Can a virgin write good sex stories?

[zex95966]

possibly a dumb question....

I was wondering if you thought it would be possible for a virgin to write good sex stories? I am one but I do my erm... 'homework'. I've only written a handful of short stories and only written for myself because i'm too new and afraid to put my work in front of others. (i guess you could say i'm almost a virgin writer as well.) When I read them back to myself I can tell that I need lots of work still. For instance, I think once the act starts it seems that i'm listing one event after the other and i'm not sure how to stop making it seem like a 'list'.

well, thanks for the help.

 

[ShiggyMoto]

Embarassingly, I am also a virgin. I do believe, however, that you can write great stories regardless of your real life sexual experience. Stories can be, after all, the result of a very fun and active imagination.

I have submitted two stories, both under the incest category, and they have done very, very well here on Literotica. When writing my first drafts, I run into the same problem of writing events as a list. To spice things up, I try to put myself in the character's shoes and write about how they feel, what they see, smell, and so on. This is especially true for first-person stories as you want to let the reader know why the character is doing what he or she is doing, and what the character is experiencing at that moment.

Heck, if worse comes to worse, even varying the sentence structure could make a "list" seem a litte more exciting.

 

[M-Y-Erotica]

I was wondering if you thought it would be possible for a virgin to write good sex stories? I am one but I do my erm... 'homework'.

Yes, definitely, why not? There are a host of people who are good at writing gay stories when they are not gay, stories from a man's perspective when they aren't male, space adventures when they aren't astronauts, etc.

It does mean you will need to do more homework. The sexually experienced have been doing their homework as part of their life, so they get a little shortcut. You don't have that luck. But there's no reason you can't overcome it. Where you will probably see the shortfall is in details that you just don't know about. Very, very particular things that it's hard for someone else to think of telling you. But take that as a given, and then do your best to make whatever you do think of ring true. Remember there are volunteer editors who can give opinions on this.

Some silly tips to amuse myself:

- Most male appendages are not usually 10 inches long.
- The clitoris is usually quite small and doesn't flop around too much.
- A woman's orgasm is not usually the same as a man's where in one bang she squirts out a bunch of liquid in one gigantic peak. This also lets her ride the orgasmic wave longer than a man.
- Be careful of using porn as a guide. While the actions are correct anatomically, the way people behave is not typical.

Have fun!

 

[Jenny_Jackson]

This question has been discussed a number of times. The real question is different than you have phrased it. What you should be asking is: Can a virgin have an imagination? I say that because everything written on Lit is Fiction. Fiction is nothing but imagination set to words.

 

[ljiowa]

Tap into your own emotions; what makes sex great (aside from the orgasms, obviously, and you're probably already familiar with those) are the emotions inside you. Are you excited? Ambivalent? Guilty? Do they change as the interlude continues? That's important, and should play a role in the story.

Beyond that, use good writing technique. Utilize significant detail, not just detail for its own sake; try to give the story coherence and a real sense of place - where you are "doing it" will likely shape how it's done. Elevator sex, for example, is way different than a leisurely period of lovemaking in your bedroom.

Hope this helps.

 

[jomar]

What Jenny and ljiowa said. And think about getting an editor - they can be a huge help.

 

[damppanties]

For instance, I think once the act starts it seems that i'm listing one event after the other and i'm not sure how to stop making it seem like a 'list'.

I read this and thought of the Writer's Resources (http://www.literotica.com/storyxs/writ_stor.shtml) section of Literotica, specifically this story -- How To Write Good Sex Scenes (http://www.literotica.com/stories/showstory.php?id=65249)

Do go through the other submissions too. They're quite useful.

 

[SecretFantasy69]

Yes...definitely

...A virgin can write great sex stories. All you have to do is use your imagination and create the scene in your head before you write it down. You've done your "homework" so more than likely it'll come across to the reader.

Good luck!

Secret

 

[Lydia_Trent]

oh yes, virgins can certainly write good sex scenes, in my time I have role played with a number of virgins and they can spin a very believable sex scene. A few things that give them away, (although literary license is always in the authors favor) are that guys think they can keep going no matter how many times they orgasm. Also sex is a messy business usually and most virgins dont realize that, I can tell and like when an author mentions cleaning up, doesnt have to be a big deal , but makes me feel better. just my .02.

 

[elfin_odalisque]

Agatha Christie had committed a bag of murders before she wrote her stories?

Anyone can write about anything as long as they have done their research beforehand.

