Can a Dom & a Domme play together?

[Lancecastor]

Ever hear tell of a Dom and a Domme playing together?

What do they do?

 

[FungiUg]

Well, gee, what DO a man and woman do when they play together?

Assuming that a Dom and Domme are both solely into power exchange, I would say "checkers" would be a good choice. But I like to think that most Doms and Dommes aren't as two-dimensional as that, so that opens up the possibilities.

My lover/partner is a dominant woman, and I'm a dominant man. What we do together, I leave to your imagination. (Or as an exercise to the reader.)

 

[Scarlett_t2]

Ever hear tell of a Dom and a Domme playing together?

What do they do?

I have not heard of it but the thought is quite intriguing...wonder how long it would take me to get him tied down?
Scarlett

 

[Phoenix Stone]

Ever hear tell of a Dom and a Domme playing together?

What do they do?

Uh... game called Bait the Sub?

 

[FungiUg]

Re: Re: Can a Dom & a Domme play together?

Uh... game called Bait the Sub?

Funny you should mention that!

 

[SweetDommes]

Ever hear tell of a Dom and a Domme playing together?

What do they do?

Well, we aren't a M/F couple, but we are both dominant ... and usually what we do involves some wrestling to decide to gets to be in charge for the next 5 seconds ... in otherwords, we have an agreement to switch ... I also know of some couples where the Dominants have their submissives, but one is also submissive to their Partner (so only one is a switch). This really isn't all that uncommon an occurrance, it just seems to be uncommon for long-term (which Holly and I definately are). It also shouldn't take too much of an imagination to think up what Dom/mes do when they play with each other instead of a sub - but maybe that's just my opinion

 

[FungiUg]

Re: Re: Can a Dom & a Domme play together?

Well, we aren't a M/F couple, but we are both dominant ... and usually what we do involves some wrestling to decide to gets to be in charge for the next 5 seconds ... in otherwords, we have an agreement to switch

I wondered if you would spot this thread!

My own partner and I don't power exchange with each other at all. We treat each other as equals in all aspects. And then we share the occasional poor unfortunate submissive.

 

[SweetDommes]

Re: Re: Re: Can a Dom & a Domme play together?

I wondered if you would spot this thread!

My own partner and I don't power exchange with each other at all. We treat each other as equals in all aspects. And then we share the occasional poor unfortunate submissive.

but of course ... LOL

We don't always do the power exchange, but the wrestling around & giggling is fun (and really annoyed the neighbors when we still lived in an apartment )

 

[Netzach]

I've played with Dommes and Doms and their various and sundry pets and toys.

It's not always an issue of conflict.

Although usually someone leads, someone facilitates and someone else endures, that's just the usual dynamics of 3 ways or 4 ways I've been in.

Most of the people I've worked with have been switches who deferred to me or co-Tops with whom I have no serious sexual interest, it's a playful kind of play.

Often a Dom will pull me in when there's a specific skill I have that he might not, and I have no problem demonstrating.

 

[heckle]

Are you meaning playing with each other or "teaming up" on a bottom/sub? I know a paticular ProDom/ProDomme couple. When I have seen them play together, they normally share a bottom/submissive.

 

[A Desert Rose]

Ever hear tell of a Dom and a Domme playing together?

What do they do?

Okay everybody... I've known Lance for a long time.

This is a trick question.

 

[Lancecastor]

Real question, inspired by real life events.

 

[A Desert Rose]

Real question, inspired by real life events.

Stop it... you're bursting my bubble.

 

[Lancecastor]

Stop it... you're bursting my bubble.

Actually, that sounds like a fun evening.

 

[A Desert Rose]

Actually, that sounds like a fun evening.

Indeed, it does.

And I've always had a soft spot in my heart for men who look like the one in your AV. ;-)

On topic... I have no opinion on Dom's and Domme's playing together.



Back to golf on tv for me ...

 

[ownedsubgal]

i don't see two natural Dominants (meaning Dominant in general life and not just sexually) having any interest in each other physically or romantically. i asked my Master once if he would ever use a female Dominant and he was disgusted by the very idea of it.

