Women who have give birth are going to think I'm out of my mind, but this has been suggest by several, not just me:

For a few, birth is an orgasmic experience. The G-spot (and A-spot) may be stimulated by the pressure of positioning and expelling the baby. Yes, it's hard, and yet that's what the G-spot likes. Maybe that's what it's for?

Also, the G-spot doesn't generally show until a female is unquestionably aroused, swollen lips, vagina presenting -- more than just wet.. Then it becomes rough, and the bump is more noticeable. Close to orgasm, the roughness disappears. Try looking when you've started on the way to your second orgasm.

 

[rdjojo]

One thing to keep in mind is that the g spot is poorly named. It's not a spot. It's not static. It's more like an area that moves and shifts, just like other parts of your anatomy.

For a lot of great information (i already suggested this on another g spot thread, so don't kill me) I HIGHLY suggest taking a listen to the Sex Nerd Sandra podcast: "g spot tmi"