 

[J.Q. Hack]

Absolutely! What matters most is that you can construct a good story around the sex scene. To make that happen you need to read, read and read some more. By reading both erotic and non-erotic stories you'll see how other authors write and how they use words to evoke feelings and scenes. You'll be able to use what you pick up that way to make your stories better. Soon you'll find that your "list" of a sex story isn't a list anymore.

Another piece of advice for your first stories -- and this is old advice -- is write what you know. I mean that if you're a college student have a story with a college student in it, or if you live in a small town have a story occur in a small town. By writing things you're comfortable with you can get the details that make a story good and more realistic. Once you improve you can start spinning tales with the best of them.

One last thing is read the "how to" essays on Literotica. They are full of great advice for the novice and beginning writers. I find myself still looking at them from time to time for inspiration.

J.Q.

 

[DevilsAngel369]

yes!

I was wondering if you thought it would be possible for a virgin to write good sex stories? I am one but I do my erm... 'homework'. I've only written a handful of short stories and only written for myself because i'm too new and afraid to put my work in front of others. (i guess you could say i'm almost a virgin writer as well.) When I read them back to myself I can tell that I need lots of work still. For instance, I think once the act starts it seems that i'm listing one event after the other and i'm not sure how to stop making it seem like a 'list'.

well, thanks for the help.

of course. It's like asking if a man can write lesbian stories. since you do your homework, just try your best!

 

[ramonathompson]

I was wondering if you thought it would be possible for a virgin to write good sex stories? I am one but I do my erm... 'homework'. I've only written a handful of short stories and only written for myself because i'm too new and afraid to put my work in front of others. (i guess you could say i'm almost a virgin writer as well.) When I read them back to myself I can tell that I need lots of work still. For instance, I think once the act starts it seems that i'm listing one event after the other and i'm not sure how to stop making it seem like a 'list'.

well, thanks for the help.

As a virgin myself I know how tough this can be. However, I do believe that a virgin can write erotica just as good if not sometimes better then an experienced person as they bring forth to the piece a sense of newness and innocentness that a more experienced sexual nature cannot. To a lot of readers that can really be a turn on.

Good luck with your writing. I'm sure with patience, time and practice you will be turning out some really great pieces that everyone will enjoy reading.

 

[pcremington]

My first thought upon reading the question was who could possibly write a better story if a character in the story is a virgin.

 

[Carnevil9]

Jules Verne never really went to the moon, and H.G. Welles never really built a time machine.

On the other hand, Ian Flemming was really a spy and Hemingway was really an ambulance driver in the Italian army.

It can work either way.

 

[Bohemund]

Yes, definitely, why not? There are a host of people who are good at writing gay stories when they are not gay, stories from a man's perspective when they aren't male, space adventures when they aren't astronauts, etc.

Why the fuck would you write a gay sex story if you're not gay?

 

[sister76]

I was wondering if you thought it would be possible for a virgin to write good sex stories? I am one but I do my erm... 'homework'. I've only written a handful of short stories and only written for myself because i'm too new and afraid to put my work in front of others. (i guess you could say i'm almost a virgin writer as well.) When I read them back to myself I can tell that I need lots of work still. For instance, I think once the act starts it seems that i'm listing one event after the other and i'm not sure how to stop making it seem like a 'list'.

well, thanks for the help.

I don't think virginity could prevent anyone from writing good stories about sex. Even if you have never had it, you know what you like. The actual act is not anything compared to the thoughts one can have about it. The act may, hopefully, provoke more thoughts, but it's really all in the mind. The thoughts are way the hell better than reality could ever be - I know that for a fact.

 

[sexymathstudent]

I was wondering if you thought it would be possible for a virgin to write good sex stories?
well, thanks for the help.

virgins can probably write the best stories. all they have are fantasizes. do you know how much refinement goes into a young mans fantasizes? night after night most of them masterbate to them. i'm sure they are well crafted. but there are times when you just think about fucking and there is no actual story. but there are details. i was a virgin not to long ago.

 

[alice_3]

yeah. why not?

 

[fics4fun]

yes sure. After reading some lesbo stories, I wrote 2 when I was 14. Just be imaginative, think about something that turns u on and write in a story. I don't think most porn (videos and novels) is too realistic anyway. Good luck!

