Can you disagree with people and still like them?
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Johnny Mayberry
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Grrrrrrrrrr!!! I'm with you on this one...while agreeing on the basic stuff is great, what are you going to talk about after you get all the agreement out of the way? I don't trust people who seem to have all of my likes and dislikes...I assume they are lying to get in my pants.
Nora
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I needed an "other" honeybunny.
Yes, I have acquaintances of whom I'm very fond who run the gamut, but the people with whom I'm the most comfortable and consider the truest friends are in a range between the two extremes.
They don't have to be exactly like me, and I'm certainly able to disagree with them and remain friends. But things like basic shared values and a similar frame of reference tend to be similar for my nearest and dearest.
Yes, I have acquaintances of whom I'm very fond who run the gamut, but the people with whom I'm the most comfortable and consider the truest friends are in a range between the two extremes.
They don't have to be exactly like me, and I'm certainly able to disagree with them and remain friends. But things like basic shared values and a similar frame of reference tend to be similar for my nearest and dearest.
A Desert Rose
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Rubyfruit said:
Does this sound familiar?
I think if we all thought alike, no one would be here posting. They would all be on the phone with each other, which is where I think most Lit posters are right now, anyway.
Saint Peter
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Shadup and pass me the bong.
Ham Murabi
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When I'm in a posting mood, the first thing I do is look for threads from Lit members I know I don't agree with.
I'd love to sit down and have a beer with them.
I'd love to sit down and have a beer with them.
Minkey Boodle
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It's my way or the highway.
Johnny Mayberry
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Freya2 said:I agree with everything Johnny says. No matter what it is.
Well, who am I to argue? Ummm...WAIT A MINUTE!! You can't do that!
Rubyfruit
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Johnny Mayberry said:
I'm glad you told me this, Johnny. This trick will be crossed off of my list for attempting to get into your pants henceforth.
If everybody here agreed, I'd use Lit as a way to get to sleep early every night.
Viva la différence and all of that.
A Desert Rose
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Ham Murabi said:
It seems you and I agree on many things here. Does that mean we can't have a drink then?
Freya
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Johnny Mayberry said:
Honest, I'm not just trying to get in your pants. *straightens the halo*
For discussion purposes, it's nice to have differing views and opinions, but for close friendship, it's nice to have a majority of similarities, with a few radical differences to keep it interesting.
A Desert Rose
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I have no problem with people who disagree with me. I do have a problem with people who call me names when they disagree or get condescending when they do so.
But I also know who to not respond to, so I don't. I can ignore some people's posts as easily as they try to bait me into an argument. Polite debate is entirely different.
But I also know who to not respond to, so I don't. I can ignore some people's posts as easily as they try to bait me into an argument. Polite debate is entirely different.
Ham Murabi
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A Desert Rose said:
I've got a bottle of cough syrup that's just waiting to be opened.
cybergirly
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Nora said:
I'm with Nora on this. Most of my really really good friends have similar interests and values. I have many friends that are extremly different from me, but I think to be around them for long periods of times I'd quickly take to banging my head against some hard object.
A Desert Rose
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Ham Murabi said:
MMMM... I am not sure you are romantic enough for me, doll.
Johnny Mayberry
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Pants...pants...never mind, I'm not wearing any pants!!!!!
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I agree! I have friends that I just can't be around too long. They are nice people and I like hanging out with them, but I have my limit on how long!
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Rubyfruit said:
Im cumming Im cumming.
A Desert Rose
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I think we are talking about 2 different types of friends here: those we choose to have in real life and share time and experiences with and those who post here and the time and experiences shared are limited.
In the case of friends we have in real life, yes, most of us pick people who have similar ethics and values as we have and traits we admire.
On these boards, those who we might like and be friendly with, many times are diametrically opposite us in many ways.
I can be friends with many here who don't think like I do, as long as they treat me with the same respect that I give them in airing their opinions.
In the case of friends we have in real life, yes, most of us pick people who have similar ethics and values as we have and traits we admire.
On these boards, those who we might like and be friendly with, many times are diametrically opposite us in many ways.
I can be friends with many here who don't think like I do, as long as they treat me with the same respect that I give them in airing their opinions.
