can poly exist?

[arguere]

I'm not just trying to self justify with this, just curious about other people's thoughts...voyeurism at its finest...

I know people define love/lust/like/whatever as singular when it comes to romance, and very much towards sex. The attitude of ..."You have a true love in this world and if you break your committment, you prove that your love is not strong."...<opinion>crazy church bred mentality</opinion>

Personally, I love my wife, my children, my family, and my friends. My wife and I love each other absolutely and we have a very fulfilling sex life that is not without its adventures. My other sexual partners are also very fulfilling, but differently. We have sex because we not only enjoy the physical feelings but also because we enjoy each other most of the time. Levels of difference, shades of gray, love in perspective.

I guess what I'm getting at is, am I alone on this shades of gray thing or do you agree that you have a love and that is where your love and your physical actions should remain?

Not that I'm changing my ways, I'm a horny bastard and proud of it

 

[wally2450]

Try posting this in the 'How To' forums. Friendly suggestion.

 

[done_got_old]

I thought he was searching for Polly Esther.

BTW, I love prunes.

 

[Recidiva]

Shades of gray apply to everything, including this. You're not alone, but the comments you've made are still as judgmental of others as they might be judgmental of you. You're just as judgmental, it's just a different flavor.

"Is working out bad?"

To excess, yes. If you're ill, yes. If you're sick, yes. If you're doing it wrong, yes.

Just not that simple to answer.

So as for voyeurism, don't expect to see the same thing in everyone's keyhole.

 

[Celtic_Man]

I fell in love with a woman who believes this is possible. As the relationship went on though, I found it was not possible.

Is it possible to love more then one person at once? Yes. Is it possible to not want that person exclussively for yourself? I don't know about other people, but I couldn't. To an extent she found out the same.

I guess to each their own though. I found out quite a bit about myself through our love and am a better person because of it.

 

[arguere]

Shades of gray apply to everything, including this. You're not alone, but the comments you've made are still as judgmental of others as they might be judgmental of you. You're just as judgmental, it's just a different flavor.

"Is working out bad?"

To excess, yes. If you're ill, yes. If you're sick, yes. If you're doing it wrong, yes.

Just not that simple to answer.

So as for voyeurism, don't expect to see the same thing in everyone's keyhole.

Thanks for the comment...and I agree...

Oh, there's not denying that I'm judgemental, more than most, perhaps, less than some, of course. It is not a matter of judgement however, but rather a personal attitude towards our own behaviour. See, I am personally fine with my choices, happy with them in fact. My intent is merely to look into the different keyholes that are our own opinions on the matter It is an exercise in gathering opinons and determination of like-mindedness, not self-justification necessarily, it's people watching at its finest -- the hobby I enjoy the most

 

[arguere]

I thought he was searching for Polly Esther.

BTW, I love prunes.

They're only prunes until they're excited