Can you love somebody with out trust?

[Beck31]

Saw this posted somewhere else and was thinking about it. Imho no you can't love somebody without trust. Would love both men and women's perspective on this.

 

[jennytwoshoes]

Love and trust are different things, I think. While trust is essential to a relationship, you can still love someone without trusting them. Or to put it another way: I still love my cheating ex b/f, but I don't trust him, and would never get back with him even if he came begging.

 

[LusciousLily]

Saw this posted somewhere else and was thinking about it. Imho no you can't love somebody without trust. Would love both men and women's perspective on this.

I can't speak from experience about romantic love, but with other kinds of love, I mean, yeah, you have to have some level of trust. But you can love somebody very much without trusting them completely and entirely in every way. I love my mom but I don't trust her to not freak out and take me to a therapist if she knew about the stuff that goes on inside my head. I trust my best friend with my life but not to stay out of my lipgloss when she needs some. I love my gran but I don't trust her to take my side if my mom and me have an argument.

And when it comes down to it you can trust completely that someone will do what they think is right or what's best for you without trusting at all that their idea of what's right or best is the same as yours.

Trust isn't all or nothing, on or off. There's lots of different layers and areas of trust. So yeah, maybe you have to trust someone somewhat to love them but that doesn't mean you trust them in everything.

 

[nfrrdscnnr1]

right on it

Lily is right on it. There are too many folks out there who "love" a person who abuses them to the extent they are unable to leave a life-threatening relationship. One might argue that the person is addicted rather than being in love. The older I get the less I know about this stuff.

 

[heyrocky]

Trust is not only necessary but remarkable

I was married to the same woman for 23 years. When we first got married she wanted to keep her own checking account for business. I agreed because of tax purposes. After she stopped the business I asked her to close the account. When asked why my reply was how can I trust someone with my heart when I can't trust the with my money. She was my best friend and closed trusted confidant until cancer took her away. Trust is the reason we stayed faithful for 23 years. Just like sex you gotta have it.

 

[monkeyman057]

Trust is essential to a happy, healthy relationship.

I've had plenty of unhealthy, unhappy relationships with people that I loved. They tend not to last long though.

 

[chargergirl]

Sure you can love someone without trusting them, but it doesn't make for a very stable relationship.

 

[Paul_Chance]

Love and Trust are different Beasties

Sure you can love someone without trusting them, but it doesn't make for a very stable relationship.

I'd agree. Love and trust are two different things. You can love someone and simply not trust them, just like you can trust someone and not love them. I'd also agree that it would make for a challenging relationship - but, it would all depend on what aspect of them you didn't trust.

 

[littlebabyclit]

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[Youremine]

I don't think you can truly love someone without trusting them. They go hand in hand. When you love someone you are not only giving then your body, but your mind and soul too. To give so much of yourself to a person trust needs to be there.

 

[kodos9000]

......... Sick of the Dictatorship in here! I am out of here.... To all my friends take care.

 

[RedHotMamaTN]

I don't think you can truly love someone without trusting them. They go hand in hand. When you love someone you are not only giving then your body, but your mind and soul too. To give so much of yourself to a person trust needs to be there.

But you have to have trust I feel to love them.. 100%, If you dont trust them, you dont have anything and if you have any love for them, that is usually ruined too if you cant trust them anymore.