 

[fcdc]

Just another tidbit: A lot of the more well-written erotica out there is NOT simple jack-/jill-off material, and a lot of the best parts of it don't concentrate on sex at all or describe it in a way that does not focus on the mechanics. One of the classic passages is the rhododendron episode that ends Joyce's Ulysses. This barely mentions sex, but still hits the mark dead-on.

the sun shines for you he said the day we were lying among the rhododendrons on Howth head in the grey tweed suit and his straw hat the day I got him to propose to me yes first I gave him the bit of seedcake out of my mouth and it was leapyear like now yes 16 years ago my God after that long kiss I near lost my breath yes he said I was a flower of the mountain yes so we are flowers all a womans body yes that was one true thing he said in his life and the sun shines for you today yes that was why I liked him because I saw he understood or felt what a woman is and I knew I could always get round him and I gave him all the pleasure I could leading him on till he asked me to say yes and I wouldnt answer first only looked out over the sea and the sky I was thinking of so many things he didnt know of Mulvey and Mr Stanhope and Hester and father and old captain Groves and the sailors playing all birds fly and I say stoop and washing up dishes they called it on the pier and the sentry in front of the governors house with the thing round his white helmet poor devil half roasted and the Spanish girls laughing in their shawls and their tall combs and the auctions in the morning the Greeks and the jews and the Arabs and the devil knows who else from all the ends of Europe and Duke street and the fowl market all clucking outside Larby Sharons and the poor donkeys slipping half asleep and the vague fellows in the cloaks asleep in the shade on the steps and the big wheels of the carts of the bulls and the old castle thousands of years old yes and those handsome Moors all in white and turbans like kings asking you to sit down in their little bit of a shop and Ronda with the old windows of the posadas glancing eyes a lattice hid for her lover to kiss the iron and the wineshops half open at night and the castanets and the night we missed the boat at Algeciras the watchman going about serene with his lamp and O that awful deepdown torrent O and the sea the sea crimson sometimes like fire and the glorious sunsets and the figtrees in the Alameda gardens yes and all the queer little streets and pink and blue and yellow houses and the rosegardens and the jessamine and geraniums and cactuses and Gibraltar as a girl where I was a Flower of the mountain yes when I put the rose in my hair like the Andalusian girls used or shall I wear a red yes and how he kissed me under the Moorish wall and I thought well as well him as another and then I asked him with my eyes to ask again yes and then he asked me would I yes to say yes my mountain flower and first I put my arms around him yes and drew him down to me so he could feel my breasts all perfume yes and his heart was going like mad and yes I said yes I will Yes.

Now, we all can't write like that, and bad imitations of it are generally the worst kind of fiction. Joyce only really mentions sex explicitly a couple of times in the passage, yet it is the theme of the entire thing. It is possible to create a sexy mood without being clinical, and I'd argue it's even preferable, and it's easy enough to create the mood even if you're a virgin.

I would argue that some sexual experience is good for all writing, as it opens your mind and gives you new sensations, and your mind and your experiences in the world are what a writer should seek to communicate. Nonetheless, it's still possible to write good, sensual, interesting passages without experience. Joyce wasn't female and look at how perfectly he wrote Molly Bloom's feelings.

I don't know if this helps or is confusing, but there you go.

 

[Danyea11e]

They sure can, just like anyone who writes. I've written gay male stories (I'm female), lesbian stories (I'm not lesbian nor had any lesbian encounters), mythical beast stories (that's something that can explain its' self), done stories about hardcore BDSM (not my thing), not only that a good portion of what I write is done from the male perspective (refer back to the not male comment). Just because you don't have experience with something doesn't mean you can't write about it. Sometimes it might take a bit of looking things up to make sure that you get them right and read a bit about the mechanics of some things to ensure that the reaction and how its' done is within the realm of the correct there is no reason a virgin can't write a good story.

 

[dondd]

oh yes, virgins can certainly write good sex scenes, in my time I have role played with a number of virgins and they can spin a very believable sex scene.

A few things that give them away, (although literary license is always in the authors favor) are that guys think they can keep going no matter how many times they orgasm. Also sex is a messy business usually and most virgins dont realize that, I can tell and like when an author mentions cleaning up, doesnt have to be a big deal , but makes me feel better. just my .02.

Plus, that first time, they usually cum very quickly.

 

[CyranoJ]

[Goddammit. Please don't necro threads from eleven fucking years ago. I actually wrote a reply to this.]

 

[EquinoxRising]

Holy necromancer, Batman!

Actually, dondd has been preaching voodoo all over Lit.