Can I read into this?

[IrishIce]

Something new happened in our vanilla life last week. I was snoozing on my stomach when she came to bed, and she lifted her leg over me as she often does when she's 'in the mood'. But this time, rather than turning over, I guided her hips on top of mine so she ended up lying completely on top of me, me still face down. It felt good, the closeness, her weight on top of me, being pinned down. And it felt even better as she started thrusting her hips, rubbing herself against my ass. Best of all was that after a couple of minutes of this, encouraged by my enjoyment, my hands reaching back to hold and pull her ass closer, she came.

Last night we had a repeat performance, this time I did not need to provide any 'guidance'. Having her come on me like this is such a turn on. Even though we had great sex afterwards, just having her weight on me and feeling her come like that feels so good on its own.

I'm wondering now how we explore this further, both the implicit power exchange, and the role reversal. While we communicate well, I don't want to make a big deal about it or make her self conscious. But, God, it feels good!!

 

[subwannabe]

I'm guessing she enjoyed it to or she wouldn't have done it again the second time, plus an orgasm both times. Maybe you should make a big deal about it.

 

[Noor]

Just tell her you like it and see where she goes with it.

 

[amofiga]

Something new happened in our vanilla life last week. I was snoozing on my stomach when she came to bed, and she lifted her leg over me as she often does when she's 'in the mood'. But this time, rather than turning over, I guided her hips on top of mine so she ended up lying completely on top of me, me still face down. It felt good, the closeness, her weight on top of me, being pinned down. And it felt even better as she started thrusting her hips, rubbing herself against my ass. Best of all was that after a couple of minutes of this, encouraged by my enjoyment, my hands reaching back to hold and pull her ass closer, she came.

Last night we had a repeat performance, this time I did not need to provide any 'guidance'. Having her come on me like this is such a turn on. Even though we had great sex afterwards, just having her weight on me and feeling her come like that feels so good on its own.
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Do you often/sometimes fuck her while she's on her stomach like you were? Maybe she's trying to tell you that she would like that. I had a lady friend who liked lying flat like that while I straddled her thighs, pinning her down, fucking her while using my thumb in her ass. She always came multiple times this way.

Does she like to be on top face to face when you fuck? If not, maybe she'd like that. Whatever the case, anything that feels good between two people is a plus and you can certainly discuss this stuff erotically without "making a big deal of it" but just to keep the communication open.

 

[NippleMuncher]

Just tell her you like it and see where she goes with it.

Definitely this! If you've got open and honest communication as you say you do, she'll be more than happy to include this more regularly, particularly since she is getting off from it.

As suggested, there may be more to it for her, which you may or may not want to probe at this time, that is up to you. For the time being, why spoil a good thing, just express how erotic it is for you and I'm sure she'll continue.

 

[JasonDaniel]

Yes, you can read into this. Being that she did it the second time without being guided or encouraged, she obviously is starting to explore and enjoys it. Do discuss it with her, but not to the point of making her feel self-conscious. Just let her know you enjoyed it, and discuss your feelings with her. Mainly, discuss her feelings about the role-reversal, but be patient, it may be a new experience for her.

 

[ConfusedAgain]

Just tell her you like it and see where she goes with it.

I would think it's obvious he likes it..

I"m not even sure what there is to talk about. It seems like OP is over thinking it instead of just going with it and having fun with it. Why put a "Role Reversal" label on it.. Seems she was just playing around and it turned out she did something you both like.

 

[luvnmyboys]

tell her how much you like it and ask if there is anything new she has been thinking about exploring. have fun!

 

[IrishIce]

Thanks for the thoughts.

In answer to some comments, yes she likes to be on top sometimes, and she likes me touching her 'close' to her ass while we make love. I don't venture too close, just circle with a finger tip and she loves that, will usually come rapidly with that extra stimulation.

I think you are right, I am over thinking this, maybe I just posted because I wanted to share it with someone else. I think for now, I am going to let this evolve at its own pace, rather than have a big chat and start applying labels to stuff. If no one objects, I'll let you know what happens next. Of course, with the rigours of family life and mismatched libidos, it might be a little while.

 

[JasonDaniel]

Something you might try.

If you think she might be interested in exploring anal sex, take a shower with her, and with your hands wet and soapy, slide you finger slowly up the crack of her ass. If she seem pleased by this, do it again only deeper. As long as it is pleasing to her, continue until you are stimulating her anus, then put a slight pressure on her anus as if you are trying to penetrate. If she is drawn to exploring anal sex, it will be obvious at this point. If you think she may want to explore farther, discuss it with her. Sometimes a person doesn't know themself until they have been shown an example.

 

[Noor]

I would think it's obvious he likes it..

I"m not even sure what there is to talk about. It seems like OP is over thinking it instead of just going with it and having fun with it. Why put a "Role Reversal" label on it.. Seems she was just playing around and it turned out she did something you both like.

well yes and no, frankly most guys like most things, so its nice to know things they especially like.

I agree he is over thinking it.