Cab anyone explain the difference between CNC and Free use

[Kabirsawher]

Heyy, good day to all

I was hoping someone would explain me the difference between CNC and Free use

 

[StockingGirlJ]

Force is a main difference. Another is being forced to do anything, not just sexual things. Free use just means you are available, anytime, anywhere. Force may be involved or not. And it's always, always, always about sex. At least that's what I've read.

 

[UtilityCurve]

I've always thought of it as casual (ho-hum, I may as well come) versus urgent (OMG, I NEED to come, whether she's already inclined or not). For the recipient, it is "you're just an appliance, even if an incredibly sexy one" versus "this is one of those times when I just need you to shut up and let me fuck you [and if YOU don't come, fine]."

 

[policywank]

CNC means consensual non-consent. It is any activity wherein one partner "forces" themselves on the other but according to parameters (and therefore limitations) that were agreed to in advance. I put "forces' in quotes because its is more like BDSM role play and the advance consent by definition means the partner isn't truly being forced against their will. Plus there is often a safe word that can be used if things get out of hand. This is a legitimate activity that people engage I as part of grown-up BDSM activity.

Free use is the idea that a person (usually a woman) will just make herself available to engage in any sex act that she is asked to do by anybody. Maybe some people like to role play this, but near as I can tell it is a ridiculous idea dreamed up by incels that wish they could control or subjugate women. No rationale woman would agree to completely forfeit her free will to the whim of strangers and degenerates. And I say that as someone who does enjoy engaging in group activities where I seek to be very receptive to all comers - but I choose who can participate and still reserve the right to say no.

 

[MamaBitte]

(...) No rationale woman would agree to completely forfeit her free will to the whim of strangers and degenerates. And I say that as someone who does enjoy engaging in group activities where I seek to be very receptive to all comers - but I choose who can participate and still reserve the right to say no.

I understand your point of view, but couldn't it also mean “free use” for a limited group for a limited period of time? For example, for a special party (celebration)? I just don't know, that's why I'm asking.

 

[Kabirsawher]

I understand your point of view, but couldn't it also mean “free use” for a limited group for a limited period of time? For example, for a special party (celebration)? I just don't know, that's why I'm asking.

I totally agree on this
I mean in both of the scenario I would say that consent is the common thing in both of them, pretty much the starting of the whole thing
So I mean if the consent is there, free use is just like any other sexual act

 

[StockingGirlJ]

CNC means consensual non-consent. It is any activity wherein one partner "forces" themselves on the other but according to parameters (and therefore limitations) that were agreed to in advance. I put "forces' in quotes because its is more like BDSM role play and the advance consent by definition means the partner isn't truly being forced against their will. Plus there is often a safe word that can be used if things get out of hand. This is a legitimate activity that people engage I as part of grown-up BDSM activity.

Free use is the idea that a person (usually a woman) will just make herself available to engage in any sex act that she is asked to do by anybody. Maybe some people like to role play this, but near as I can tell it is a ridiculous idea dreamed up by incels that wish they could control or subjugate women. No rationale woman would agree to completely forfeit her free will to the whim of strangers and degenerates. And I say that as someone who does enjoy engaging in group activities where I seek to be very receptive to all comers - but I choose who can participate and still reserve the right to say no.

"Free use does not mean making "herself available to engage in any sex act that she is asked to do by anybody." It's genwrally considered to be an agreement between two consenting adults, as is CNC. Btw, it could be a man who consents to being used freely. I know, I know, the stereotype is that all men are up for that!

It means that if I'm doing laundry and in the middle of folding a short and my husband tells me to drop to my knees and suck his cock, I drop to my knees and suck his cock. It means that if he calls me on the phone while I'm out shopping and says "I put a set of lingerie, heels and a butt plug under the bed, put them on and be ass up on the garage floor when I get home in an hour," I'm dressed, plugged and ass up on the garage floor in an hour. One can push it as far one likes.

Of course lines get blurry and the activities that people will consent to engage in are, for all practical purposes infinite. So trying to fit peoples' behaviors into tight little boxes, although tempting, is almost always an exercise in futility, at least that's my experience, especially if you're behavior is even somewhat big because I'm quite tight.