burned out

cymbidia

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I think i'm getting kinda burned out on Lit and need a little break for a while.

I'll keep looking in on the threads that really matter to me, the BDSM thread and the Author's hangout stuff, for example, but i need to take a pass on the GB for a while, i think. This place has begun to wear me out and piss me off and make me frown. It's been less fun, recently, than it ought to be. I've begun doing and saying stuff here that i don't like - in myself or others. I don't need to go there in my online time, do i?

Since i'm well-known as someone who tells other people what to do at the drop of a hat, offering advice asked for or not, i've asked myself what i'd tell someone else who was feeling like this. Notwithstanding the fact that maybe my advice just plain sucks and no one has bothered to let me know, i know i'd tell someone in my position that it might be time for a Lit break.

So it is for/with me. Maybe i'll be less inclined to be bossy and obnoxious when i return, after i get some perspective and a breath of non-slipstream air, hmmm?

Adios,
b.
 
A little break is great every now and then, helps perspective and all that. Hope to see you back soon and enjoy your time!!!
 
alright, no cracking on my grammar and spelling!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

i'll miss you tho cym...

:(
 
Hey, I LIKE bossy! Means I'm not the only one then! Don't stay away too long, please.
 
cymbidia said:

Notwithstanding the fact that maybe my advice just plain sucks and no one has bothered to let me know, i know i'd tell someone in my position that it might be time for a Lit break.

So it is for/with me. Maybe i'll be less inclined to be bossy and obnoxious when i return, after i get some perspective and a breath of non-slipstream air, hmmm?

Adios,
b.

Calling you bossy and obnoxious is the defense mechanism to distract from the fact that your advice is sound and a breath of fresh air in the midst of the usual craziness.

I respect your opinions and even more so since it's obvious you practice what you preach.

Come back to us soon.
 
Cym, enjoy your breather from Lit.

I'll catch ya on the How To's til you feel like joining us here at the GB again.
 
Time out

You know best what's necessary for your own psyche, cym, but don't stay away too long. We lose too many good people. So take care and hurry back!:)
 
Re: Re: burned out

morninggirl5 said:


Calling you bossy and obnoxious is the defense mechanism to distract from the fact that your advice is sound and a breath of fresh air in the midst of the usual craziness.

I respect your opinions and even more so since it's obvious you practice what you preach.

Come back to us soon.

ditto that. There was a time when I posted 15-20 times a day, now it is arround 5 at the highest. But you know, I don't ever remember you giving bad advice. You may not realize how many of us read your posts because they are wise, and ussally right on.
 
Damn.

Just when I was getting to know all of you, there comes an anti cymbidia uprising. A crying ass shame. Not sure of the real motivation behind the snide remarks, but they came. And they stung my pet. Yeah, we could hang around, providing fodder for more attacks.

NOPE!!

Perhaps someday, when people have quit flaming, we'll return.

Ah well, just gives me more time online with my darlin'

So I now return control of Literotica back to you. ~g~ Like we ever had it!!

Be well and play safe,
MS.
 
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Unregistered said:


ditto that. There was a time when I posted 15-20 times a day, now it is arround 5 at the highest. But you know, I don't ever remember you giving bad advice. You may not realize how many of us read your posts because they are wise, and ussally right on.

I signed in, recieved PMs and sent them why did this thing degister me. Iam Samuari.
 
ok, what just happened here? Who bashed cym?

*nevermind*

Just promise you won't disappear forever, you and Creihdne (ha, I spelled that from memory) both.



:(
 
The supposed "basher" was me+

and I never meant the words to "bash". AND I never imagined that cym would be so thin skinned as to sic her Master on me and then leave the board.

This is absolutely ridiculous. My words were not meant to flame or bash anyone. I said SEVERAL times that I like cym. Jesus people, I'm annoying, bitchy, flirt too much sometimes... DCL told me to pick up the phone to call someone when my posting got excessive.