 

[Shadowsdream]

I know several Dominant couples in the real world. In all cases they brought in submissives or slaves to play with and occassionally even shared their toys.

In the beginning these relationship appeared to work romantically and they co existed quite well while Dominating their own submissives or slaves.

In the majority of the relationships Dom to Domme that I have watched develope there has always been one alpha Dom/me that the submissives or slaves seem to take more seriously.

Most of the relationships I have personal knowledge of have not been able to sustain the dynamics and either one of the Dom/mes has become switch or submissive to the other or the relationship has desolved.

It seems to be a big fantasy for many slaves to be in a relationship with two Dominants though.

 

[Queen Bee]

i don't see two natural Dominants (meaning Dominant in general life and not just sexually) having any interest in each other physically or romantically. i asked my Master once if he would ever use a female Dominant and he was disgusted by the very idea of it.

What's your Master's general feeling about female Dominants? Is he disgusted by their existance, or are they just not on his sexual radar?

The consort and I are both sexually dominant with other women. We've tried topping a woman together, but neither of us enjoyed it; it was a bit of a pissing contest (not literally). For a while we shared a female submissive, but now we keep our outside interests separate.

In the non-sexual arena, he's an Alpha male and I like to think of myself as pleasantly assertive -- I can be dominant when required. This works perfectly well, with no power struggles. Here's a recent artlicle I liked about hetero, two-dominant relationships.
Who says you have to be a submissive? It's not a BDSM site; more like "romantic" domestic discipline.

 

[D's mariposa]

Yes they can. I can think of two seperate ways to do so. Well one and a half, really. Hell, I'll just give examples and y'all can do the maths!

Scene one. I have a Dom friend who LURVES Shibari. I have a Domme friend who thinks it's a rather lovely thing to do but doesn't really know how. He demonstrates on her body, then lets her practice on him. Many happy,and pretty orgasms have ensued. But is either one really subbing to the other? Hardly.

Scene two. We have a couple where she is sub in the bedroom, but they have an equality thing going on outside. Sometimes when she gets all toppy, he lets her top him the bedroom. She identifies as a Domme also, even though they switch sometimes. Even better is when they find a subbie to please them both.

 

[SweetDommes]

i don't see two natural Dominants (meaning Dominant in general life and not just sexually) having any interest in each other physically or romantically. i asked my Master once if he would ever use a female Dominant and he was disgusted by the very idea of it.

Well, since two couples have already posted, where both are Dominant, I'm kind of surprised that you say this. Speaking only for ourselves, Holly and I are equals to each other (most of the time) and we are completely in love with each other - granted, we were a couple before we got into the D/s, but still. We are quite interested in each other physically and romantically - and yet *gasp* we are both Dominant, and not just in the bedroom.

 

[ownedsubgal]

What's your Master's general feeling about female Dominants? Is he disgusted by their existance, or are they just not on his sexual radar?

wouldn't say he's disgusted by their existence (i don't think), more that he believes they are going against the natural order of things and i would say he does not believe there is such a thing as a true female Dominant.

 

[SweetDommes]

wouldn't say he's disgusted by their existence (i don't think), more that he believes they are going against the natural order of things and i would say he does not believe there is such a thing as a true female Dominant.

All I have to say is that this is the 21st century, not the 12th ...

 

[Queen Bee]

wouldn't say he's disgusted by their existence (i don't think), more that he believes they are going against the natural order of things and i would say he does not believe there is such a thing as a true female Dominant.

See, I would think that for a man who felt that way, there would be some desire to break down what he sees as a poser. But he's above all that, eh?

 

[ownedsubgal]

All I have to say is that this is the 21st century, not the 12th ...

that's why my own made isn't quite made up on the matter. perhaps humankind has evolved to where there is now a place for natural born female Dominants...who knows?

 

[ownedsubgal]

See, I would think that for a man who felt that way, there would be some desire to break down what he sees as a poser. But he's above all that, eh?

someone with that attitude (a female, acting dominant, believing she is dominant, etc.) would be a complete and utter turn-off to him. not his type. my Master's strange in that he only has sexual interests in those who turn him on.