Can submissives have limits?

[Wonderer67]

Yes, without the respect of limits it becomes abuse.
There is a but though. If a sub indicates they want to be pushed and explore and that is agreed, then there is nothing wrong with introducing them to something they haven't experienced yet or are afraid of. Again, if beforehand they have indicated they are open to being pushed.

You need to be able to read their body language and understand their reactions. it takes a lot of focus and work but it cn be incredibly rewarding. The surprise of them finding a new trigger is delicious.
Consent is everything though!

Right there!

Communication, consent and a method of indicating someone is close or past their limit.

 

[piggy0]

I think MrsLaMere expressed it very well. In general, people that say "no limits" is always a red flag. Everyone will have at least a few things they think is out of bounds and that's natural.

 

[Celticlight]

That's one of the things I discuss early on with any potential sub. They should know that while there is a power dynamic at play, they are still an important, contributing member of the relationship; expressing their wants/needs, including hard/soft limits, is something that I expect from them. I also let them know that it is okay if those limits change over time, which is why I incorporate check-ins/evaluations as well, just to see where they are and whether certain limits need to be adjusted/expanded.

The relationship does not work otherwise.

This sounds completely right to me - in my mind any Dom/me would be providing an enabling space for a sub both to articulate things that they find deeply, intensely fulfilling and also to feel comfortable when the opposite is true and they feel uncomfortable or unfulfilled.

It’s not about a dominant person having absolute, unfettered dominion over the other. It’s a dynamic - and that word, pretty much by definition, implies an ebb and flow between two people (and one which, as Ms KittySurprise says, may evolve over time between the two).

 

[cockslut59]

One of my subs asked me this question earlier today and my response was Yes absolutely. Submissives have just as much right to boundaries and preferences as dominants. Healthy dynamics are built on mutual respect and clear communication of each person’s needs and limits.

What do you all think?

I couldn’t agree more, submissive have every right to create limits. Sexual experiences in any relationship must have boundaries. Don’t leave your wishes up to someone else, where’s the fun in that?