EVERY ONE of us has some things that other people don't like. It does not mean you throw the baby out with the bathwater.

Cym, if you feel you must leave the board then that's what you must do. I won't apologize for what I said because that would imply I meant them in a different manner in which they were spoken.

I will say that I'll miss your presence on the board.
 
Someone was a bitch in all this......to cause it I mean to say.
I hope cymb comes back soon.
 
everyone should take a break every so often from lit ... people often post im "board" threads ... its just better to stay away from here when you feel like that :)


i dont think people are bossy when they give advice ... bossy people are ones that expect people to follow there advice no matter what ... i dont think cym is ever like that she just says what she believes and gives her opinion


anyway come back soon and have a nice break :)
 
Re: The supposed "basher" was me+

TN_Vixen said:
and I never meant the words to "bash". AND I never imagined that cym would be so thin skinned as to sic her Master on me and then leave the board.


You don't know that she was thin skinned enough to sic her Master on you. He may have come to her defense on his own, friends do that. Especially friends that love you. Cym doesn't strike me as a woman who needs anyone else to fight her battles for her.

I'd vote for cutting her a little slack on this one. And you, too, TN_Vixen. I believe you never meant to bash Cym. Her name came to your mind first. It could have just as easily been mine. Although, I may have also reacted by being hurt if it had been. But you've said you didn't mean it to bash her, so I take you at your word. Cym also deserves to be cut some slack. We don't know what may be going on in her personal life. Your thread may have just been the final straw, not the main reason for her unhappiness here at the moment. Don't we all go through periods of time where just one more thing will push us over the edge? I think that may be what happened here. The board has been rubbing Cym wrong lately, and she just happened to decide to take a break after that one final straw was added. It isn't the end of the world, she said all she was doing was taking her own advice and going for a break. Hopefully, it will be a quick one. :)
 
Re: The supposed "basher" was me+

TN_Vixen said:
and I never meant the words to "bash". AND I never imagined that cym would be so thin skinned as to sic her Master on me and then leave the board.

This is absolutely ridiculous. My words were not meant to flame or bash anyone. I said SEVERAL times that I like cym. Jesus people, I'm annoying, bitchy, flirt too much sometimes... DCL told me to pick up the phone to call someone when my posting got excessive.

EVERY ONE of us has some things that other people don't like. It does not mean you throw the baby out with the bathwater.

Cym, if you feel you must leave the board then that's what you must do. I won't apologize for what I said because that would imply I meant them in a different manner in which they were spoken.

I will say that I'll miss your presence on the board.
TNVixen, hon? I don’t know you well enough (read “at all”) nor are you important enough in my life at any level to incite in me such anguish as to make me leave Lit. I think we should get that one right out in front, okay? Please don’t feel that your words, petty as i feel you were in picking me out of the thundering herds to promote as “bossy”, caused me to run crying from my computer.

Just to be clear:
For me, the decision to take a bit of time off was a process i’d already pretty well completed and your little complaining thread, TNVixen dear, was only and simply the proverbial straw.

I'd already noticed that many of my posts in the recent couple of weeks contained far more of an unpleasant edge than i wanted them to have. I caught myself becoming annoyed in the last week or so over posts and toward people that *i know* wouldn't have annoyed me even a few weeks ago. And most shamefully, i found myself becoming embroiled in distasteful (to me) threads and conversations while simultaneously feeling uncharacteristically hostile to the others involved.

Such a departure from my normal habit of simply passing by that which i don’t like in favor of that which i knew i would find fun and interesting set alarm bells to ringing inside my brain. I've been online long time; i know the signs of my becoming too emotional, in a detrimental manner, on/to the people around me in a place.

A couple nights ago, i got as close as anyone here will ever see me come to flaming someone. I had no right to say what i said to him and was totally and thoroughly *appalled* at my conduct. I stayed pretty much away from the BB for the next two days, posting only very lightly. Then you, dear TNVixen, posted your little “I’m mad and I don’t care what I say or who I say it about” thread and, based on my somewhat incredulous and pissed off reaction to your poke (Who are you, anyway TNVixen, dear? We’ve never talked, never posted together. I don’t even know you. Why pick me out of all the very bossy here to name? No class, girl, no class at all.), i decided that i was WAY lopsidedly emotional about GB matters.

