butt plug complicating anal?

[rosebud5446]

I have had anal sex in the past with the same guy I have now. We recently started getting into it again. However, my ass has a hard time opening up after a while now. I don't know if it's because we are using a butt plug for a while now before he tries insertion and by then... I don't know I'm just tired of things in my ass so it's harder for me to relax. I feel as relaxed as possible, but it just hasn't been working. Mabye if we skipped the buttplug or used it for alot less time, it would work better? Any thoughts appreciated

 

[SweetErika]

You could always try not using the plug to see if that works better. We find toys beforehand to help, but maybe you're the opposite. The only way to find out is to give it a try a few times. No one knows your ass better than you.

 

[Ezzy]

Other things that you could do, would be to cut down on the time there is nothing in your ass, and go straight from the plug to your BF.

You could also stage the plugs, expanding your ass further, would allow a greater time between plug and BF insertion.

Or just leave the plug out of the play for a while and use plenty of lube and lubed anal play before going right to BF insertion.

 

[jva399]

Anal sex can be quite enjoyable !

Here is what wife & I have done.... I generally start by having her roll onto her stomach witha pillow under her hips raising her ass in the air ( I usually have her near the edge of the bed & I am sitting on a chair.) I lube up my finger first & insert it a little ways in her ass swirling motion to open her up a little I begin to push a whole buncha lube into her ass & I mean lots. (I use astroglide) I keep working my fingers deep into her ass and usually can get 2-3 fingers in & out easily. She starts to squirm at this point...then i go for the dildo/s I start with small & the key word is ---- GO _ S_L_O_W_ She likes her pussy passed over with fingers adding to her arousal... I have managed her to take a large capacity in the ass.. shee can take her favorite dildo (12" long wa ball on the end & handle like a nitestick) all the way in with no problem...she also likes her ass packed full with other things like anal beads & rope. Yes- ROPE ! let me know if u woul like to hear how i do that !

 

[LastoftheGentlemen]

A small practical note on the previous message

One thing to watch:

If there has been anal play involving fingers, make sure these are not the same fingers doing the pussy stroking, unless there has been cleaning first. You don't want to have transfer from ass to pussy - lots of potential for infection there.

 

[Mirandy]

I don't know if it's because we are using a butt plug for a while now before he tries insertion and by then... I don't know I'm just tired of things in my ass so it's harder for me to relax. I feel as relaxed as possible, but it just hasn't been working. Mabye if we skipped the buttplug or used it for alot less time, it would work better? Any thoughts appreciated

I can sympathize, Rosebud. Sometimes I also have what seems like an involuntary 'time limit'... it can be going fine and feeling great then suddenly -- WHAM! -- that's it and I don't want any more. We've had some great sessions that lasted hours where he first opens me slowly by using various things, but on other days, depending on my level of desire and relaxation, we've have gone straight to insertion of his penis without even having used so much as a finger first.

If you want or need a little stretching beforehand, you can always try something small that just teases you and leaves you wanting something more (love the graduated jelly beads for this) ... then just make the 'more' his penis. If insertion is still a problem, stop and use something a bit larger for a few minutes then try again. I think the only way to know for sure in your situation is to try without the plug as see how that goes.

Since you've had anal in the past, you probably know the best position for yourself and just the thing that usually makes the initial insertion easier, correct? Of course it's different for everyone, but one thing that helps me is direct clitoral stimulation right at *that* very moment. Also if he rolls his hips, kind of corkscrewing into me instead of attempting to go right in. A good position for me during those times when I really want it but am having a difficult time taking it is one of total relaxation -- lying flat on my stomach. He either stradles my legs or kneels between them depending on whether my thighs are open or closed. Another is the missionary position, pillows tucked under my hips and my legs flat out of the bed -- at least until he's in, then you can bend your knees, lock your legs behind his back or whatever. One great thing about the missionary position for me is the hands-free clitoral stimulation and closeness.

I know how frustrating this can be. If it's not asking too much. let everyone know if your problem gets solved. Good luck.