For now, therefore, i need a time out.
I don't intend to stay away for long, a week, two at the outside. I need a reality break though, and need to find a way back to my calm and my joy in being a part of this place. I dislike feeling so tied up in knots. I dislike being/feeling so reactionary. I need to remember who i am and why i come here: for the fun and companionship. I need to remember that one need only ignore those they don’t like and, in an online situation, those people cease to have affect on one’s life.

One additional thing, dear TNVixen? I did not “sic” my Master on you. He posts what he wants to post and goes where he wants to and does what he wants to do. He’s not really a “sic-able” person. Additionally, even if he were “sic-able”, i don’t think i need anyone to fight my verbal battles for me. I’m pretty confident of myself in the verbal arena and need no one else to use his or her words to protect me.

Finally, i have to agree with you. Based on the very tiny bit of your postings that i’ve seen, you are annoying and bitchy. (We've never tended to post in the same threads, or on the same topics, have we? I still have to wonder where and when and how you came by such intimate knowledge of me as to hold me up as the example of bossiness on this whole Board? Do you read all the threads that are posted here? MY you have a lot of free time, if so!) Self-knowledge is a good thing, isn’t it? But i like you, please know that, TNVixen dear, just as much as you like me. And in the end, it’s okay to say anything about anyone as long as you append the fact that you like him or her, right? So, and i’m certain this is as relieving to you as it is to me, all is just peachy between us now.

I thank the many of you who have sent me PM’s and email on this matter. It’s better to take a break when one is feeling burned out, though, than to stay and make a good place and good people think you ought to go take a break. The calm warmth of your messages to me made me smile. See you in a couple weeks.
Be well,
b.

Addendum: ~smiling at Chey~ You're a mindreader, darlin'!
See you in a couple weeks.
b.
 
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I refuse to continue

this discussion since it has degenerated into something very ugly.

I know what I meant, and I feel that many other people here do too (thank you for the emails and PM's on this.. it is nice to know that some of you didn't misinterpret my meaning).

Cym, I'm glad to know that you feel I'm bitchy and annoying when you appear to know next to nothing about me, or even acknowledge the times I've made reference to liking you or agreeing with your position on things. *shrug* That's how it goes sometimes. You can't please everyone and I don't take that personally.

I never once used "dear", "hon" or other condescending remarks in my references to you or about you. Who lacks class?

I will choose to not explain myself any further for it seems that it doesn't matter at all what I do say, it will be interpreted as me attacking cymbidia.
 
Re: Re: The supposed "basher" was me+

Cheyenne said:


You don't know that she was thin skinned enough to sic her Master on you. He may have come to her defense on his own, friends do that. Especially friends that love you. Cym doesn't strike me as a woman who needs anyone else to fight her battles for her.

I'd vote for cutting her a little slack on this one. And you, too, TN_Vixen. I believe you never meant to bash Cym. Her name came to your mind first. It could have just as easily been mine. Although, I may have also reacted by being hurt if it had been. But you've said you didn't mean it to bash her, so I take you at your word. Cym also deserves to be cut some slack. We don't know what may be going on in her personal life. Your thread may have just been the final straw, not the main reason for her unhappiness here at the moment. Don't we all go through periods of time where just one more thing will push us over the edge? I think that may be what happened here. The board has been rubbing Cym wrong lately, and she just happened to decide to take a break after that one final straw was added. It isn't the end of the world, she said all she was doing was taking her own advice and going for a break. Hopefully, it will be a quick one. :)



Chey, thank you for your post. It would've been nice to believe that Cym could see what I meant as well but it is apparent that she doesn't considering her lengthy post above.

Oh well.
 
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